No. Sadly. I mostly went to rock and indie clubs when I was younger and I was sexually assaulted there, by two guys I knew. My ‘friends’ turned a blind eye. The last time I went to one a man grabbed my breasts. Other big, burly rockers (who I didn’t know, and were a lot older than me and had actually been a bit lecherous themselves) went to find him and he left pretty sharpish. I didn’t like that either, I think they thought they were getting in with me by displaying their manliness in looking after me and that I’d be grateful. The whole thing was a horrible display of male aggression.
In a rock pub I used to frequent, there was a man in his forties who regularly attached himself to very young girls. He did it to me and as I clearly wasn’t interested and he wouldn’t leave me alone, his friends came and told him to pack it in, but it was all a bit of a joke, ooh that’s just what he’s like. He did it all the time and they normalised it.
An acquaintance of mine is seen by everyone as an old round good guy. He was the best man at my relative’s wedding and regularly DJs at clubs and performs in bands. We are all into the same sorts of music and there had been a night out at a rock club. He got into a taxi with a woman in their friendship group and then told her that everybody else had decided to go to his house. It was a lie. They had all gone elsewhere and he’d decided that he wanted to try to get her alone. She was obviously very unhappy and disturbed by this, but it was brushed off as him being so lonely because all of his friends were in relationships, so naturally, the only thing to do is to trick a woman into going to your home alone. He still has ‘good guy’ status.
I think there was possibly a greater proportion of non-creepy men in these clubs, as worse things happened in other clubs and more frequently. A man tried to abduct me from a tacky club after sexually assaulting me and telling me he was going to rape me. But no, liking a particular genre of music is no indication that you are somehow different to men who listen to other types of music.
Then there was the lad I’d been seeing who non stop called me, my friends, anybody who knew me or knew my number, because I didn’t want to go out with him. I’d had to leave the rock club because he turned up. He followed me into a fast food restaurant where he shouted that I’m a slag, a whore, a fucking bitch, over and over. A friend’s parent picked me up and he called everybody demanding to know where I was and that he was coming to get me. No idea what he meant by that but I was scared. I don’t see the relevance of the rock club, tbh. He’s a misogynist whether he’s in the club or going about his daily life.