Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

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Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

So many sad stories

I strongly suspect my (now ex, funnily enough) husband didn't want to go through with our wedding but didn't want to jilt me. I could read it in his eyes on the day, and in his manner and I ignored it. His smiles were fake, he was awkward and stiff during the photos. He barely spoke. I also swept under the carpet the fact that he called our engagement off about a year before the wedding and like a fool I begged him to reconsider. I was young. It didn't work out, Lesson learned. But we had 2 amazing children and now I'm single and happier than I ever was when I was with him. And I'd rather cut my foot off than beg a man for anything ever again

I know a couple who got married but it was all annulled because one of them wouldn't have sex and then started up a relationship with a "gender neutral transgender person" (according to their not-ex-wife.

@Brondie319

No but 8 years later I've learned my husband and father of my children has been having an affair with my sister for at least 12 months, does this count?? 💔

There are some heartbreaking stories here. I wish I could have seen this thread 20 years ago. My 'original' wedding was called off six months before the date. I was going to be married the day before my birthday. Despite now being happily married I am always surprised or delighted when I get beyond that date without remembering how awful I felt.

@SlightlyJaded YES it was Walking in Sunshine. So fabulously shit also why would the gorgeous Italian guy go for the whiney sour faced sister when he was engaged to the exceptionally stunning sweet natured sister full of life. Totally bizarre. Loved every cheesy minute

I went to a work colleague's wedding once - I knew he had been seeing someone from work for about 9 months. Didn't think it was that serious, but each to their own. Come the wedding day, he got married - to another girl - for some reason he invited TOW to the evening do and she turned up! Someone must have tipped the bride off that TOW was there, there was an almighty row, the bride and groom were screeching at each other, apparently the bride knew about TOW but the groom had promised her it was all over! The groom's parents were also joining in, the father was telling him he was married now and had to 'behave', the groom turned round and told his father he was a fine one to talk, as he'd been shagging another woman for years - his mother didn't know - well, she did then! It was a complete shit show, they went on honeymoon but split soon after. He went back to TOW but she ditched him soon afterwards too. The groom's parents are still together, as far as I know....

Since when is Irish twins offensive. My SIL has Irish twins, we are Irish, call them that and no one is offended. She’s not an idiot either and has very much wanted children.

I'm an "English Twin" if it helps even things out 🙄

Not on the day, but I got a panicked phonecall from exDPs WTB a week before their wedding asking me to go and pick up my dog (which we had shared custody of) because they had split up. She was beside herself and I was on the phone to her for hours.

Unfortunately I was the other side of the world for my brother's wedding so I couldn't collect the dog. Poor girl, but it did turn out ok and ex DP married another nice woman a couple of years later.

I went to a big, expensive wedding abroad where there was a big show on stage with traditional dancing and the bride and groom looking at each other lovingly. I remember thinking they looked so happy.

The day after, we found out that he had tried to call it off the day before, but she had convinced him to go ahead. He had conveniently left out that he been cheating on her for two years with a work colleague, however. He left the wife for the mistress after two weeks of marriage and is now married to the mistress.

I was due to photograph a wedding and the bride called it off the Monday before the wedding that weekend, I'd on'y been talking to them a week prior to that about their timetable for the day and they both seemed so excited! I always worried did I set something off in her when I was talking to them about the day and freaked her out?! I'll never know.

Never jilted. Been invited to a wedding, and then a week before received a message it's all of - wedding cancelled....

Jesus H Christ, I’m going to start a thread about the phrase ‘Irish twins’ and maybe that will get filled with stories of people being jilted at the altar

Not quite but I remember so clearly on the way to my first wedding my dad leaning over in the car and saying to me 'you don't have to go through with this you know'. DH1 crashed his car 5 weeks to the day after we were married, spent months in intensive care with a personality changing head injury and decided he no longer wanted a wife when he got out of hospital. He made my life very difficult for a number of years. I loved him dearly before the crash and it completely broke me, but looking back now I wonder if my dad somehow knew he would ruin my life.

At my own wedding, as were chatting to the registrar, just before we went into the ceremony, the celebrant cheerfully announced that at the wedding prior to us the groom did a runner! She then turned to the assistant as we walked into the room and joked "lock the doors behind these two!". Certainly an interesting start to married life!

I called my first wedding off 6 months before but I had a friend (who I met after my failed wedding) who told me she wished she had done the same but felt she had to go through with it as she was under so much pressure.

It’s very hard to call it off but I’ve got little respect for those who leave it to the very last minute.

I tried to convince my best friend not to go through with her wedding. He wouldn’t let her have a hen do unless he came along to ‘keep an eye on things’

She married that loser.
I cried at their wedding and not in a good way.

He was an utter utter twat.
They divorced a few years later and she has someone lovely now.
Apparently her parents had begged her not to marry him too

I have to say I'm really pleased when, after I read these awful post, at the bottom it says "they're divorced now".

