If you were 44 and found out you were pregnant?

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Would you have it?

I’m not asking for advice for myself. Just interested in whether you personally would go ahead with a surprise pregnancy at such an advanced age.

No - I am 44. My youngest is 18 so there's no way I'm going through babies/toddlers again after a getting used to my freedom. I'm still married to my children's father so it might be different if I was with a new partner.

@bitheby

As I'm 44 and TTC and currently in tears about being childless and every bloody TV programme that comes on has pregnancy in it, then yes.

All lives are different. Don't judge.

It's very hard when TTC. Every month if your period comes it's another slap round the face.

I did! I had my 12 week old in November and turned 45 a week ago.

I’m 40 and lucky enough to already have 4 kids, the oldest being 10. So it’s a big fat NOPE from me!

However, if it was my first, then yes absolutely.

Depends how old my existing children were if teenagers then probably not but if they were under 8 or so then I would for sure.

I had 1 at 43 and 1 at 47, so I personally have gone with it and I am very pleased I had the chance to have a family. I can completely see that another person in a different situation might feel very differently about it though.

DD1 will be 24 when I’m 44 and DD2 will be 17. DH and I are hoping for a third at some point (DD2 is only 4mo so not yet) but I don’t want to be having babies in my 40s. DH and I will be starting to get our lives back at that point.

I don’t judge anyone that does though. Each to their own.

Yes I would.

No. I had my kids in my early 20’s. I’m now Late 30’s I feel like I’m in a continuous losing battle with a combine harvester. I have friends who’ve had children In their late 30’s early 40’s and they seem to manage okay though. Guess it depends on the individual.

Same as some previous posters. I'm 44 now and I absolutely wouldn't choose to conceive but if I actually found myself pregnant, I'm not sure what I'd do.

No, but then I’d have said the same at age 36 which is why DH had a vasectomy then.

No

Yes. Had ds at 43. DM was born when my GM was 44. My cousin was born when my aunt was 47. Late age babies normal in our family.

Having had babies and the last at 40, I would have found it a struggle to abort even at that age. Even an unplanned pregnancy.(Prior to having children, I had a different consideration)

Having said that, I would have all pre-natal tests available, and would not proceed if there was a potential problem.

No. I had DS young so he will be grown up when I'm that age, not a chance in hell would I want to start all over again with a newborn.

depends on any other children an their ages. for me my wife was 40 when our first was born, so will be similar age for the second.

if id had older children at that age and was past my childbearing planned age then no.

Nope. Mine will be 19 and 13 then.

Although I guess if the big one going to university gives me empty nest syndrome badly I might consider it

No, that's 9 years away and my other 3 will hopefully have left home by then! I may even be earning enough to buy a house, at that point. Couldn't financially or mentally handle another child, which is why I terminated my last (5th) pregnancy (age 30).
If I'd had a different life, it would possibly be a different answer. I have a SIL who would be delighted to finally have a baby and she's around that age.

No but I’m 37 and if I found out I was pregnant tomorrow I’m pretty sure I would have a termination.

I’m 44...I really would not want to have a baby now - I’ve been there and done it. I’m enjoying having grown up children - all the time I can spend with DH, all the sleep I get to have, and the fact that I’m not run ragged and exhausted/stressed/pouring out all the time from finite resources. I also would not want to have to navigate primary school/secondary school/A Level/University worries and stresses all over again.

But if I actually found myself pregnant...I really can’t say what I would do. I’m crossing my fingers (hard) that I’m never in that position.

I had exactly this situation. She's now 8.

I would keep and hope everyday that everything was going well

@bitheby

As I'm 44 and TTC and currently in tears about being childless and every bloody TV programme that comes on has pregnancy in it, then yes.

All lives are different. Don't judge.

Sorry to hear you are struggling bitheby

There are some judgemental posts on here, it’s all very well if you met the right person or were able to conceive young but it doesn’t happen that way for all. These posters would feel very differently if they didn’t/couldn’t have any children by the time they reached 40+

I hope it happens for you, sending positive vibes your way 💐

I’m 44 id be delighted. I would not actively seek to be pregnant but I’d it happened I would wholeheartedly embrace it.
DH has had the snip though so it’s extremely unlikely.

If I did I’d have it and give it to my dd to raise as she’s a young mum and I’ve only just got my career on track in my forties!!!