Why are women so unkind about other women with male children

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I have two boys, aged 2 and 4. They are about as typical as children of this age can be - they argue, whinge, are boisterous, funny, inquisitive, kind and sweet and to me, they are wonderful, just as I imagine most parents think of their own children as.

Ever since I was pregnant with DS2, I was barraged with comments assuming I was hoping this one was a girl and that I would be disappointed if it were a boy. Then, when he was born, comments about surviving two boys, you'll have to have another to try for a pink one etc. It drove me mad and in the mixture of newborn hormones and sleep deprivation, made me a little sad I guess.

I'm quite open about not wanting any more children, so most people know that I won't be having a daughter. Fine by me, but the amount of unwanted sympathy and pity I'm offered for being 'stuck with all boys and no girls' is quite unbelievable. I thought perhaps that as the boys grew older and it was clear i was quite happy with my lot, people would just stop mentioning this kind of crap.

Last night I had a zoom call with a group of uni mates. One friend passed on some news on behalf of another friend (who didn't make the call) that she is pregnant with her second. Lovely, very happy for her. She has a girl already and says she 'will not cope' if this one is a boy. She will of course, but what a thing to say! Then comes along all the comments of 'boys are such hard work, girls are so much easier to parent, good luck istheresomethingwrongwithme'. What? Why?! I love my boys, no need to offer your sympathy because my children are so awful because of what's between their legs.

It probably sounds like I'm reading too much into small, off hand comments, but it's all the time. I can't say anything back because then it looks like I'm bitter. The best thing I could come up with was to say that it's lucky they have me as a mum then because I think they're great.

I don't really know why I'm writing this. I love them and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. I know this has been done to death on Mumsnet but I'm just feeling a bit cheesed off. Why do women say this crap all the time? Are my children really less lovely because they are little boys?

Never heard of anything like this apart from one time a family member said if she has another baby she will hope it's a girl as she doesn't like 'boys' clothes' and mud. I just write her off as a bit of an idiot tbh...who would be bothered by such an opinion?

I have three sons
I get this in spades.
Friends, randoms, all sorts.
It hurts, but I don't think it is meant to so I try and let it go x

I hate smug mums full stop and there are always sweeping generalisations. I have a friend who's always banging on about how boys never give you the trouble that girls do. 'Oh I'm so glad I've got a boy' or 'at least with boys you don't get xyz' comments. I have a DD but I would have been happy to have a boy or girl.

I forgot another one.When my two sons were small we were living in the US .We had a lovely large garden that had a creek at the end of it.It was shallow in summer and my kids and their friends spent hours playing in it catching small fish and just general splashing around.Anyhow , we had visitors staying with us , childhood friend of my husbands and his girlfriend .they had no kids at the time .I called the kids in for their dinner and told them to wash their hands .They sat down and my female visitor exclaimed to her partner
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Oh my God , promise me Tom that when we have kids that we never have boys.Just look at these two , totally disgusting and dirty .I dont want anything like that .I want a girl that is cute and pretty and that I can dress up.I never ever want to have a boy.Yuck ! They make my flesh crawl"

I got up from the table and told her that with that attitude she should probably go and buy herself a doll .She did not deserve a baby either boy or girl.
Silly witch ended up having a baby girl which being honest really pissed me off when I heard it.

I'm glad some other posters have come in here to echo what I have said is the experience in the reverse which is just as bad and hurtful as what's been said by some on here. All smug parents of either sex are as bad as each other. As a mother of only girls I'd have loved a boy.

I'm sure both sexes do get generalisations and comments, but having had one of each sex, my experience is that people have been FAR more openly negative about boys.

@schnubbins I'd have told her to fuck off out of my house as we she made my skin crawl!

What a rude, obnoxious thing to say!!

@Mammyloveswine You are right .I should have thrown them out there and then.The feckers stayed three weeks in all.A cheap holiday in sunny California at our expense.Looking back I cannot understand how I put up with it .Young and dumb I suppose. I have had nothing to do with them since but know that they have not had much luck in life

So many people have sexist views.