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How long into your relationship did you get engaged?

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Denn35 · 02/03/2021 17:56

Just that really! Interested to see when people decided to put a ring on it. I know no two relationships are the same but I am intrigued having a baby and coming up to our second year anniversary makes the question play in my mind more so as to when things like this follow?

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Vodkabulary · 02/03/2021 18:13

7 months. Best decision (apart from finally agreeing to meet DH for our fist date) of my life

GreeboIsMySpiritAnimal · 02/03/2021 18:13

2 years, nine months.

Unbeknownst to DH, I'd actually set a timer. Early on in our relationship, I'd explained to him that what I wanted was marriage and children, and while it obviously far too soon for that to be on the cards for us, I needed to know whether it was something he saw in his future, because if not, I wasn't able to continue the relationship.

He turned a bit green, but stammered out that he could see himself getting married and having kids one day.

At the point I started the clock ticking. I knew already that I'd be very happy to marry him, and I decided 3 years was sufficient time for him to come to the same conclusion about me - if after that time, he still wasn't sure, he probably never would be, and I'd end the relationship and move on.

I never told him about this, because I didn't want that to be the reason he proposed. But I was very relieved he managed it within the time line anyway - I would've been devastated to leave him.

(I would've done though, because I wouldn't put my dreams and my fertility on the line for anyone).

ComDummings · 02/03/2021 18:13

Just under 2 years. We already had our first baby by this point too.

bloodywhitecat · 02/03/2021 18:13

We've been together five years and are planning to get married ASAP, there has been no official engagement though.

sar302 · 02/03/2021 18:15

2/3 years as friends.
1.5 years from first date to engagement.
Married about a year after that.
First baby arrived a few months after our first wedding anniversary.
Now coming up on 7 years since our first date.

Other relationships I've had have been 2/3/4 years long and ended before any engagement though. So I definitely think it's about the right person, and the right point in your life.

SimonJT · 02/03/2021 18:15

18 months, well, we decided to get married, there wasn’t a specific proposal etc. Before he moved in we’d discussed that it was essentially a trial for marriage.

CMOTDibbler · 02/03/2021 18:17

Known each other as friends for 4 years
6 months in a relationship before engaged
Married a year after engagement
Had a baby 10 years after marriage

TrevorWithTheWeather · 02/03/2021 18:17

We got together in 2005, engaged 2014, married 2016, baby 2017. Took us a while to get going, although we did live together after 18 months, but then went full throttle 😂

LaceyBetty · 02/03/2021 18:19

Met at 24, engaged at 29 and married at 30. He's four years older. First baby at 32.

NerrSnerr · 02/03/2021 18:19

We got together in 2002 and got engaged in 2013 so 11 years. We were only 19 when we got together though.

MrsBartlet · 02/03/2021 18:19

14 months and we had spent 10 of those months on opposite sides of the world to one another. Been together over 28years now.

Theworldisfullofgs · 02/03/2021 18:19

3 years. Engaged 1 year. Married 22 years.

Slub · 02/03/2021 18:19

Two weeks

cptartapp · 02/03/2021 18:20

Nine years. Met DH when I was 20 and believe engagement is when you set a date for the wedding. I certainly didn't want to get married so young and also wanted to minimise the risk of a failed engagement.
Together 30 years now.

M0mmyneedswine · 02/03/2021 18:20

About 18 months then married 2 years later

CyberdyneSystems · 02/03/2021 18:21

Two years

FlurkenSchnit · 02/03/2021 18:21

Two months and got married eight months after that.

BeatricePrior · 02/03/2021 18:21

Three years.

Trinacham · 02/03/2021 18:22

after 3 years. Was 19 when we met (he was 18), then got engaged around my 23rd birthday!

JorisBonson · 02/03/2021 18:22

Got together November 2015 and engaged in April 2019. Married September last year.

TheFlis12345 · 02/03/2021 18:23

Decided to move in together after 2 years, serving notice on flats etc meant it took a few months to happen. He proposed 18 months later. Married a year after that. So just less than 4 years from meeting to engagement.

Iminaglasscaseofemotion · 02/03/2021 18:23

4 years I think. Been together 9 now still not married and don't really plan on getting married anymore.

SleepingStandingUp · 02/03/2021 18:24

6 months, married a year and 1 week later. We only knew each other a few weeks before we started dating

cortex10 · 02/03/2021 18:24

Met in October; engaged December: married in May: 34 years this May.

BarryTheKestrel · 02/03/2021 18:24

10 months. Got together in the september, engaged in the July, married the following October.

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