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Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(

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Molly1989 · 14/03/2021 08:09

So after being up every hour with DS last night including being peed on at 3am, and just having had my first shower in four days, DH presents me with my Mother's Day gift. A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn't, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?

OP posts:
OliverBabish · 14/03/2021 08:25

What a dick! Best just to get nothing and make you a cuppa and breakfast than give you something like that. Idiot.

BeHappyAndSmile · 14/03/2021 08:26

@Squish3

First Mother’s Day here 👍🏻 I got to get up at 2.30am with baby after 2 hours of sleep...while DH went to the spare room to “catch up on his sleep” because he was “too tired to deal with a fussy baby”. Yes, he did have a 3h nap yesterday afternoon too 😊👍🏻 I’ve since got to do the laundry, make the breakfast, do the sterilising, feed the baby and “shhhh” and rock for 25 mins to get down to nap 😓 There’s a card and box of chocolates sitting in the kitchen that I assume are for me but they haven’t been given to me yet. It’s just a normal day in this house 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’d have hit him with a toilet roll holder.
Oh this sounds familiar, my other half is asleep in bed while I'm up with baby (and have been since 5 after taking over the night shift because he got shitty at being woken up). I second hitting him the toilet roll holder.

Happy mother's day

Theelderscrolls · 14/03/2021 08:26

I got fuck all, but I don't think a toilet roll holder is any better than that...

I'm holding on to the fact that it's really about my kids appreciating me, and not my useless DP. It will mean more when they are old enough to do something themselves.

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BrutusMcDogface · 14/03/2021 08:26

Why no shower for 4 days? Is the toilet toll holder indicative of a massive lack of care and respect in general?

You deserve to be looked after today, and spoilt. Same to @Squish3.

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JackieWeaverFever · 14/03/2021 08:26

He is awful.

Hand the baby to him.
Take a shower and go out and buy a lot of nice breakfast things croissant and whatnot. Get a take out coffee and l sit in a park and enjoy

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 14/03/2021 08:26

Aw come on! Who is that stupid that they would think that was an acceptable gift for any occasion? Why do people (women mostly it seems) put up with that shit!

Squish3 · 14/03/2021 08:29

@BeHappyAndSmile Happy Mother’s Day to you too 😊

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 14/03/2021 08:30

And why haven't you had a wash in 4 days?

Soubriquet · 14/03/2021 08:34

@sandgrown

My friend's son bought her a tin of processed peas ! He was only about 8 at the time and used his own money Grin
See I think that is cute.

A grown man buying a toilet holder though..that’s pathetic

Why? What real reason has he given you for such a shit gift?

I agree with others who say toilet brush for Father’s Day.

If he complains ask “what’s wrong? I thought we would match our gifts”

Spillanelle · 14/03/2021 08:36

What on earth!!

I think you’re going to have to demand what you want from today. Make sure he does most of everything while you have a rest.

Roselilly36 · 14/03/2021 08:37

Happy Mother’s Day OP Flowers

Odd choice of gift, had you mentioned that you wanted a toilet roll holder? I expect not.

As disappointed as you must be this morning, you will never forget your first Mother’s Day, I think I would have laughed if DH brought me such an odd gift.

I am sure your DP will chose a much more appropriate gift next time, and will more than likely pop out for some flowers later. Whatever you do, don’t let it spoil your day.

ProfYaffle · 14/03/2021 08:39

Made me think of this (not my photo)

"The year my Dad got Mum a hoover for Christmas!

Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(
Shehasadiamondinthesky · 14/03/2021 08:40

Stupid fuckwit. Has he ever heard of flowers or is he always a complete moron?

CreosoteQueen · 14/03/2021 08:40

I’m feeling a bit hard done by too - have also been up all night with the baby (he did not get the Mother’s Day memo) and my husband has bought me chocolates which I don’t like, and has bought his mum one of the (much nicer) gift suggestions I gave when he asked me for them a couple of weeks ago! She’s a lovely woman and deserves a nice present bit I feel like I do too!

A toilet roll holder is very poor form, he should be heartily ashamed of that.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/03/2021 08:42

I second those Marigolds for him on Father’s Day. And maybe some Fairy Liquid and a pack of those little sponge/scourer things to underline the point, in case he’s too dense to get it.
If you’ve got a dishwasher this will need a re think though.

PickAChew · 14/03/2021 08:44

I'd e tempted to buy him toilet roll for fathers day but why the hell have you not had a shower for 4 days?

EternalOptimist7 · 14/03/2021 08:44

Squish3 did you other half actually want children?!

IM0GEN · 14/03/2021 08:46

Unless there’s a back story here, giving a toilet roll holder is just plain nasty.

If he didn’t know what you wanted, there’s plenty traditional gifts such as flowers, a plant, a card, chocolates, toiletries, perfume or a bottle of something fizzy.

Every single supermarket has a shelf with the usual “ best mum” mugs, notebooks and picture frames.

It doesn't take a lot of imagination or even money.

peak2021 · 14/03/2021 08:46

I almost think nothing would have been better.

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 14/03/2021 08:47

Did he get the same for his own DM

Eckhart · 14/03/2021 08:48

@Janaih

Thats a shit present but I'm more concerned as to why you've not had a shower in 4 days? Does your DH do his share of parenting?
Yes. How is your relationship normally, OP, aside from the toilet roll holder issue?

As a gift, I'd think it was insulting. Is he respectful of you in general? I just can't picture a sweet, caring, loving partner giving this gift, and it feels like there's more going on here. People who don't know what to buy get flowers/chocolates. If they get anything else, it's because they care. People who care wouldn't buy this gift.

Oversize · 14/03/2021 08:49

Don't let him trivialise this or imply that you're being unreasonable. That's a shit present (intended). That's what he's chosen for you and thought would be appropriate for you even though you told him what you'd like.

Aneley · 14/03/2021 08:49

Assuming you prepare meals for both of you (adults) I'd gift him a cookbook for Father's Day.

MrsEricBana · 14/03/2021 08:50

Being a mum is so wonderful but so hard at times. I feel for you. Loo roll holder rubbish. Sometimes people are very thoughtless. Sometimes they buy gifts they'd like themselves or practical things. I hope your day is a happy one despite this. The shower thing is not ok and I hope you can get some more help from dh. BrewCakeFlowers

rossclare · 14/03/2021 08:52

@Squish3

First Mother’s Day here 👍🏻 I got to get up at 2.30am with baby after 2 hours of sleep...while DH went to the spare room to “catch up on his sleep” because he was “too tired to deal with a fussy baby”. Yes, he did have a 3h nap yesterday afternoon too 😊👍🏻 I’ve since got to do the laundry, make the breakfast, do the sterilising, feed the baby and “shhhh” and rock for 25 mins to get down to nap 😓 There’s a card and box of chocolates sitting in the kitchen that I assume are for me but they haven’t been given to me yet. It’s just a normal day in this house 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’d have hit him with a toilet roll holder.
I'm sorry, but why the Hell are you allowing this to happen.

Stop being a martyr.