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If you were 44 and found out you were pregnant?

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HillsHaveEyez · 05/02/2021 21:00

Would you have it?

I’m not asking for advice for myself. Just interested in whether you personally would go ahead with a surprise pregnancy at such an advanced age.

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CherryPieface · 05/02/2021 21:41

Not for me.

Greygreenblue · 05/02/2021 21:41

Hmmm, I am honestly not sure what I would do, my eldest will be turning 14 and twins 12 by then so we’ll be well past the early years. Also not sure my body would be up to it, I was very unwell with the twins and any future pregnancy would be a risk, no matter the age. But pro-choice as I am, I don’t know if I could make that choice.

CutePixie · 05/02/2021 21:41

I wouldn’t want a baby in my 40s. I’m in my early 20s and I have friends (same age as me) who have old parents. They are already worried about their parents. Mine are in their 40s and I’m glad they had me young.

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Tuscadero · 05/02/2021 21:42

Aww, so happy for you, @theDudesmummy Smile

BenoneBeauty · 05/02/2021 21:42

No way - far too old (for me personally - no judgement on anyone else).

ilovespinach · 05/02/2021 21:43

No. I'm 44 this year and have 3 kids. Dh is almost 50. We have no wish to have another baby.

Partygirl2021 · 05/02/2021 21:43

I wouldn’t go out my way to conceive I don’t think. If it was unplanned I don’t think I would want to go through with it either but the other option would be awful for me too. I really don’t know.

SheilaWilcox · 05/02/2021 21:43

Oooof!
Didn't expect that to sting but it did.

I'm 44, had two miscarriages since my one and only DD, so guess I'm past it!

Think I'd see it as a happy accident as my husband would love more kids, but seeing as he shows so little interest in sex (or indeed coming to bed before 2am) not going to happen.

Atrixie · 05/02/2021 21:43

I’d hardly call it “such an advanced” age. It’s a bit older than usual but hardly pension drawing age. I wouldn’t go ahead with it as I’ve Been there done that and have no desire to do it again

Having said that, I don’t feel too told. I feel no older than I did when I was 28 with my fist. Obviously on MN land I’d be close to needing a care home. I think 44 is a perfectly reasonable albeit slightly older age to have a baby so wouldn’t bat an eyelid if someone else was pregnant at that agr

Onadifferentuniverse · 05/02/2021 21:43

No. My kids would be 18 and 20. I wouldn’t go back to the beginning

user1471439310 · 05/02/2021 21:43

I had my second just shy of my 40th birthday and would have had one at 44 if I found out. I'm sorry but I am Catholic and don't believe in abortion for myself but women should and need that right for themselves.

MissCalamity · 05/02/2021 21:43

In my situation, no I wouldn't, especially with DP who would be 55 😱

Swingometer · 05/02/2021 21:44

Being 44 wouldn't affect my decision one way or another

If I wanted a baby I would go ahead with the pregnancy. If I didn't I would abort.

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MojoJojo71 · 05/02/2021 21:44

Probably not, but not because I think it’s too old. I had my second at 41 and that was my family complete.

Nancylovesthecock · 05/02/2021 21:44

Oh hell no. Done with nappies

TheCatThatGotTheCream · 05/02/2021 21:44

It really depends on the individual. I'd have rather had a baby in my early 40's than my 20's...my 20's were all about uni, travelling the world, living abroad, just exploring the world and having fun. I couldn't have imagined anything worse (for me) than having a baby in my 20's. Even my early 30's I was still working on my career interspersed with time off for travelling. But that's just me, I'm sure others would choose the complete opposite of my choices and loved having kids earlier and those choices are just as valid as my choices.

It's not about the ideal right time to have a baby, it's about the right time for that particular individual.

doctorhamster · 05/02/2021 21:44

No. There'd be a 16 year gap between my eldest and a new baby. Not a chance.

MsRosewater · 05/02/2021 21:45

In a heartbeat- am nearly 42, Dd is 3 and DH is a SAH parent.

Treemama · 05/02/2021 21:45

No. My last pregnancy was unplanned at 42 and although my ds completed our family nicely, I definitely don't want any more surprises.

user86386427 · 05/02/2021 21:45

Lord no. I'd have a 22 and 19 year old and would be terrified of medical issues for baby or me. If I didn't have kids yet then yes, with careful monitoring.

TitInATrance · 05/02/2021 21:45

It would depend whether I had a partner, how many children I already had and their ages, and whether I could provide for and nurture another one.
Age wouldn’t really come into it.

Tuscadero · 05/02/2021 21:46

@MissCalamity

In my situation, no I wouldn't, especially with DP who would be 55 😱
Bernie Ecclestone's just had one at 90! Grin Grin
bitheby · 05/02/2021 21:46

As I'm 44 and TTC and currently in tears about being childless and every bloody TV programme that comes on has pregnancy in it, then yes.

All lives are different. Don't judge.

Lovelydiscusfish · 05/02/2021 21:47

Interesting question! Thinking of having my coil out to try for a baby (I’m 42). I veer between thinking I am being insane, and thinking there is nothing I want more.....

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