How long into your relationship did you get engaged?

[Denn35]

Just that really! Interested to see when people decided to put a ring on it. I know no two relationships are the same but I am intrigued having a baby and coming up to our second year anniversary makes the question play in my mind more so as to when things like this follow?

9 days.

We would have been getting married in May but Covid put a stop to that.

We got engaged after just over a year, married a year after that, had first child three years later. We've been married almost 31 years now.

6 weeks, married a year later and now married for 15 years.

We'd been together 5 years before we decided to get married, married at 7 years together than dd born last year just after our 12th "been together" anniversary. Mind you, I moved in with him 3 weeks after our first date so we thought we'd best slow the rest down!

Engaged after 2 Y 2m BUT 2 weeks after decree absolute. Would have been much sooner had it not been for wanting the legalities sorted. Married 3 months after engagement, eloped with kids and surviving parents and it was perfect ❤

Been together 19yrs, he calls me his fiancee but i dont ever remember him asking me to marry him lol. Marriage is not important to me but we dont have kids so maybe thats why

Outside of teenagers do people see it as a lesser committment tho? Or do they think kids are a bigger commitment rendering marriage redundant

But marriage has all kinds of legal implications. Mostly ones which make life high more convenient and better financially. Some people tend to make it into this absolutely massive thing when it’s really just a legal contract that can be ended any time. Bringing a child into this world who you will be responsible for decades - that is the massive thing!

6 months. Married following year. House three years after. Kids 7 years later. Still together39 years later.

Got together 2006, aged 17. 2016 moved in together & welcomed DC1, 2018 welcomed DC2. Still not engaged / married.

7 years

Met online in April
Met in person in May
I moved in in June
We discussed getting married in July
Ran off to Antigua and got married in August
Had our tenth wedding anniversary this August just gone
I wasn’t pregnant and we’ve never had rings

5 months, married 18 months later though that was pure chance because we found a deal on a venue we loved that we really couldn't turn down, and we didn't care what time of the year we married so we jumped at it!

To echo a pp, a child is not a commitment to the other parent; it's a commitment to produce another life. A responsibility for their entire life. And you're shackled to that co-parent forever whether they behave atrociously towards you or not. Marriage is a contract and whilst parenting within that contract, you are committing to the responsibility that brings. It confers rights.

It's not about "showing he really cares" or some such idealised notion.

It's not a case of well having a baby is a bigger commitment so I don't need marriage, it's a case of having a baby being a commitment of such magnitude that it makes absolute sense to ensure your position within that newly formed relationship if you haven't already done so.

7 months, married 4 months later

Engaged on our 10 year anniversary still engaged coming up to 18th anniversary.
Never got round to getting married obv.
We now have our first child on the way so might get it done this year.
For me it’s about the legal next kin stuff.

Also been put off by the number of people I know that got engaged and married within 3 years and divorced before 5th year. One only lasted 6 months- marriage broke up because of the debt they started married life with after paying 25k for a wedding. Expensive 6 months.
I’m a bit jaded sorry

20 months

3 months. Engaged for 14 months and 1 DC. Married 17 years this year.

5 months. Married just under a year after we first met. Pregnant two weeks before the wedding (planned). I'm a cautious soul normally!

Was together 3 months before we got engaged. Then 10 years later we finally married.

Just shy of 2 years, got married 6 months later.

16 years. There was no ring - I asked him and wasn't really interested in one.

2.5 years

5 years, but we got together when i was 20. Engaged at 25, married at 26, first baby at 27, and I'm 30 this month and expecting our second.

10 years

Engaged after 10 months
Married after 2 yrs 6 months
Emac engagement ring for 5th wedding anniversary!