@Thesaltandthesea

Not quite but I remember so clearly on the way to my first wedding my dad leaning over in the car and saying to me 'you don't have to go through with this you know'. DH1 crashed his car 5 weeks to the day after we were married, spent months in intensive care with a personality changing head injury and decided he no longer wanted a wife when he got out of hospital. He made my life very difficult for a number of years. I loved him dearly before the crash and it completely broke me, but looking back now I wonder if my dad somehow knew he would ruin my life.

It's funny isn't it how parents annoyingly get it right. My mum knew my exH would be trouble. She has at least had the good grace to never say "I told you so"

I was working at a wedding we’re the bride refused to come down out her hotel room to get married until the best man left , as one of bridesmaids let slip while they were getting ready that the best man took her soon to be husband to a strip club 2 days before the wedding in the end this back and fourth of her not coming down and the groom not wanting his best friend to leave the person that was due to married them left as they had to be some where else and there was no way he could marry them quickly enough when my manger went up to tell her the guy who was marrying them was leaving she started to throw a completely hissy fit and said she was just coming ( all of a sudden changing her mind now she wanted to get married regardless if best man was there or not) our manger had to explain to her there was no time and he was already in his car , so the wedding never went ahead that day ! I’m not sure if they ever got married in the end was one of the longest shifts of my life severing food to people that were just to embarrassed to leave was awful

No, but at my husband's cousin's huge expensive wedding I remarked that it wouldn't last. The bride looked like she didn't want to be there. She filed for divorce within three months. Turned out she'd been shagging her ex. The groom was utterly broken. Jacked in his job and took himself off to Australia where he met his lovely wife, and he's now very happy.

@Tiktokersmiracle

Yeah I jilted my fiancé

Not on the day but about a month before

Everything was organised. Dress, party, church, the lot. Not by me but by his over bearing mother. I was only just 18. He was 19. He still lived at home, I didn't, and hadn't for 2 years, was n/c with family so went along with it all in that daft eager to please teen way.

We had split up once. I had told his mum I didn't want to marry him. He was horrifically abusive to me. Very violent over the silliest things. I was dreadfully anorexic, and taking drugs to get by and pretend like everything was great.
Her response was to say, OK, but I think of you as a daughter, we will stay friends, let me take you for a drink.

Eager to please/too scared to say no, I went and she picked me up. We drove and she was talking about cancelling everything, how it was a shame, he was nervous so he hadn't meant to smack me one. I realised we had pulled over beside a house. A really lovely house, about two streets away from their posh house.
She then says, it's such a shame become I bought this for you two. And hands me a key.
I had never ever had a nice house. I was living in a tiny room. Had nothing of my own really. So of course we got back together. He continued to beat me senseless. He was having an affair with his (male) best friend. I caught them but was so out of it on drugs and booze I just said nothing. He told me if I told his mum he would kill me. I ended up getting a flat a few weeks after. He moved in.

Eventually, I met DP. He came to my flat with a mutual friend. My mates knew but being teens they didn't know how to handle it.
DP was older. He walked in, said I needed a good meal, I thought he was full of himself. He said he had heard my fiancé was a wanker. Said you know if you marry someone like that, it won't stop. He will still destroy you

I cried. Totally broke down and said I was so scared, that he had threatened me.
"That's ok. I'll sort it".

And he did. Packed all the fiance's stuff up. Launched it out the window. When he came in, DP said he wanted a chat. Apparently, I found out later he said he was a knobend, that he hates men who thought it ok to smack women around, maybe he would like to smack him one. Fiancé ran away.
His mum rang and gave me a mouthful. Fiancé rang and said about the wedding, he would change, he was sorry. I told him no, it's over.

DP as he became checked in on me daily by phone. I ended up inviting him to a party. And we've been together over 20 years since.

In that case I have no regrets. I dread to think what would've happened. DP helped me get clean, fed me ridiculous meals I couldn't turn down and has never raised one finger to me. My mates were all in on it too the beggars.

Awww I LOVE your DP - he sounds like a real Mills & Boon hero! (Does he have sardonic eyebrows?)

Name changed for this as very outing.

We got married in New York, and you have to sort out the paperwork at City Hall at least 24 hours before you marry. There are several desks where you are seen by an official to do this. We were waiting to be called to sort ours, and there was a couple at the desk in front of us, not young, probably late 50s, early 60s. All of a sudden the bride to be started screaming at the groom: "Whaddya mean you've not sorted out the divorce yet? You fucking asshole!" And then she stormed off out of the building, the only sound being her heels clicking on the marble floor, as you could hear a pin drop by now. The silence was broken by the City Hall clerk saying in a bell clear voice: "Well sir, I'm afraid it looks like you won't be getting married tomorrow!"

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I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.
and I very much hope she annulled the marriage as it was never consummated, she could have got it canceled.

Then wrote to immigration about his status.

what a bastard."

Indeed. But I bet the writing was six feet high on the wall for those with the ability to read it.

I have a friend who was sort of caught out in this way. I knew the ins and outs because she told me.

She was shocked at how quickly he 'changed' once they got married. He left, she begged and begged. Til finally one of his UK living sisters told her to wise up.

One of my neighbors in the UK ran away with someone else’s husband just a few hours after he’d got married.