Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

@Crankley

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

I hope she reported him to Immigration immediately.

I have a friend where they broke it off about 8 weeks before the wedding, it was close enough everyone was very confused about what was happening as there had been a save the date but no invitation. It was mutual though.

I also know someone whose fiance broke it off but they still went ahead with the hen do - apparently it was super awkward as all the bride cared about was instagramming to show how much fun they were having to try and make her ex feel bad.

My poor late friend was marrying a police man. He went into the station on a night shift and told his friend he couldn't go through with it - not knowing that his friend's wife was a nurse, and on early shift the next day, so awake when he got home at 6 am. In her 9 am break she phoned my friend to give her condolences, so she found out this terrible, terrible way. She never got over it and became an alcoholic and died aged 52, leaving a ten year old daughter.

I didn't go because it was before my time but my great aunts wedding got cancelled on the day because the groom's divorce hadn't come through. Everyone was all dressed up ready to go when he announced this (you'd think he might have known the day before!) Noone even knew that he was already married so it was all very scandalous.

They did get married a few months later tho and remained married until they died. He was never particularly popular with the family tho

No, but a friend got married because she felt she couldn't back out, then they split up on day three of their honeymoon. They got engaged way too young and it should never have got as far as the altar.

@starrynight21

My son's best friend got married - I went along to the no-holds-barred affair, it must have cost a fortune. He was totally smitten, so happy to be marrying the love of his life !

Two weeks later she left him for another man who she'd been seeing ( apparently) for months before the wedding. They got a quick divorce and she took half of everything, including his business which subsequently folded, leaving him with nothing.

Last I heard, he'd become an alcoholic and has had time in a psychiatric hospital with severe depression.

I find it hard to believe she got half after such a short marriage.

Not jilted no, but my best friend confided in my mother at her Reception that she knew she had done the wrong thing marrying her husband. They divorced 2 years later.

@Persipan

Is it just me that feels like it's better for these weddings not to have gone ahead? I don't see them as a 'someone losing something they should have had' situation; to me it's more 'someone realising they actually didn't have what they thought'. Which sucks, yes - especially the closer to the wedding or the bigger and fancier the planned celebration - but the people who actually go through with it in that circumstance don't come off any better. Worse, if anything - however hard it is to cancel a wedding, getting divorced is surely more difficult? It just seems like the whole wedding industry and the attached social pressures are really ramping up the sunk costs fallacy for people who've realised they probably shouldn't be in that relationship, and they go ahead just to avoid embarrassment.

Obviously there's no excuse for treating people badly, but I can see how these things happen and marrying someone even when you know you shouldn't just seems like a really bad idea to me.

Its because we are social mammals. Fear of what other people will think and fear of social shame and stigma is huge. People do really bad things, like this, as they cant' face not doing them and the repercussions of that. It happens a lot in all sorts of circumstances.

A very snobby girl I went to school with was left at the alter. The groom had a father who had embezzled millions and turned out to be hiding in Provo, Utah. They had dated since high school. She then married a divorced pro golfer, went through his money like grass through a goose, and now lives in a Florida golf course condo significantly smaller and less nice than my house. She is an estate agent.

Not wedding but marriage. Which is similar to some of these post marriage stories.
A neighbour- married for over 25 years. Husband got a job abroad, in Hong Kong, and his company paid for them to move across there, helped financially with their house sale etc. The woman sold house and packed up everything whilst he was working away, everything she owned was in containers going to HK. She said good bye to friends neighbours and family etc.
She got on a flight to Hong Kong and he met her at the airport - told her he wanted a divorce and didn’t want her there.
Truly awful. She came home, her grown up children and her never saw him again.

Yes a friend of mine was twice by the same man a few weeks before in both cases - even worse she is now married to him

A young colleague and her fiance seemed inseparable and from the day she joined the company her main topic of conversation was their wedding. Fiance seemed, if anything,even more wedding obsessed and besotted with her. They were due to be married on the Saturday and they both arranged Friday afternoon off work to spend a relaxing afternoon together. He took her out to lunch and told her that he had never really wanted to be with her- he actually fancied her friend and hoped being with her would make friend jealous. Apparently he claimed it had just got a bit out of hand and he hoped they could all stay friends. He persuaded her to cancel the wedding but still go on the honeymoon as friends. Since lots of their friends had already paid for travel to the wedding he also persuaded her that they should all meet up for a big night out. I went along for a bit and it was the strangest evening ever- he was celebrating his new found freedom by flirting with all her mates and she did her best to try to look cool with it. I felt really sorry for her.

