Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

[Stichintime]

I thought it was because the Irish were depicted as 'thick' and only the thick would have another baby that quick.

[EscapeDragon]

I haven't but I used to work with someone who sang in a church choir, and she said she was once at a wedding where the bride walked out. Consternation all round, especially when she handed her bouquet to her chief bridesmaid and told her she was the one who should be marrying him, since she was the one who had slept with him the night before.

[Wexone]

@JeanneDoe in what way is it offensive? I am Irish and its often quiet said, one of my best friends has "Irish Twins" and she calls them that herself and is not offended at all nor are the grown up siblings I know that are what we call "Irish twins".

[Jumpingintosummer]

It can’t think of anything worse. A friend from uni was marrying a girl he met at work. He was jilted by text the night before his wedding. Poor sod was sat with his parents and brother having a few drinks as staying with them the night before and she text to say she had left that day, posted her keys through the letter box. Turns out she had moved in with a fella 400miles away from the London office. She had applied for a transfer, taken money out the account etc pretending to be for wedding things and been using it to move.

[Lollyneenah]

Not a jolting but my friend called me right after his wedding to tell me he had married *Claire by eloping. She had cheated on him and she convinced him that marriage would stop her having any more affairs.
I told him that it was a very fucking stupid decision and she cheated on him again within 2 years.

[DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult]

I was at a wedding 20+ years ago where the bride walked out as soon as the meal was done.

Turns out she had been unhappy for ages, thought she would be able to go through with it as the couple had been together almost a decade, after the register was signed she knew she made a huge mistake and left after a couple of hours.

The marriage was annulled shortly afterwards and she was married about a year later to someone she had only met 6 months before, they are still together to this day.

I don't know what because of the poor husband, I hope he's doing well.

[TorchesTorches]

I was invited as a 'plus 1' by a friend to a wedding of someone I had known for years. She organised a wedding on another continent. My friend and decided to make a bit of a holiday around it, so took 2 weeks off work etc.

The day after we had paid for our tickets, abd 6 weeks before the wedding, the bride to be cancelled, giving no reason. Lots of very disgruntled people (we just went ahead with our holiday as planned, but can understand the upset caused as tickets were v expensive. ) A month later, bride turns up at a party with her new boyfriend....but STILL is cross people were generally unsympathetic about her cancelled wedding...and didn't understand why some people gave her a bit of a hard time. (Many years later, she is married to, and still with, the 'new boyfriend ' so it was clearly the right choice!)

[osbertthesyrianhamster]

@Jumpingintosummer

It can’t think of anything worse. A friend from uni was marrying a girl he met at work. He was jilted by text the night before his wedding. Poor sod was sat with his parents and brother having a few drinks as staying with them the night before and she text to say she had left that day, posted her keys through the letter box. Turns out she had moved in with a fella 400miles away from the London office. She had applied for a transfer, taken money out the account etc pretending to be for wedding things and been using it to move.

Better than going through with it. I worked with a bloke who got married, big wedding, we all went. They went on honeymoon and then he had to work away for 6 weeks (common in the industry). She met another man and left. They had to get a divorce.

[CharityDingle]

I know a couple, long separated now but he said to others a while afterwards that he knew on the day that he didn't want to get married.

It was very sad, tbh. It would have been better not to have gone through with the wedding but that is easy to say, I know.

[CharityDingle]

I should add in that case, the couple had been together for years. Very sad.

[Tubs11]

Not jilted but destination wedding where only the guests showed up. We did know a couple of weeks before the couple weren't coming and it was one hell of a group holiday.

[Anne8850]

[quote Wexone]@JeanneDoe in what way is it offensive? I am Irish and its often quiet said, one of my best friends has "Irish Twins" and she calls them that herself and is not offended at all nor are the grown up siblings I know that are what we call "Irish twins".[/quote]
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I'm Irish, have lived in Dublin my whole life, my siblings are "Irish twins" are are called that. It's used here quite often and I've never heard of anyone taking offence.

[Enko]

My Cousins live-in partner of 10 years called their wedding off on the Monday before the Saturday they were due to get married. She moved out their 2 boys stayed with my cousin. She found someone new and married him within 2 years. Simply said as they got closer to the date she realised this was not the life she wanted for herself.

In a way, you got to admire her for realising it and not just going through with it for a quick divorce later on. However, at the time it was a huge shock for many of us and my cousin was brokenhearted for a long time after. It's 25 years ago (as happened shortly after DH and I married) and he recently celebrated his 2nd anniversary with the woman he has been with for the last 5. I have yet to meet her (we live in different countries) but my family all like her and say he seems happy and settled. His x is still with the man she married 2 years later and they have had 2 children together.

