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Original poster

Isn’t sex over rated ?

161 replies

SadFlower98 · 09/04/2021 10:55

Sure it’s lovely in the beginning of a relationship

But other times it’s just a bit meh

Anyone else agree ?

OP posts:
Cuntryhouse · 09/04/2021 10:56

Good sex definitely isn't.

draughtycatflap · 09/04/2021 10:57

Not when you worship the knob like I do. But each to their own I suppose... 🤷‍♀️

NutellaEllaElla · 09/04/2021 10:59

I'm definitely not obsessed like some seem to be

ShutUpAlex · 09/04/2021 10:59

Only if you’re having crap sex.

Morgan12 · 09/04/2021 11:00

I don't think humans are meant to be monogamous tbh. Sex with one person over and over gets boring.

Candyfloss99 · 09/04/2021 11:00

No it's my favourite activity and I've been with my partner 10 years. Couldn't live without it, especially during this last year.

Pyewackect · 09/04/2021 11:05

I get very grumpy if I don't have a good seeing-too on a regular basis.

Justcashnosweets · 09/04/2021 11:12

No, I love having sex with my OH, and we've been together 10 years. We don't do it as often as we'd like due to us both working shifts, but we see it as quality over quantity Smile

Tal45 · 09/04/2021 11:13

Been with OH 23 years, when we're feeling really connected it's very hot. It's all about connection and how much effort is being put into the relationship IMO. I had a lot of years where not much effort was put in (emotionally) and there was no real connection and I just wasn't that bothered, could take it or leave it. I need that connection for it to be really good, I'm not some who can separate emotion and sex.

TakeYourFinalPosition · 09/04/2021 11:13

Not for me.

I think it's massively personal, though. I could take it or leave it with an ex, just wasn't fussed. I can't get enough of DH.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/04/2021 11:13

Only if you’re doing it wrong.

NutellaEllaElla · 09/04/2021 11:43

@AnneLovesGilbert

Only if you’re doing it wrong.
That's very judgemental and not particularly helpful. Everyone's different.
Original poster
SadFlower98 · 09/04/2021 11:48

AnneLovesGilbert or with the wrong person...

OP posts:
Wizzbangfizz · 09/04/2021 11:48

I love it! But I have an attentive partner who
Makes me orgasm every time. I'd imagine I'd feel it was overrated if he didn't!

picklemewalnuts · 09/04/2021 11:51

It's the communication I think. When the other person isn't listening and adapting and working with you, when it's all about them getting what they want and what they think you want... well yes it's meh.

Spied · 09/04/2021 11:54

Very overrated

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 09/04/2021 11:54

I think it was the wonderful Glenda Jackson who said ( regarding acting) "If I want to cry I think about about my sex life, if I want to laugh I think about my sex life"
Pretty much sums it up for me.

HoppingPavlova · 09/04/2021 11:54

If I was young I would have vehemently disagreed with you OP. But, as it is I agree.

Had terrible birth injuries with my first and subsequently, for past 25 years would prefer a decent cup of tea to sex irrespective of who it is and how great they are. It is what it is and nothing wrong with that.

Mummaofboys93 · 09/04/2021 11:56

I think it depends on the person you're with tbh. With my ex I never wanted it, it was a chore & 9/10 I'd want it to be over before it had even started. Could easily go a month + without it. I had no desire for it at all.

With my DP (before I became the size of a whale & heavily pregnant) we had sex more or less everyday & if we didn't have sex it would be oral or atleast something. It has dried up recently but it's hard work for me 😂 But I absolutely love having sex with him, I have never felt so comfortable or confident with anyone like I have him & I'd say our sex life is the furthest thing away from boring.

ScarfaceCwaw · 09/04/2021 11:57

Er. No?

As I come out of the small babies fug I'm only getting keener.

TuvoknotSpock · 09/04/2021 11:57

Definitely still enjoying sex although with small kids we have to "make time" for it more which takes away from the spontaneity

Waxonwaxoff0 · 09/04/2021 13:11

It is for me. I have a very low sex drive. I'm single, haven't had sex in 2 years and don't miss it. I suppose if I met a man who knew what he was doing and wasn't selfish in bed then I'd feel differently but in my experience they're few and far between.

LadyDanburysCane · 09/04/2021 14:06

After well over thirty years (and only ever with the one man) I still think it’s pretty great 😊.

AgeLikeWine · 09/04/2021 14:09

If you think sex is overrated, you’re doing it wrong, or doing it with the wrong person.

Toilenstripes · 09/04/2021 14:10

In menopause and feel absolutely hormoneless, but back in the day it was great fun.