I was a waitress at a wedding years ago. Washing up late on during the reception and the venue manager came in all of a cluster because they had to find a spare bedroom for the groom. He’d been found outside snogging a bridesmaid and unsurprisingly the bride wasn’t having him in their suite that night.

I was at a wedding that was actually fake. The groom told the bride the night before the wedding that he wasnt actually divorced so they couldn't get married. They did the whole ceremony ( just didnt sign the papers) and had a whole wedding. They split up within a year as he was using her bank accounts to rack up debt in her name ( lovely bloke)

@Pasteque that happened to a friend of mine - wedding all booked, invitations sent etc, they had to give notice at the Registry office and her fiancé didn't turn up. She couldn't get hold of him and when she finally tracked him down he was in a real state - he hadn't divorced his ex wife. Like, not even started the process.
She was absolutely humiliated but made up some excuse about his work (he was and is a very successful businessman) and he gave his ex wife A LOT of money to get it done quickly. They got married 9 months later and are still together despite the faltering start.

Other than that - my mum! She jilted her ex about a month before their wedding. She then met my dad and they got engaged after a few months, when they went to book their wedding a lot of the suppliers carried over the deposits from the cancelled wedding

My awful brother. Too chicken to drop out properly, so he got atrociously drunk the morning of, and the registrar refused to perform the wedding. I was a teenager and everyone was at the same hotel and it was excruciating.

I didn't go to his next wedding (to someone else) but he had a tantrum about not getting to see the football. Terrible person all round!

[quote ancientgran]@NameChangedForThisFeb21 You might not realise but "Irish Twins" is really offensive.[/quote]
Really? I had no idea! I'm Irish and an 'Irish twin' (sibling & I born opposite ends of the same year). I've never found it offensive.

My grandmother! She was due to be married to a neighbours son, they had known each other all their lives and everyone knew they would marry. A few days before the wedding they where walking round the house they where going to be moving into, he suddenly announced, "but of course John won't be welcome here". John was my grandmothers much older brother, he had fought in World War One and had come back with shell shock and a drinking problem. My grandmother said she could never marry someone who wouldn't welcome her "unwell" brother.

She met and married my grandfather about three years later

@oppositeofbubbly

A young colleague and her fiance seemed inseparable and from the day she joined the company her main topic of conversation was their wedding. Fiance seemed, if anything,even more wedding obsessed and besotted with her. They were due to be married on the Saturday and they both arranged Friday afternoon off work to spend a relaxing afternoon together. He took her out to lunch and told her that he had never really wanted to be with her- he actually fancied her friend and hoped being with her would make friend jealous. Apparently he claimed it had just got a bit out of hand and he hoped they could all stay friends. He persuaded her to cancel the wedding but still go on the honeymoon as friends. Since lots of their friends had already paid for travel to the wedding he also persuaded her that they should all meet up for a big night out. I went along for a bit and it was the strangest evening ever- he was celebrating his new found freedom by flirting with all her mates and she did her best to try to look cool with it. I felt really sorry for her.

That is one of the most awful things I have ever read. That poor young woman. She must have had such terrible self-esteem to go along with this.

A friend called off her wedding 2 weeks beforehand. Unfortunately it seemed to spell the end of her friendship with our group. She got married a couple of years later to someone else and the guest list was completely different. It was as if she was walking away from everything her previous relationship represented which upset me at the time. She is still married though and seems happy on social media so I’m glad it worked out for her in the end.

One summer many years ago I was invited to 5 weddings & 2 of those were called aloof with days to go.

I mean thinking about it, I get why it may be considered offensive (poor catholic prolific breeders etc.) but my sis & I have no issue with the term

Yep, 'Irish twin' is highly offensive.

Not quite but probably would have been better if the ‘jilt’ had happened. An old friend of mine (back in the 80’s) got married and his wife shagged the best man, in their hotel suite, during the reception! They got caught, turned out they’d been at it for about six months before. My friend got the marriage annulled.