[Tubs11]

Oh and my sister attending the wedding of a couple where they had an inkling the groom was gay. Turns out he was and he left his wife 6 weeks later to move in with his now husband. Was a very sad time for everyone.

[Covidworries]

A friend was having second thoughts before wedding. no one was sure if they would turn up on day but they did. A different wedding - the following day news broke of one of the couple had been having an affair so they broke up and didn't go on honeymoon.

[Enko]

I will just add that it was made worse by the fact that cousin is a bit of a jokester so when he called around his 7 aunts and uncles not one of them believe him at first they thought he was just having a joke on them.

Must have been horrid for him

[SunshineCake]

I worked for someone who met a lady on his stag do the day before the wedding. They are still together but I don't remember if he married his fiancée first. He had a famous cousin so I'm surprised it never came out.

[Notjustanymum]

Went to a wedding where the bride seemed really upset. Turns out she met someone while out on her hen do and fell head over heels in love with him at first sight, and he with her.
She separated from her husband as soon as they got back off honeymoon, divorced him and got hitched to the other man and they are still together, over 40 years later!
The divorced husband also moved on and has been happily married for 35+ years now. I guess the first marriage just wasn’t to be...

[WindyPudding]

My cousin got married, all seemed lovely, then as soon as they got back from the honeymoon his wife moved out and they split up. No one else involved as far as I know. I guess she was having doubts but couldn't bear to cancel the wedding.

Exactly this happened to a male friend - wonder if it's the same person!

The wedding was a big do with loads of people travelling quite a long way, and I thought maybe she just couldn't face calling it off. She was a very odd person though.

[Muchasgracias]

@SchemeOf10

My cousin planned her wedding and had everything booked. Had family flying in from all over. Sent out her invites. Her parents paid 50%, she paid 25% and her husband to be was supposed to pay 25%. It all went into their savings account. He was short on his but was due a work bonus so she just knew his whole amount would come in one go, just before final payments were due. She had bought all personalised favours and cheese boards engraved with names etc.

One day she showed him the evening menu and asked him to make his final choices. He did, no problem. He then kissed her goodbye and went to work and never came home. He text her saying he didnt want to go ahead as she was too controlling and had pushed him into it all and she has never seen or spoke to him since. They still live in the same county. His mum collected all his things from their house. He did not pay a penny towards the wedding so her and her parents ended up paying for it all. When packing up his things she also found his families stack of invitations (he had never posted them). She has never even had a reason why. He moved on within 2 months and is still with the girl now, 4ish years later.

She lost a lot of respect though as she had a limited guest list (due to the very expensive venue she chose) but had been rather ruthless and offended quite a few of our family members. Like inviting me (her cousin) and my husband and my mum (her aunt) but not my brother (also her cousin). She did this to a lot of families so it was nothing personal. She had her sister as bridesmaid but not her niece. Because she didnt want tween bridesmaids. But she had her other niece who was a toddler. It was all about the aesthetics of the day (which is fine, its her day). But she burnt a lot of bridges. She had been quite insistent people book their accommodation early. Sending lists of suitable places and things and constantly asking if you had booked yet. And it was a midweek wedding so lots of people had decided to make a few days of it and booked time off work. Also afterwards over 50% of the people had booked hotels and cottages for the week of the wedding. After sending out her initial "wedding wont be going ahead" message she never spoke of the bookings again. Never asked if people had managed to get refunds or showed that she cared people were now left short. I dont believe she paid her parents back either.

That’s worthy of a bridezilla thread and we’d probably all be telling the groom to run!!

[minniemomo]

I've organised 100's and never had one cancelled on the day but I've had them called off with 2-3 weeks to go after the banns have been read (and they argued for a refund of the banns fee) also sadly had one cancelled 6 days prior due to the grooms grandmother dying, they rearranged for 6 weeks later

[LordEmsworth]

"Irish twins" is offensive because it stems from the belief that Irish Catholics in the 19th century were poor, uneducated, feckless, and had no self-control. Hence they procreated quickly and had children they couldn't afford. Hence the Great Famine, Irish people died of hunger because they couldn't stop shagging like rabbits, it was all their own fault.

So yeah, pretty offensive. The fact that a lot of people use it without realising where it comes from, does not make it less offensive.

[AliceMcK]

Not jilted. But I met a couple through friends. The wife was madly in love with her work mate, the husband, but she left it until the night of his stag do to tell him how she felt. He went through with the wedding but walked out 9 days later to be with his work mate. All very happily ever after for them.

[ForeverbyJudyBlume]

A male friend was dumped just before his wedding. The honeymoon was already booked and paid for, so he went alone :(

[Mammymar]

Not jilted as such. Wedding went ahead but bride was having an affair with grooms best friend. When the first dance was played she was in the toilet with best mate. Divorced after three months.