Hidden phone

[wrigglewriggles]

Possible reasons for my ex (who I unfortunately still have to live with) to be hiding a phone in my car?

Hope you’re doing ok @wrigglewriggles

I'm doing ok.

I still don't know what is going on with the police stuff. Just need to wait. It's so frustrating. Anytime I've called, they can't tell me anything as it's 'not about me'

We had a tricky patch. I suspect he's drinking (hidden in his room) which has resulted in a few confrontations. He's back to being all lovely and reasonable right now - how long it'll last for I don't know. It's nice for the kids though to have peace in the house and he has started taking all of them out sometimes.

House has been valued, will be up on sale within the week and agent thinks it will be snapped up quickly. Have a meeting set up with my bank so I can find out how much I have to spend on a new place. Hate to leave this house. It's in such a perfect location for the children, school, their friends and activities.

We plod on ...

Glad you’re doing ok OP.
Don’t let him lower your guard either.
Good luck with the bank.

and so no charges will be brought. He told the police that he was using the phone to check where the children were not to track me. They don't have enough proof to take it to court. I'm gutted. This is the second time that he's got away with something and it just doesn't feel fair.

On a brighter note. We sold the house (despite his idiotic ways) and I have a new home for myself and the children. Needs some work but feels like a safe space.

Now we need to sort out access to the children. He returned from working away yesterday and has picked the children up without telling me he's back. He claims he's going to keep them for a week. He's angry because I applied for him to pay child maintenance. This is his way to punish me. Our 2 year old has never spent a night away from me. This also all just doesn't feel fair.

It isn't fair. Hope you and DC are ok.

So disappointed to hear this. Utterly frustrating for you. Glad to hear you have your own place now. Unfortunately, you can’t write him out of your life.

I guess next step is some sort of court order for care of the DC so he can't just take abs keep them.

@Santaiscovidfree

Gaffer tape it to a bin truck..

Brilliant idea 😅

@RandomMess

I guess next step is some sort of court order for care of the DC so he can't just take abs keep them.

We're in the process of working through this to get something put in place. I had hoped it would be sorted before we moved but he keeps cancelling the meetings because he works away but then miraculously turns up a day later. We have another meeting in a week or so. I know I can't cut him out of my life. He obviously has a right to see the children and I have no intention of stopping this from happening it's the way he goes about it without any communication. I don't know when I'll see the two year old again - sounds dramatic but it's true. At least I work in the same place as the older children so will be able to have a hug during the day.

If you are in the UK go to court to get an emergency order to have them returned as he is refusing to return them or let you know when he will etc.

His behaviour is NOT ok. He is deliberately doing this to control still.

You need a court out with a penal order attached (think that's the name) where he can be arrested for failing to adhere to it.

I'm sorry but this man is violent and cannot be trusted his games are deliberate.

Speak with rights of women?

@RandomMess, OP isn't in the UK

Didn't think she was so went back and skim read her posts and couldn't see the relevant ones!

You're right I'm not in the UK.

Am in touch with the right people though and hopefully will be able to speak to the case worker who is dealing with the application for primary residency and access tomorrow.

I have a plan and people supporting me. It's all about control, I know this. I need to stay strong and dignified and not shout and scream like I want to.

This is hard and just like the past 18 months I need to keep fighting. I'm tired,I'm emotional, I'm close to feeling defeated. Anytime something has been going right, and I've started to feel happy he pulls a stunt like this. I'm not sure how much more I can take but I will for the children.

Hugs