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Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(

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Molly1989 · 14/03/2021 08:09

So after being up every hour with DS last night including being peed on at 3am, and just having had my first shower in four days, DH presents me with my Mother's Day gift. A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn't, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?

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Dancingbythelightofthemoon2020 · 14/03/2021 08:12

Father's Day will be here soon - we could collectively come up with a terrible gift for your DH!

Know that you are the world to your DS and I'm sure if he was old enough to tell you he would say "I love you Mummy!". Solidarity Mama!

Bunnybigears · 14/03/2021 08:12

I got nothing although I think that may be preferable to a toilet roll holder.

NoSquirrels · 14/03/2021 08:13

Wow, that’s pretty bad. Sorry Molly - here, I’ve got you flowers Flowers

On the bright side, if your DS is a baby he’s got ample warning to get it right next year. Make sure you get as much rest and time off as you need today.

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TheWaif · 14/03/2021 08:14

I think that's pretty unforgivable tbh. Has he apologised? Has he explained why he thought that was anything other than very disrespectful?

GoryGilmore · 14/03/2021 08:16

Get him a toilet brush for Father’s Day, complete the set.

burritofan · 14/03/2021 08:17

For Father’s Day, block the toilet for him.

RosemarysCat · 14/03/2021 08:18

Oh god, I remember when my Dad bought my mum an electric tin opener for Christmas. Confused

That's shite op. Buy him some washing up gloves for Father's Day.

AtlasPine · 14/03/2021 08:18

That will be a great story for every Christmas, Easter, family get together, rotary club dinner, school bbq forever.

And yes to the matching loo brush on Fathers’ Day!!

Frazzle76 · 14/03/2021 08:19

I commiserate with the lack of sleep and being peed on at 4am. Me too. Nice to know I'm not alone.
Time to hand DS over to DH and have a walk / go to the shops buy a Sunday paper and a coffee and disappear for 90 mins.

littlebillie · 14/03/2021 08:19

Did he buy his mum the same

Annoy · 14/03/2021 08:19

I second the toilet brush for father’s day

Janaih · 14/03/2021 08:20

Thats a shit present but I'm more concerned as to why you've not had a shower in 4 days? Does your DH do his share of parenting?

NewtoHolland · 14/03/2021 08:20

Order yourself something lovely, with wrap and a tag from your little one xx also you need a nap!! He needs to take your little one out for an hour or two so you can get a nice snooze after that awful night..perhaps he would like to pick up some yummy food for you on his way home too!

sunflowersandbuttercups · 14/03/2021 08:20

Wow, has he not heard of flowers?

dudsville · 14/03/2021 08:21

That's so rude, it's incomprehensible how mean that is. I'm sorry OP. You don't become a mother for the gratitude, but you shouldn't have such a lack of care, consideration, love, respect.

TheLaughingGenome · 14/03/2021 08:21

But why would be do that?!

Annoy · 14/03/2021 08:22

My dh is lovely but a bit shit at these kinds of days. But it’s likely because he knows I’m not too fussed either way.

He has just taken the kids out and left me all alone at 8am to go to the shop! I know full well that he’ll come back with the typical MD stuff. He could have done this yesterday! But I’m actually quite enjoying my peaceful coffee right now 😀

Ihopeyourcakeisshit · 14/03/2021 08:22

Why would he do that?

Squish3 · 14/03/2021 08:22

First Mother’s Day here 👍🏻 I got to get up at 2.30am with baby after 2 hours of sleep...while DH went to the spare room to “catch up on his sleep” because he was “too tired to deal with a fussy baby”. Yes, he did have a 3h nap yesterday afternoon too 😊👍🏻 I’ve since got to do the laundry, make the breakfast, do the sterilising, feed the baby and “shhhh” and rock for 25 mins to get down to nap 😓 There’s a card and box of chocolates sitting in the kitchen that I assume are for me but they haven’t been given to me yet. It’s just a normal day in this house 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’d have hit him with a toilet roll holder.

Crowsaregreat · 14/03/2021 08:22

Have a shower, go to bed for the day, tell DH he's dealing with ds tonight.

Also ask him to explain his thinking on the toilet roll holder and exactly how it was supposed to make you feel valued and respected.

Buy yourself a present, you don't need to wait for someone else to do it.

NewtoHolland · 14/03/2021 08:23

Also with the showering..this isn't on. Can DH take little one for some of the morning each day so you can look after you? If not is he a baby, can he sit in a bouncer in there while you can shower? Xx it's ok to meet your needs too 🌈

IndecentCakes · 14/03/2021 08:23

A fucking toilet roll holder?! Is it from Tiffany or something?

HermitsLife · 14/03/2021 08:23

@Janaih

Thats a shit present but I'm more concerned as to why you've not had a shower in 4 days? Does your DH do his share of parenting?
Yeah, thats what I was thinking too.
sandgrown · 14/03/2021 08:24

My friend's son bought her a tin of processed peas ! He was only about 8 at the time and used his own money Grin

InterstellarDrifter · 14/03/2021 08:25

He knew there were things you wanted, he knew he could buy flowers or chocolates yet he bought you a toilet roll holder?