Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

[Bjarnum]

I know of 2 - one where my friend was stood up at the altar (and pregnant). He left the country. And the other where the bride announced there was to be no sex on the honeymoon so they could get an annulment!

[Footloosefancyfree]

I only know one who got married and within 3 months had split up. She wanted to cancel before hand but wanted all the attention. Was strange as they were together 7 years and had a dd who the woman then abandoned and doesn't see her. Thankfully her dad picked up the pieces.

[RoseMalone]

I don't personally know anyone, but when I was being driven to my wedding in a hired wedding car, the driver said that he once drove a woman to her wedding who seemed like she had the weight of the world on her shoulders and she told him to turn round as she wanted to call it off. Her family were really angry with her but she seemed very relieved.

[murbblurb]

Anyone else remember the Princess Diana story that she wasn't at all sure, but her sisters told her ' too late, your picture is on the tea towels'. A lot of heartbreak could have been avoided if those tea towels hadn't been printed...

[KeflavikAirport]

And Charlene of Monaco who tried to leave the country before her wedding and had tears pouring down her face on the day itself.

[DaphneHastings]

not the same but i went to a wedding where, the morning of the wedding, the chief bridesmaid (brides SIL) saw a message on her husbands phone and found out he was cheating. She did not come to the wedding and neither did their pageboy son. Her husband (brother of the bride) had to go and chose to tell everyone what had happened when they asked where his wife was. they split up. it was all everyone could talk about all day and over shadowed significantly. still feel bad for the bride. shes friends with her brother still though.

also been to a wedding where it came out afterwards the wife had found out the night before the wedding that he had been cheating on her. the OW messaged her and told her. But she chose to stay and make it work. You wouldnt have been able to tell any of this had gone on, on the wedding day. And theyre still together 10+ years later.

[Potteringshed]

I know of one which ended the night before when the groom found out the bride had been cheating on him. It was all very weird as they didn't manage to let everyone know it was off in time and some people did show up at the venue.

Conversely, I went to another wedding where the groom apparently wanted to cancel it last minute but was persuaded by the best man that that would be an awful thing to do and he had to go through with it. Apparently the relationship had been rocky for a bit and he had partly proposed to try and fix it (an awful idea!). So he turned up and drank so much at the reception he ended up passed out in a pool of his own vomit while the bride cried outside. Shockingly, they got divorced shortly afterwards.

[starrynight21]

My son's best friend got married - I went along to the no-holds-barred affair, it must have cost a fortune. He was totally smitten, so happy to be marrying the love of his life !

Two weeks later she left him for another man who she'd been seeing ( apparently) for months before the wedding. They got a quick divorce and she took half of everything, including his business which subsequently folded, leaving him with nothing.

Last I heard, he'd become an alcoholic and has had time in a psychiatric hospital with severe depression.

[TownTalkJewels]

I know a girl who found out her fiancé hadn’t invited his family to their wedding 2 weeks before.

He had his head in the sand and didn’t want to do it. They didn’t.

[Bloodybridget]

@Shitzngiggles amazing that your friend did marry the man in the end and it lasted - I don't think I could forgive someone who did that.

[Silverfly]

My cousin got married, all seemed lovely, then as soon as they got back from the honeymoon his wife moved out and they split up. No one else involved as far as I know. I guess she was having doubts but couldn't bear to cancel the wedding.

[SchemeOf10]

My cousin planned her wedding and had everything booked. Had family flying in from all over. Sent out her invites. Her parents paid 50%, she paid 25% and her husband to be was supposed to pay 25%. It all went into their savings account. He was short on his but was due a work bonus so she just knew his whole amount would come in one go, just before final payments were due. She had bought all personalised favours and cheese boards engraved with names etc.

One day she showed him the evening menu and asked him to make his final choices. He did, no problem. He then kissed her goodbye and went to work and never came home. He text her saying he didnt want to go ahead as she was too controlling and had pushed him into it all and she has never seen or spoke to him since. They still live in the same county. His mum collected all his things from their house. He did not pay a penny towards the wedding so her and her parents ended up paying for it all. When packing up his things she also found his families stack of invitations (he had never posted them). She has never even had a reason why. He moved on within 2 months and is still with the girl now, 4ish years later.

She lost a lot of respect though as she had a limited guest list (due to the very expensive venue she chose) but had been rather ruthless and offended quite a few of our family members. Like inviting me (her cousin) and my husband and my mum (her aunt) but not my brother (also her cousin). She did this to a lot of families so it was nothing personal. She had her sister as bridesmaid but not her niece. Because she didnt want tween bridesmaids. But she had her other niece who was a toddler. It was all about the aesthetics of the day (which is fine, its her day). But she burnt a lot of bridges. She had been quite insistent people book their accommodation early. Sending lists of suitable places and things and constantly asking if you had booked yet. And it was a midweek wedding so lots of people had decided to make a few days of it and booked time off work. Also afterwards over 50% of the people had booked hotels and cottages for the week of the wedding. After sending out her initial "wedding wont be going ahead" message she never spoke of the bookings again. Never asked if people had managed to get refunds or showed that she cared people were now left short. I dont believe she paid her parents back either.

