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Male performative cooking, it’s a thing isn’t it?

293 replies

Beeth0ven · 14/03/2021 09:28

Characterised by:

Weekly cadence
Complex recipes (often involving trips to specialist shops to source)
While day needed (or substantial park of the day) to cook
Low engagement with wider family during process
No expectation of clearing up afterwards, despite WILD amount of mess

Has anyone else observed this? Has it been widely discussed on here?

OP posts:
barbrahunter · 20/03/2021 09:30

This thread is funny, and reminds me so much of when I was a kid and my dad, who had never expressed any interest at all in cooking and certainly was not known for 'helping' in the kitchen, suddenly announced that he was brilliant at making omelettes.
This announcement was accompanied by the purchase of a special omelette pan, which was not to be used by anyone else in the house. Periodically at weekends, my dad would suddenly declare that he was going to make omelettes the 'proper' way nicely implying that mum had been getting it wrong for years and much crashing and faffing around in the kitchen. Even when I was a kid I found this behaviour pathetic.

ChaToilLeam · 20/03/2021 09:40

DP has a touch of this. He uses every pan and bowl in the house, makes an appalling mess, and uses far too many ingredients. His food is decent enough, but he tries too hard to make it fancy. His rice is always soggy. I just like simple things cooked well, and I’m afraid I’m the better cook. But, he can turn out a decent steak and he likes to BBQ, so am happy to turn those tasks I’ve to him, as when we have friends over in the summer I can just sit back and enjoy.

Okbussitout · 20/03/2021 10:04

Sorry not sorry to be the buzz killer on this thread but I'm confused Confused

From all the LTBs we get at the smallest annoyance from someone's other half I thought everyone had perfect husbands and partners here? These men all sound fucking insufferable and why are they getting away with this shit? I thought every one pulled up their partners on everything? Surely lack of cooking except for this shit is a LTB offence? Hmm

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Dreamingofbeergardens · 20/03/2021 20:48

Oh, can we talk about leaving washing up 'to soak'?!
DP will cook for hours and we tend to eat at about 9:00 at the earliest. He always says that he will do it in the morning, which I don't particularly like, but if he's offering to do it, fine.
Only then he will do about a third of the washing up and leave a load of it to soak! We don't live together (support bubble) so it annoys me that I end up doing it when I get home after a long day of work! Doesn't help that he is furloughed so has way more time than me atm to just do the damn washing up mountain he made!

elephantoverthehill · 20/03/2021 20:55

Oh the classic leaving it to soak goes hand in hand with the leaving the iron out to cool down.

AdaFuckingShelby · 20/03/2021 20:59

@katand2kits

Yep, it's some sort of kitchenwanking. Seems to me that a man who can follow a three hour Heston Blumenthal recipe is also capable of cooking a Monday night dinner that takes 20 minutes, but funnily enough, these types never seem to do that.
Kitchenwanking GrinGrinGrin Describes it perfectly.
ceilingsand · 20/03/2021 23:11

Jim Royle, washing up with his son in the Royle family, seeing an especially dirty tin: "leave it for your mother!".

ethelredonagoodday · 20/03/2021 23:21

Glory cooking we call it here. 🙄🙄🙄🤣

JumpLeadsForTwo · 21/03/2021 06:52

Just seen this on Instagram Grin

Male performative cooking, it’s a thing isn’t it?
billysboy · 21/03/2021 07:08

You can pick them out on Masterchef when they turn up with leather aprons rather than just a normal one

namechangefail2020 · 21/03/2021 08:10

This is hilarious. My husband cooks about twice a year, he offers a lot more so I can't grumble about that, but if I want to eat that same day, I have to decline as we would be waiting for so long. His meals are always about two hours late, I just can't understand what he does in all that time in the kitchen

namechangefail2020 · 21/03/2021 08:12

Also have you admit I use prep bowls. I just like to get organised early on and have everything weighed out and chopped or whatever, so when it comes to the cooking i just hve to Chuck it all in

thenightsky · 21/03/2021 14:55

@billysboy

You can pick them out on Masterchef when they turn up with leather aprons rather than just a normal one
The only men I've seen in leather aprons are blacksmiths. They'd be useless for cooking as you can't put them on a hot wash!
willibald · 21/03/2021 15:07

@namechangefail2020

Also have you admit I use prep bowls. I just like to get organised early on and have everything weighed out and chopped or whatever, so when it comes to the cooking i just hve to Chuck it all in
I used those IKEA candleholders as prep bowls for most stuff.
billysboy · 21/03/2021 17:19

I mean leather straps etc its the same as the DIY programmes that call all of these people with a leather type apron a craftsman when they are no more a proper chippy than my dog
All the gear and no idea !

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/03/2021 18:28

@namechangefail2020

Also have you admit I use prep bowls. I just like to get organised early on and have everything weighed out and chopped or whatever, so when it comes to the cooking i just hve to Chuck it all in
Me too, @namechangefail2020 - but I do wash them up afterwards.
Soubriquet · 21/03/2021 18:57

Shops in general

Shelves are too bloody high when stock is right at the back.

Prejudice against short people Angry

Soubriquet · 21/03/2021 18:58

Wrong thread

Now I’m even angrier AngryGrin

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