Worst Mother's Day gift ever :(

[Molly1989]

So after being up every hour with DS last night including being peed on at 3am, and just having had my first shower in four days, DH presents me with my Mother's Day gift. A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted, but I did repeatedly, and even if I hadn't, a toilet roll holder? Meh. Anyone else care to join me in solidarity?

@ProfYaffle

Made me think of this (not my photo)

"The year my Dad got Mum a hoover for Christmas!

Oh, he got me one of those for my birthday.

He is a bit crap generally, hence lack of showers. He's just gone to have his shower after I cooked everyone breakfast. Anyway.

I like the toilet brush idea for Father's Day.

See this is when l think men are a bit thick cos it is Father's Day in a few short weeks so get him something equally as shit and see how he likes it.

I like the loo roll idea.

But I’d unroll it first and write “ you are a useless w*nker” on every sheet. Then roll it back up and stick it back in place. Surprise!

I would hand baby over, shower, make yourself feel nice & head out the door for a well deserved break. Tell him to text to let you know what time he'll have lunch ready. Pity there is nowhere you can really go to relax, like a salon/spa.

I got a toffee pop biscuit & glass of milk as breakfast in bed once..DS was too small to make anything at the time & toffee pops were his favourites so it was the best best gift ever. It'll get better OP when kiddies start making a fuss...

I roped in my parents after the year I got a lovingly wrapped stick and a small bag of leftover Halloween haribo. Gave the kids a tenner each and they had a lovely time shopping with Grandma and Grandad. DH had the good sense to be embarrassed and has made a proper effort ever since.

my husband has bought me chocolates which I don’t like, and has bought his mum one of the (much nicer) gift suggestions I gave when he asked me for them a couple of weeks ago

Have you called him on this @CreosoteQueen? I feel like I would need to ask why he’s gone out of his way to NOT give you something nice that you asked for.

If he has a Mum to buy for ask him what he got her. I’m guessing the answer won’t be a toilet roll holder. Then ask him if you can swap gifts!

YY @Eckhart. I hope this thread doesn’t become the target for Cool Mums competing to show how humble they are and how little they expect.

“ I’m just so grateful that my husband allows me to breath oxygen on Mother’s Day”. #MothersDayMartyr

“ My precious children are enough for me “ < I’m so spiritual and despise the commercialism of a hand made card and breakfast in bed >

Or the perennial “ I’m not his mother, why should he get me anything ? “ . Because obviously taking his 5 year old to Asda to choose a £1 bunch of daffodils is Too Much Effort.

Get him a toilet roll for Father’s Day, fits nicely with a toilet roll holder.

It shows a complete lack of thought from your H and doesn’t sound like he cares tour struggling with lack of sleep .

He is a bit crap generally, hence lack of showers. He's just gone to have his shower after I cooked everyone breakfast. Anyway

I hate to be that person but... why are you with him? Why put us with this disrespectful shit? Why does he get to give you an insulting non-present then swan off for a shower leaving you to cook?

This is appalling behaviour, completely unacceptable for him to treat you like this.

My DH is very good re trying re gifts generally but one year, we were having building works done and it was very stressful and my husband forgot present from child to me. So I went to a shop together, and I let her choose me something. Think she was three or four at the time. I gave my card and limit to shop keeper and it worked perfectly! So in future arrange with your child. She bought me a bracelet and necklace- it was actually quite nice.

My suggestion if haven’t had a shower is you are probably struggling a bit. You can leave a baby somewhere safe and if they cry that’s fine. I had to as my husband worked long hours. I used to either have a bath with the baby, or put her in the Moses basket next to me where I could see. She didn’t like it but it is so important to take care of yourself.

With regard to the processed peas, I remember cooking my mum some cheap soup for breakfast one morning as all my pocket money would stretch too after I had bought my present (probably a delightful ornament from the newsagent) . As was not as ‘fancy’ as Heinz had to mix it with water or milk- something which I forgot!! There was enough for Dad had too! Mmm what a treat, it was delicious!!

@Molly1989 but why did you cook him breakfast?

Why are you martyring yourself?

A toilet roll holder. I want to cry. He said I didn't tell him what I wanted,

"Is that what you think I'm worth?"

One year when DS was tiny, there was a lot of rummaging round going on the night before. Sunday morning and DH announced he must have left the bag containing the mothers day cards and presents on the train. We were due at the inlaws later so he rushed out to the co-op to get a replacement gift for his Mum but nothing for me! He had originally got me a CD I had hinted about...never did get it!

When he gets out of the shower, give him the baby and go for a bath!

Really have a good soak

Make him step up instead just standing around hoping

Stop minimising his shitty and uncaring behaviour

A bit crap generally??

No - he's uncaring and unhelpful and needs to start pulling his weight- he's in the shower but you haven't had one for 4 days??

I just read your update. So now I think the answer to my question is "yes".

That’s crap but why on earth have you made breakfast?!

A loo brush sounds like and excellent idea. You can even get Boris Johnson ones and tell him you’ll use your husband’s head next time he gets you a crap one.

Utterly baffling, unless sexy foreplay ritual involves whispering "It's soft, and strong, and very very long..." so the toilet roll holder is actually a romantic gesture with subtle hidden meaning????????

He's purposefully insulted you. He's given you something to hold paper that he uses to wipe shit off his arse as a gift. Why the fuck did you make him breakfast?

a bit crap

He's fucking useless.

You don't need this shit in your life. Get rid.

I’d wrap a 9pack of toilet paper for Father’s Day! Shit present.
Get thee to the shower woman-your baby won’t come to harm in their cot crying and won’t hate you forever because you did. You will feel better though.

I’m expecting yet another fucking orchid-DH thinks I like them as I have loads-that is because he buys them and they won’t die! Oh and some chocolates-which I won’t eat, him and the kids will as I’m not a fan of chocolate-you’d think after 20 odd years he’d have noticed! Still, I have had breakfast in bed and it’s the thought that counts-even minimal thought.

I think it's time to ha e a hard look at this OP.
Exactly why did you cook breakfast?

Unless there’s some massive back story that you’ve just redone the bathroom and have been going on about a ridiculously expensive toilet roll holder that you can’t possibly justify he’s a complete nobber.

But as others have pointed out, the opportunity for revenge is merely a few short months away.