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Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(

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Molly1989 · 14/03/2021 08:09

So after being up every hour with DS last night including being peed on at 3am, and just having had my first shower in four days, DH presents me with my Mother's Day gift. A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn't, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?

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daisypond · 14/03/2021 08:52

That is extremely odd. Better no present at all. However, I wouldn’t expect a present on Mother’s Day. Isn’t it just breakfast in bed and a bunch of daffodils sort of thing?

Inthevirtualwaitingroom · 14/03/2021 08:52

my dd is at university, so away, Sad,
she usually makes me breakfast in bed.
my other dd i had to drive her to work early
but my ds is cooking a late lunch for me.

CherryValanc · 14/03/2021 08:52

Why go to such expense of a toilet brush for father's day? Give him a spare loo roll from where ever you keep them.

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Wildswimming3 · 14/03/2021 08:52

I got a taco holder once. Happy mothers day op Flowers

AlohaMolly · 14/03/2021 08:53

Mother’s Day is a bit of a bone of contention in our house too. First Mother’s Day was a wash out with nothing, not even a card and I was surprised at how much it upset me, given I’m not that fussed about my birthday etc. So the next mother’s days, I booked DS and I two nights in a hotel and had the loveliest time. The third one, I booked DS and I two nights away and my mum joined us for the second night too! Last year we were meant to do the same but, you know, covid Angry so this year I bought myself a present. DS had done a little stick drawing of me, him and his dad and written family on the top, so I sent a picture of it to a lady who turned it into an embroidery hoop for me.

Eckhart · 14/03/2021 08:53

@daisypond

That is extremely odd. Better no present at all. However, I wouldn’t expect a present on Mother’s Day. Isn’t it just breakfast in bed and a bunch of daffodils sort of thing?
OP is upset. What you personally expect for mother's day is insensitively missing the point.
LubaLuca · 14/03/2021 08:54

That's really awful. I agree that no present would have been better than such an insulting item.

Poppiesway1 · 14/03/2021 08:55

My 1st Mother’s Day (ds 4 months), we were between houses so staying at my parents while waiting for new house to be ready.. exdp friends came to stay so he spent all day out with them.. he came home.. no card or anything. he had no idea he was meant to cover Mother’s Day.. So he went out and came back with a bunch of flowers that I’d actually brought for his mum (that he hadn’t given to her and just left in the boot of the car) I was fuming that he couldn’t even be bothered to give his mum her flowers either.
Birthdays, mother’s days and Christmases never got any better. I so appreciated the cards they made at school so much more.
Flowers for you OP.

Babdoc · 14/03/2021 08:57

OP, you buy and gift wrap a toilet roll for his birthday or Fathers’ Day, whichever is sooner. Tell him you were inspired by his Mothers’ Day gift, and knew that, as loo roll holders held such emotional significance for him, he would treasure something to put in it.
My take on his “present” is that it’s a calculated insult.

VouisLuitton · 14/03/2021 08:58

Oh I completely agree with the toilet brush idea!! Please do it 🤣

Poppiesway1 · 14/03/2021 08:58

100% agree with @Eckhart

Of course there is more to it. A caring partner would know even a box of crappy chocolate is better than a toilet roll holder. What did he get his mother?

OhCaptain · 14/03/2021 08:58

What is it with these shitty fucking men?

A toilet roll holder isn’t a funny story. It’s him being a dick.

Not showering in four days?

The other poster who got up at 2.30 so he could rest and not deal with a fussy baby?

Like...why are men? Seriously.

And not to victim blame but STOP PUTTING UP WITH THIS FUCKING SHIT!!!!!

WarmAndFluff · 14/03/2021 08:59

Commiserations OP, I've had similar Flowers. I remember something similar for Mothers Day when the kids were little.

Your DH needs to step up - it's the one time when you get a thank you for all the stuff you do during the rest of the year.

FWIW, it gets better. My boys are teens now and are making me a Mothers Day lunch and doing the washing while I go back to bed Grin

ChameleonClara · 14/03/2021 09:00

That's not accidental, I'd really be quite Hmm at that.

Agree it would be good to know what he bought his own mum?

Dopeyduck · 14/03/2021 09:00

I just got a card. Think that’s preferable to a toilet roll holder 😂

Pinchoftum · 14/03/2021 09:00

Definitely put that gem on Facebook to shame him. That is impressive in its shiteness. You win the prize (of some bog roll to go with it)

WarmAndFluff · 14/03/2021 09:00

I had to tell DH in no uncertain terms that it wasn't on though! Completely clueless...

OhCaptain · 14/03/2021 09:00

OP is upset. What you personally expect for mother's day is insensitively missing the point.

Exactly @Eckhart.

The insensitive knobbers who’ll trip over themselves to sneer at anyone wanting to acknowledge Mother’s Day can fuck off, too!

Hopeisnotastrategy · 14/03/2021 09:01

Let this be a clarion call to you my dear to wake up, straighten your shoulders and start demanding he pulls his weight in all departments. Let this be the moment things start to change. Be very firm about this, starting with the fact that you are going for a nice long soak in the bath and he is in charge.

Play it right and he could unwittingly have done you a long term favour. This is not good enough. Have some flowers from me. 💐 😊

Foxtrotalpha · 14/03/2021 09:02

On my first Mother’s Day I got nothing. ‘D’H was too busy organising a card and flowers for his own DM.

TheLaughingGenome · 14/03/2021 09:03

A woman on here got a baking tray for Xmas once. That was her Xmas gifts in their entirety, one baking tray.

Baffling, without skirting close to a conclusion that her husband and family had no respect for her as a human being, and viewed her as a kind of robot household appliance hub.

Sitchervice · 14/03/2021 09:03

My husbands pretty bad at gifts. One Christmas he got me a set of kitchen scales... And a timmer. From then on I made him make a list on his phone of things I'd like or want. Or i get other people to help him.

Italianmeringuebuttercream · 14/03/2021 09:07

I'm so sorry op that's shit. My dh is not one for mother's day, come from his own dad I think. Doesn't bother me anymore, my kids are 10 and 14. Don't get me wrong, it used to upset me that I didn't get a present, but dh treats me in many other way (claims he doesn't like to be told when to buy presents). I'm happy now with tea and breakfast in bed. Plus I've bought myself some Dior nail glow Grin

SpiderinaWingMirror · 14/03/2021 09:07

Lol. My first mothers day, DD1 was about 4 weeks. Dh had no thought in his head that he should get me a Mothers Day card or gift from the baby.
If I remember I had bought cards and flowers from me and him for our mother's.
That was26 years ago. I still remember it clearly!

lazylump72 · 14/03/2021 09:07

I got an extendable duster if that helps any OP? admittedly it did come with Baileys,fudge.chocolates and flowers but it was so random!! I asked why and was told my dd liked its furry head and wouldnt leave the shop without it so its hers really to play with but as its mothers day she wanted a gift too!!!! I live in a house full of people with questionable sanity issues!!