Have you ever been to a wedding where someone was jilted?

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

This was a long time ago but my exh called off his wedding to OW the night before - and it was my fault because I had applied to increase maintenance and he did not want to have to declare her assets on his Form E.
They did marry 6 months later but after my case settled!!

@Strangeways19

no but why is there always someone who kicks off at a wedding?

I've been to countless weddings and been a BM loads of times, and there's always, always been some sort of fracas. At my own wedding, my eldest brother and SIL argued en route to the venue and didn't speak to each other for the rest of the day. Which was nice.

I put it down to emotions running high + booze.

I haven’t but I was jilted three days before my own wedding when my fiancé dumped me for someone else. As if that wasn’t bad enough he then left me to deal with the venue, suppliers, and telling all the guests. Ten years on and I still do t think I’ll ever get over it! (He’s now happily married with children) ... I’m still unmarried and childless. Where’s my karma!

@Crankley

I didn't attend the wedding but someone I worked with married a man from overseas, Standing at the altar at the end of the ceremony he apparently announced 'thanks, I needed to be married to stay in the country' and walked out of the church never to be seen again. She had a mental breakdown and ended up in hospital for a time.

This actually happened to a friend's daughter a few years ago. She, being made of stern stuff, immediately called USCIS (United States Citizenship and Immigration Services), was interviewed, turned over photos, and gave them a list of 200 names of witnesses to his statement. Immigration found him almost immediately and deported him. She, of course, was given a very quick, simple annulment.

His family, who were quite wealthy, were contacted before he was tossed out, and they were outraged that he did such a thing. I believe that they reimbursed the bride's family for a good portion of the wedding costs.

I worked with someone whose fiancé called their wedding off. He then went on to marry someone else on their planned wedding day. Because since the save the date had gone out it meant all his friends and family would be able to attend.

A former schoolfriend of DD was "jilted" a fortnight or so before her wedding. He was actually a lovely lad who had wanted to tell her much sooner but hadn't been able to because he just felt carried along with the whole shebang.

He just felt that although he still liked her and hated hurting her, her didn't want to marry her. Pretty awful, but took some courage on his part, and better than getting married without a chance of success, and perhaps getting divorced a couple of kids down the line.

Her parents had spent 000's on the wedding. it took him about three years IIRC, but he paid them back. He felt it was his fault because he'd known for a long while that he didn't want to go through with it.

and I very much hope she annulled the marriage as it was never consummated, she could have got it canceled
Then wrote to immigration about his status
what a bastard

The post you're responding to is the saddest thing I've ever read - I hope she dropped him in, too, but I'll bet she was just too upset. What a horrible bugger! Pity she didn't have a few burly brothers to kick the sh*t out of him.

Yeah I jilted my fiancé

Not on the day but about a month before

Everything was organised. Dress, party, church, the lot. Not by me but by his over bearing mother. I was only just 18. He was 19. He still lived at home, I didn't, and hadn't for 2 years, was n/c with family so went along with it all in that daft eager to please teen way.

We had split up once. I had told his mum I didn't want to marry him. He was horrifically abusive to me. Very violent over the silliest things. I was dreadfully anorexic, and taking drugs to get by and pretend like everything was great.
Her response was to say, OK, but I think of you as a daughter, we will stay friends, let me take you for a drink.

Eager to please/too scared to say no, I went and she picked me up. We drove and she was talking about cancelling everything, how it was a shame, he was nervous so he hadn't meant to smack me one. I realised we had pulled over beside a house. A really lovely house, about two streets away from their posh house.
She then says, it's such a shame become I bought this for you two. And hands me a key.
I had never ever had a nice house. I was living in a tiny room. Had nothing of my own really. So of course we got back together. He continued to beat me senseless. He was having an affair with his (male) best friend. I caught them but was so out of it on drugs and booze I just said nothing. He told me if I told his mum he would kill me. I ended up getting a flat a few weeks after. He moved in.

Eventually, I met DP. He came to my flat with a mutual friend. My mates knew but being teens they didn't know how to handle it.
DP was older. He walked in, said I needed a good meal, I thought he was full of himself. He said he had heard my fiancé was a wanker. Said you know if you marry someone like that, it won't stop. He will still destroy you

I cried. Totally broke down and said I was so scared, that he had threatened me.
"That's ok. I'll sort it".

And he did. Packed all the fiance's stuff up. Launched it out the window. When he came in, DP said he wanted a chat. Apparently, I found out later he said he was a knobend, that he hates men who thought it ok to smack women around, maybe he would like to smack him one. Fiancé ran away.
His mum rang and gave me a mouthful. Fiancé rang and said about the wedding, he would change, he was sorry. I told him no, it's over.

DP as he became checked in on me daily by phone. I ended up inviting him to a party. And we've been together over 20 years since.

In that case I have no regrets. I dread to think what would've happened. DP helped me get clean, fed me ridiculous meals I couldn't turn down and has never raised one finger to me. My mates were all in on it too the beggars.

