Neighbour unhappy DD gave his DS a snack

[Eastie77]

I am really annoyed but know I may be over-reacting so need to be talked down.

DD was playing out with our neighbours DS, he is about 10. At one point she ran into the kitchen and quickly out again. It turns out she took a bag of crisps and shared them with him and other kids. She knows she is not allowed to do this but it all happened v quickly. Neighbour later sent me a message "just a quick one Eastie, DS is not allowed snacks between meals" and went on to say he hadn't eaten his lunch because of the crisps. I explained I understood although I hadn't given them to his DS. He responded by saying that's fine but can I keep an eye on things in future to ensure his DS doesn't eat anything when the DC are playing together.

I have always told DD not to give out any snacks to friends unless I have permission from their parents but neighbour's reply is really annoying me. It has a lecturing tone to it that doesn't sit well with me and I want to send back a smart response but not sure what to write...

Mountain out of a molehill.
No point in spoiling relationship over spilt crisps

A 10 year old cant eat lunch because he had a few crisps!? That's odd! I mean I get that maybe he doesn't want him eating junk food or something but i dont know a 10 year old boy who has been playing to refuse lunch! It's a few crisps not a bag of chips from the chippy!

If the boy knows he can't snack he, at 10, is able to say no. Clearly he wanted the crisps. As far as allergies - a kid of 10 would know to check everything. My daughter went to preschool knowing that! She would check with the staff if she could have the biscuits, refuse the milk, she knew the fruit and veg was fine but would always ask if it was a snack she didn't recognise. My son would do the same when we were out even before i checked 'excuse me, my sister is allergic to dairy, are these safe for her?' he is only a little bit older but has always looked out for her.

As far as you keeping a closer eye in future... Did he expressly tell you no snacks? And they were playing out - so not in your house, why doesn't HE keep a closer eye on HIS kid to make sure the poor thing doesn't snack.

Sounds controlling and odd.

Tempted to say a 10 year old about to go to secondary school should be responsible for what they eat. No one will police it when they move up. If they are not allowed to eat something they should stick to the rules. Neighbour needs to parent own child!!!

Omg 😆

I really want some Tyrells crisps now....