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Hidden phone

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wrigglewriggles · 02/02/2021 19:18

Possible reasons for my ex (who I unfortunately still have to live with) to be hiding a phone in my car?

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evouk · 07/02/2021 20:00

If it's an iPhone just swipe up on the Lock Screen and you can put it on aero plane mode

He won't be able to track you then

JemimaRacktool · 07/02/2021 20:02

Being as he's tracking you, pick a route around town so it spells out C.....U........N...........etc. He will soon get the message!

Yu are doing well but I advise you get even more inventive and record him putting it in and taking it out of the car so you have a tonne of evidence and then go to the police so they have a case good enough for charges to be brought. Diarise everything.

Freehugs · 07/02/2021 20:11

Similar thing was in the news where I live. Husband tracked his wife’s car. He was charged, plead guilty and fined over 3k.
Such a controlling thing to do.
I hope the police take it more seriously now that he is no longer the co owner of the car.
If they can arrest him when he least expects it, then there’s a good chance all the evidence will be on his own phone that he’s been using to track the other phone.
I think you’re very brave and strong. I don’t think I could cope with someone filming me in my own home and tracking my car Sad

Keep safe x

marthastew · 07/02/2021 20:15

Can you go and stay with family as soon as possible? I am astonished that the police have not advised you to do this or removed from the house. Do they know about strangling you? If not, you need to report it asap.

This man is violent, abusive and controlling. Op, could you be so used to this and so worn down by the situation that you are not taking this as seriously as you would if a friend or relative of yours was in the same situation?

The most dangerous moment to be near to a controlling and abusive partner is when they feel they are loosing control and become desperate to regain it through violence. This is a well known and well documented behaviour pattern. You must get away from him and to a safe place immediately.

lalafafa · 07/02/2021 20:16

Take care op, I’d leave it where it is, you’ve got nothing to hide. At least you know where it is.

marthastew · 07/02/2021 20:16

...removed HIM from the house...

IthinkIm · 07/02/2021 20:35

Please keep safe OP Thanks

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wrigglewriggles · 07/02/2021 20:54

@marthastew

Can you go and stay with family as soon as possible? I am astonished that the police have not advised you to do this or removed from the house. Do they know about strangling you? If not, you need to report it asap.

This man is violent, abusive and controlling. Op, could you be so used to this and so worn down by the situation that you are not taking this as seriously as you would if a friend or relative of yours was in the same situation?

The most dangerous moment to be near to a controlling and abusive partner is when they feel they are loosing control and become desperate to regain it through violence. This is a well known and well documented behaviour pattern. You must get away from him and to a safe place immediately.

We're not living in a country where either of us have family. I reported him to the police before but no case was brought against him as there was no evidence just his word vs mine. I was left with no visible bruising etc I just need to go about my business as usual and not raise any suspicions or let on that I know. I was stupid yesterday checking the car while it was on the drive and he was home. However, his actions well and truly confirmed what I suspected. My stomach is in knots and I'm awake half the night. I have got him on film once putting it in the car. So wish I'd remembered about the outside camera sooner. I could have caught him several times if I had. Please don't think that I'm not taking this seriously. I am and that's why I don't want to move or do anything to the phone. I don't want to do anything to make things worse for myself or my children.
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Icloud54 · 07/02/2021 21:27

You're doing well OP, keep doing what you're doing

Thingywhatsit · 08/02/2021 11:32

How are things today? Stay safe

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wrigglewriggles · 08/02/2021 15:18

Police officer is opening a case someone will be in touch in the next few days.
Have been told not to move the phone or confront him.
Have taken more photos of it and somehow got a screen up to show when location services or something was last used. Will keep documenting what I can.

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wrigglewriggles · 08/02/2021 18:58

Anyone know what all these symbols mean? Different to the other day. Have tried google but not finding any answers.

Hidden phone
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NeverWillIEver · 08/02/2021 19:02

Middle is a calendar 📅
Right is the sign for a pin point on a map.

On my phone at least.

Ch3rish · 08/02/2021 19:19

@NeverWillIEver

Middle is a calendar 📅 Right is the sign for a pin point on a map.

On my phone at least.

On my phone the one on the right means that the location is turned on, I'm not sure abou the one on the left
combatbarbie · 08/02/2021 20:01

So far right is location services, 2nd one from left is GPS, 3rd one is calendar. The first one looks like a message symbol of some description.

combatbarbie · 08/02/2021 20:08

OK the 1st one I think is "do not disturb" on the earlier android versions so basically it won't randomly ping or ring for cold callers etc

imonyourway · 11/02/2021 08:29

I hope the police have been in touch. I would hate to be driving around with the phone in the car all the time.

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wrigglewriggles · 11/02/2021 10:15

Not yet. It's all a bit unsettling. Not so much the phone in the car. I don't like it but I also have nothing to hide.
What I don't like is the two faced ness of him at home. Being all nice (sometimes) and trying to make out that he's the reasonable one and I'm in the wrong about everything.
Am also an edge all the time, watching him and trying to catch him accessing the car to get/put back the phone.

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ProfessionalWeirdo · 11/02/2021 10:31

Being all nice (sometimes) and trying to make out that he's the reasonable one and I'm in the wrong about everything.

That sounds like classic gaslighting. What is he hoping to achieve by doing this?

Passthewinebottle · 15/02/2021 09:12

Hope all is well OP x

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wrigglewriggles · 15/02/2021 14:21

All moving a bit slow for my liking on the police side of things.
He's being overly nice, doing all I have been asking of him for the past 9 years. He made me breakfast yesterday, bought flowers and chocolates. It's all manipulative game play. He never did anything for Valentines. When he's like this I start second guessing myself about involving the police. Have to keep reminding myself that he can't keep the nice guy act up for long. He'll be back to swearing at me by the end of the week.

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Passthewinebottle · 15/02/2021 17:11

Bless you. I can't imagine how stressful it must be. He'll never change, keep at it OP x

londongirl12 · 19/02/2021 15:14

How's it going how it going @wrigglewriggles ?

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wrigglewriggles · 19/02/2021 18:34

He's still on best behaviour, which is creeping me out a bit.
Phone is still in the car. Speaking to an officer, in person, early next week.
Am starting to suspect that he has something hidden in my bedroom too. Listening rather than filming. He doesn't go anywhere though so can't really check thoroughly. Might just be being paranoid though ...

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CisMyArse · 19/02/2021 20:19

Please be careful. He's clearly got an idea in his head and is collecting evidence to reinforce it.

What's the hold up with the house sale? The sooner you are free of this man the better.

Never allow him to 'help' you in the new place. He never steps over the threshold..