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How long into your relationship did you get engaged?

264 replies

Denn35 · 02/03/2021 17:56

Just that really! Interested to see when people decided to put a ring on it. I know no two relationships are the same but I am intrigued having a baby and coming up to our second year anniversary makes the question play in my mind more so as to when things like this follow?

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Riv · 02/03/2021 18:58

Engaged 6 months after we met and married seven months after that. Been married over 30 years.

LimpLettice · 02/03/2021 18:58

@SleepingStandingUp Well, I sort of assumed the OP was, given that she was asking about it after having a baby!

Shrivelled · 02/03/2021 18:59

Didn’t get engaged, just agreed to get married when I fell pregnant a few months into our relationship. Baby arrived 1 year after we met, we got married when baby was 6 months old. 2 DC now, coming up to 6 years together and me and DH couldn’t be happier Smile. Wasn’t the order I expected to do things but my DH far exceeds any expectations of who I’d end up spending my life with.

Before I met my now DH, I had an ex fiancé and we got engaged after 7 years together. Ended up cancelling the wedding as the relationship just wasn’t right. It’s not the order or the timescale you do things in, it’s the strength of the relationship that matters the most.

penguin23 · 02/03/2021 18:59

Got engaged 2 years in, but didn't get married until another 9 years later, our 2 year old was at our wedding :)

happymummy12345 · 02/03/2021 18:59

I first met my husband end of April 2014, I'd just turned 21 when we met, he was 29.
We first met end of April 2014, we became a couple 9th may 2014. We decided to start trying for a baby in July 2014, we moved in together in October 2014, I got pregnant in November 2014, we found out I was pregnant 19th December 2014. We got engaged 13th January 2015, and got married 9th April 2015. Baby was due 30th August 2015, was actually born on 5th September 2015.
So we had been together exactly 11 months the day we got married. I know it's very quick, being married and expecting a baby within less than a year of being together, but it worked for us. We had discussed marriage and both agreed it was what we wanted, but we weren't officially engaged. But when we found out I was pregnant we both knew it was important to us to be married before the baby was born, and I didn’t want to be showing if possible, so we made sure we were. It was perfect. Some people might think we only got married because I was pregnant, but that was never the case at all.

IloveJudgeJudy · 02/03/2021 18:59

Six months, married within two year of meeting. Would've been sooner by DH wanted to get married in the summer and as he didn't have strong opinions about much else... Together 30 years, married 28.

Blondie107 · 02/03/2021 19:00

7 months

Sunnyday321 · 02/03/2021 19:00

Met in the January , engaged in May , married in July the following year, divorced 30 years later .

LimpLettice · 02/03/2021 19:00

Should have read through, @Denn35 Grin

MeadowHay · 02/03/2021 19:01

About 18m in and married after another 18m.

Pancake4life · 02/03/2021 19:02

5 years. I wanted to make sure this was my longest relationship as previously had 2 x 3 year and a 4 year one that ultimately failed.. so I knew no matter what i thought, i couldn't trust they were "the one" until we had made it longer than that!

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 02/03/2021 19:03

4 years, married after 5

Callingallskeletons · 02/03/2021 19:03

16m before we got engaged, then another 20m after that before we got married (so we’d actually been together nearly 3y before we got married)
Been married 6 years now

Before DH though I was with someone else for 3.5y and that ended suddenly (I was much younger, convinced he was the one and was utterly 💔) so I wouldn’t be too worried afew only 2 years not to be engaged (especially with a baby, that’s arguably a much bigger commitment) xxx

SweetPetrichor · 02/03/2021 19:03

10 years for us. No kids and no rush...it’s purely tidying up loose ends.

gollymissdolly · 02/03/2021 19:04

Got engaged after being together for 11 months.Got married 1 year after that.Been married for 32 years.

StoneColdBitch · 02/03/2021 19:06

Engaged after 20 months, but had been living together for most of that time - we would have married sooner but DH was still in the process of divorcing his ex. Married 3 months after we got engaged, as I was in my 30s and didn't want to delay. Started TTC immediately and had two children in quick succession. I wouldn't have had children without being married, even though me and DH do similar jobs and have similar earning potential. With all due respect, OP, having a child together is a bigger commitment than marriage. I'd suggest you drop the notion of a romantic proposal and tell your partner you want to marry later this year. Have a small, inexpensive wedding if you can't afford a party. Protect yourself (unless you work full-time, haven't taken much maternity leave, and earn more than your partner, marriage is likely to protect you).

55larry · 02/03/2021 19:08

First date September 1970, engaged December 1970, married February 1972 the day before my 20th birthday, Been married 49 years and had 3 children.

vixeyann · 02/03/2021 19:10

Exactly 12 months after we met, married exactly 12 months after that too! Had the odd person with their snide 'too soon' remarks. 11 years later we're still going strong, whereas some of them aren't!

mrsfeatherbottom · 02/03/2021 19:11

2 years but for the first 18 months we were 100 miles apart and only saw each other at weekends.

Anna12345678910 · 02/03/2021 19:11

@Sunnyday321

Met in the January , engaged in May , married in July the following year, divorced 30 years later .
Similar to me. Met January - moved in February and bought home. Married and then divorced 32 1/2 years later..... it's a long time!
CockneyCutie · 02/03/2021 19:13

Met DH in the October, engaged Valentines Day, married in the April... ds toddled along a year later.
Loved the very blood & bones of that man, lost him far too young, almost 15 years later to cancer.
I always said I would have married him the night I met him. Absolute love of my (and ds’s) life.

lachy · 02/03/2021 19:14

Got together shortly before Christmas 2011,
engaged June 2013, Married September 2015.

Happy as Larry together from the word go.

merryhouse · 02/03/2021 19:19

ffs, people, having a child is not a commitment to its other parent

Having a child is a responsibility - to and for the child

(also, an engagement whose parties freely admit they probably won't get married isn't a commitment either - you haven't committed to anything, not even the thing an engagement engages you to do)

GalaxyGirl24 · 02/03/2021 19:21

Like 8 years, although we got together age 16/17 so needed to wait long enough before we made that decision.

Bells3032 · 02/03/2021 19:23

Engaged after 11 months (we discussed it at four months). Married pretty much exactly a year later.

Married 18 months and still happy. Hopefully stays that way