My uncle, who we had always known to be gay ( we all kept quiet at the time because it was illegal until 1968). We just accepted him for him and he died two years ago at age 80.

At the funeral I was told he was left standing at the alter ( this was in the '50's). My heart broke for him but, when I thought about it, I'm sure the lady knew and decided not to go ahead with it and she did him a favour really.

He met his partner in the 70's and they stayed together for 40 years. I miss my uncle 😢

My friend found out her partner had a one night stand on his stag do. The wedding was called off but it was abroad so the bride to be and her family went anyway as a holiday. 18 months later she married him anyway.

Not jilted but went to a wedding where both bride and groom were from overseas, they had permission to marry in the UK but had to go to a particular registry office. They arrived and started to walk in and Home Office were there waiting. He was arrested for immigration offences before the ceremony started, bride was inconsolable. He was held in immigration detention for a few months but was eventually released and they got married in the same registry office, I didn’t go to the second wedding as they kept it low key! I don’t blame them, it was traumatic.

That’s awful 😢

@JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows

Me and my friend tonight watched a (so bad it's good) film where a bride jilts the groom and he runs off with her sister as they sing a Cher song together we were discussing jilting, she said at Uni her friend's wedding was called off the night before when the bride had discovered an affair. And I remember as a teen my parents coming home only a couple of hours after they left for a wedding. The groom didn't show up to the service, he was seen leaving the hotel in the car of a woman waiting outside is jilting very rare? Have you ever known anyone jilted or a wedding cancelled last minute?

Walking on Sunshine?

Early 70s wedding under old divorce laws. Groom decided to back out the night before, but changed his mind. After 6 weeks of marriage went off with his boyfriend. Poor bride whose parents were lumbered with a big bill for the wedding. No divorce until three years after the marriage. Groom appeared to have wanted the right to remain in the UK. Bride finally got the divorce, but it was so long since the paperwork had been done and the groom had disappeared she had no idea if he knew he was divorced. A few weeks later he married again in church. His new wife had no idea that he had ever been married and in those days divorced people couldn't get married in church. Again he was off with boyfriends. Eventually he moved back to his home country once being gay was more acceptable.

Amazed that there are do many of these.
I would have been one of I had been braver. Rocky relationship and the night before wedding we slept in separate rooms (argument, not tradition.
Divorcing now.

My uncle sold his 3 houses and built a huge house on his fiancé’s plot abroad, bought her a brand new car and paid all her debts (only been together for 9 months). The day of the wedding she announced that they are marrying out of community of property to his and family surprised. He went ahead with the wedding anyway and after the wedding he borrowed money from all the family including myself on her behalf and then she threw him out 6 months after the wedding.

Not sure i understand this

No but 8 years later I've learned my husband and father of my children has been having an affair with my sister for at least 12 months, does this count?? 💔

Yes a few weeks before my wedding abroad after 9 yrs together. Everything paid for and about 40 family and friends booked to come with us.
He said he loved me but didn't want to get married.

@Brondie319, that is completely shit and the ultimate betrayal. You must be in pieces. Suggest you start another thread so MN can give you support and advice

@40somethingsingle

I haven’t but I was jilted three days before my own wedding when my fiancé dumped me for someone else. As if that wasn’t bad enough he then left me to deal with the venue, suppliers, and telling all the guests. Ten years on and I still do t think I’ll ever get over it! (He’s now happily married with children) ... I’m still unmarried and childless. Where’s my karma!

Married with children isn't the prize. You don't know he's happy, or she's happy, he might be an arse 😂😂

No but I’ve been to a wedding that should have been cancelled, in fact I was a bridesmaid. My friend had serious doubts for good reasons (her fiancé was dealing with an addiction which was mostly kept hidden at that time). She was the unhappiest bride to be you could ever imagine. Three months after the wedding they separated and they divorced a year after that.

I guess it’s harder than we realise to actually cancel a wedding?

Apologies if anyone has posted this already but on the scale of deceit surrounding relationships and weddings this is off the scale! Benita Alexander's story. This is the only video I could find with the full documentary (the legit ABC version online is not complete)

[quote Dacquoise]@Brondie319, that is completely shit and the ultimate betrayal. You must be in pieces. Suggest you start another thread so MN can give you support and advice [/quote]
I tried to..when i found out, and i got banned from here because the whole thing was so "unbelievable". But no explanation from admin or anything. Utterly destroyed and zero support. I can't come back from this

I ( chief bridesmaid) stood on the steps of the church and told my best friend that it wasn’t too late and we could still call it all off - she wouldn’t because, like so many others, the rollercoaster she was on she couldn’t get off.

Divorced before the year was out.

@Beetlebrooker - why was the bride to be checking her email at 2am the night before her wedding?!

@DownWhichOfLate I dunno, checking her phone during a touch of insomnia I suppose! I don't think she checked it at 2am, I think she woke early with nerves and picked up her phone and saw it shortly before 4am.

I was in the same room at the time. I'm glad she's happy now but I do find myself looking sideways at him sometimes. Because he hurt her, a person who hasn't got a mean bone in her body.