If you were 44 and found out you were pregnant?

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Would you have it?

I’m not asking for advice for myself. Just interested in whether you personally would go ahead with a surprise pregnancy at such an advanced age.

Would you?

Yes I think so

No

Personally I wouldn't no. I am late 30s and my young children have already drained me. Any older I couldn't do it!

I'd have cried, but then yes, I'd have come round to the view that it was meant to be and had it.

I think saying “advanced” is already making a lot of assumptions. My SIL just had much wanted and planned dd3 at 43. Two friends both had first babies also both dds at 46

No

All babies healthy as well

That's true too. I know several people who had their first in their 40s

No, definitely not. I’m in my 40s and had a pregnancy scare at one stage. I wouldn’t have gone ahead with the pregnancy, but luckily wasn’t pregnant anyway.

No. I’m 41 now and have 3 children aged 8, 6 and 4. I wouldn’t have another one now if I found out I was pregnant but definitely not in 3 years time.

I had one at 42 so it wouldn't have been that much of a surprise - would have worried about miscarriage though.

Yea. Was 40, not 44, but physically there wasn’t an whole lot of difference.
No problems and found second time, much later unexpected parenthood far easier.

No, I would not go ahead now at 42.

DDs will be 16 and 14 when I'm 44, I definitely wouldn't want to start all over again at that stage!

No way. Don’t want to rub anyone up the wrong way but I can’t imagine being 50 and having such a young child. My mum is in her 50’s and her youngest is early twenties. She’s got so much feeding and I think she did it the right way. I want to be done with having kids by 35 at the very latest

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It’s not a judgement. But 44 is the very late stages of fertility for the vast majority of women. That’s just a fact.

Yes, not yea 😁

No. I wouldn't now at 42.

I'm only 30 and broody for my 2nd so very hard to picture right now. If I end up with 2 or 3 like planned, I'd be just getting my life back (and I love doing many things that don't involve children). I would be beside myself. But I think I'd do it. Couldn't go through the alternative.

Knowing me ill be having the pre menopausal broodiness anyway.

I met a woman once who was pregnant in her mid 50s.

Depends. If I already had several children maybe not.

If it was my first then yes.

I honestly don't know. I'm 44 now and very grateful to be past the baby years... But faced with it as a reality, tough call. Not sure I could abort a sibling of my DC, but I wouldn't be happy with it. But I do know one lady who had all 3 of her DC in her 40's, all 12 months apart and last one when she was 44... She was very happy and just hadn't met the right man in time to do it sooner. Hats off to her, she's a stronger person then me!

I would not choose to conceive then but if it's a done deed then for me that would be the difference.

Absolutely. But the again I’ve had a baby in my 40s.