[SirVixofVixHall]

My friend’s fiancé cancelled the wedding on the morning of the actual day.
She did stay with him for some time after that, Lord knows why as he was bloody awful, but has since married someone else.

[IbrahimaRedTwo]

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time

I find that hard to believe. A wedding isn't enough to help anything at all, immigration wise. It wouldn't have achieved anything for him.

[JudgeJ]

@Maggiesfarm

No but I always giggle when it gets to that bit where asked if anyone knows of any reason, etc.

Soap weddings are good.

The Graduate was good.

The Graduate wedding, rehashed in Gavin and Stacey!

[JudgeJ]

@IbrahimaRedTwo

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time

I find that hard to believe. A wedding isn't enough to help anything at all, immigration wise. It wouldn't have achieved anything for him.

Depends how long ago it happened, in the 60s and 70s it might have worked.

[FourPillars]

Not a wedding but did attend a 25-year wedding anniversary party, big celebration, venue, speeches, etc and halfway through the couple announced they were divorcing....

[CloudPop]

@NameChangedForThisFeb21 dear me what a sad and awful story

[TheCrowening]

@StylishDuck

Not a wedding but I did know a couple who called off their engagement the day after they had a huge engagement party. Not sure what happened at the party...

I should’ve done this. At my engagement party with my first husband, he got horrifically drunk, our taxi refused to take him, I had to try to half-carry him home while he called me a bitch, then he kicked in the door of a shop for no reason as we walked past it. I took off my ring and decided that was it.

He cried and begged the next morning and I stupidly put my ring back in (I was young and naive, and I was having a lot of medical issues which made me feel nobody else would ever want me). But the love was gone. I felt sick on our wedding day and left him five months later. I wish I’d not gone through with it, even if I’d run off last minute.

[BlueLobelia]

@KeflavikAirport

And Charlene of Monaco who tried to leave the country before her wedding and had tears pouring down her face on the day itself.

I don't follow such things closely but if this is true (I knew she tried to leave) then she has managed her life with grace and courage. I hope it works out for her whatever happens.

[viques]

@SchemeOf10

My cousin planned her wedding and had everything booked. Had family flying in from all over. Sent out her invites. Her parents paid 50%, she paid 25% and her husband to be was supposed to pay 25%. It all went into their savings account. He was short on his but was due a work bonus so she just knew his whole amount would come in one go, just before final payments were due. She had bought all personalised favours and cheese boards engraved with names etc.

One day she showed him the evening menu and asked him to make his final choices. He did, no problem. He then kissed her goodbye and went to work and never came home. He text her saying he didnt want to go ahead as she was too controlling and had pushed him into it all and she has never seen or spoke to him since. They still live in the same county. His mum collected all his things from their house. He did not pay a penny towards the wedding so her and her parents ended up paying for it all. When packing up his things she also found his families stack of invitations (he had never posted them). She has never even had a reason why. He moved on within 2 months and is still with the girl now, 4ish years later.

She lost a lot of respect though as she had a limited guest list (due to the very expensive venue she chose) but had been rather ruthless and offended quite a few of our family members. Like inviting me (her cousin) and my husband and my mum (her aunt) but not my brother (also her cousin). She did this to a lot of families so it was nothing personal. She had her sister as bridesmaid but not her niece. Because she didnt want tween bridesmaids. But she had her other niece who was a toddler. It was all about the aesthetics of the day (which is fine, its her day). But she burnt a lot of bridges. She had been quite insistent people book their accommodation early. Sending lists of suitable places and things and constantly asking if you had booked yet. And it was a midweek wedding so lots of people had decided to make a few days of it and booked time off work. Also afterwards over 50% of the people had booked hotels and cottages for the week of the wedding. After sending out her initial "wedding wont be going ahead" message she never spoke of the bookings again. Never asked if people had managed to get refunds or showed that she cared people were now left short. I dont believe she paid her parents back either.

What did she do with the cheese boards?

I imagine Christmas presents from her were a bit predictable that year......

[ExConstance]

A friend of mine had to call off her wedding a few days beforehand. Her fiance, an artistic type, seemed lovely, suddenly started being violent towards her as the wedding approached. So sad,. I always wondered what she did with her dress, but I would never dream of asking.

[GappyValley]

Not as a guest, but I worked in a hotel when I was at uni, and a wedding reception got cancelled on the morning

The food and drinks had already been paid for, so we had a staff party with it all.

I was too young to appreciate the full gossip potential of the situation so didn’t bother asking for details - I was far too focussed on the free booze

Wish I knew the backstory though

[jeanne16]

A colleague at work was left during the honeymoon. It turned out the groom was having second thoughts but felt he had to go through with the wedding as her parents had spent so much money on it. She was off work for months. It was grim.

[CheerfulBunny]

Not jilting but I did hear a story about a friend of a friend who married a woman who was a 'bit of a goer' who was discovered in a toilet cubicle with another chap at the reception. Divorced soon after.