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Hidden phone

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wrigglewriggles · 02/02/2021 19:18

Possible reasons for my ex (who I unfortunately still have to live with) to be hiding a phone in my car?

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Nat6999 · 03/02/2021 09:50

Tell him the car was broken in to, but you don't think anything was stolen. Let him sweat. Could you afford to have the door locks changed?

BeautifulStar · 03/02/2021 11:41

Personally I don't think that trying to strangle someone is forgivable and would be offering very different advice to my own

Hmm, no I don’t think many people would think that’s forgivable behaviour. Obviously his parents are part of the reason for his minimising personality if they think it’s ok too.
I think you’re being really strong - keep on keeping on x

TheQueef · 03/02/2021 11:51

Are you sure you are safe?
He's definitely up to something nefarious is it escalating?
I hope your cops are on the ball with DV Flowers

PurpleMustang · 03/02/2021 13:09

As you said you ended it, he has obviously put it in the car in the belief that you are seeing someone else and he is trying to get 'proof' as he won't believe that you are strong enough to leave of your own choice.

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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 13:22

@PurpleMustang

As you said you ended it, he has obviously put it in the car in the belief that you are seeing someone else and he is trying to get 'proof' as he won't believe that you are strong enough to leave of your own choice.
This I think sums it up. He's accused me a few times. How he thinks there's time to find someone new with three kids and full time work I don't know.
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VinterKvinna · 03/02/2021 19:00

@VanGoghsDog

Or leave the phone at home but take a photo of it to the police, they'll understand why you can't bring it.
Might be asking a silly question, but how will a photo help?
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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 19:09

I've been asked to phone a police officer tomorrow. Am eager to see what he/she says about it all.

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Jobsharenightmare · 03/02/2021 20:38

Good luck OP.

Passthewinebottle · 03/02/2021 21:35

Hope you're ok OP. Must be hard trying to be normal around him x

Icloud54 · 03/02/2021 21:54

Good luck OP, keep safe and vigilant

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wrigglewriggles · 04/02/2021 11:25

Spoke to the police this morning. There isn't much they can do about him filming me on his phone as it's his home too and he can claim as he's been saying that he's doing it to protect himself.

As for the phone in the car they can't do much there either as he is registered as a co-owner of it and has the right to have a phone in there. However the police officer agreed with me that it sounds like he's trying to track or record me. It is illegal here to track someone and I have now taken him off the car ownership. Once I let him know that has happened then he certainly won't have any reason to keep his phone there and if he continues to do so I can take it further.

Not sure how he's going to react to being taken off the car. He's been asking me to do it for ages but I've been reluctant too as he damaged it while driving and has yet to get it fixed. I'm stuck with a dented car but I suppose it's one less tie to him.

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NelAntartic · 04/02/2021 11:32

I found out that a friend of mine used to put a voice activated recording device under the seat of his wife's car.

He was boasting about knowing her whereabouts and what she was up to and how techy he was - I was amazed at what stuff could be bought for spying - had no idea.

I told his wife.
He's no longer someone I call a friend.

NelAntartic · 04/02/2021 11:33

Play it cool OP until you can officially escape. Give him absolutely nothing, no awareness, no concern, nothing.

It's worrying though - are you safe in that house?

Theunamedcat · 04/02/2021 11:38

If the police don't help can you enlist the help of a uber driver or a ups driver? Just ask them to keep it in there vehicle for the day let him drive himself crazy

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wrigglewriggles · 04/02/2021 11:44

I don't plan on doing anything to make this worse or to let on to him that I know about the phone. I'll just mention I've put the car in my name like he wanted. From there I'll see if he takes the phone or not. If it doesn't go I'll get back in touch with the police.
As fun as it sounds to drive him crazy with the phone travelling all over the place I don't think that will help me in the long run.

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sothisisit2021 · 04/02/2021 11:45

Pop it in water

NelAntartic · 04/02/2021 12:14

Agree with you OP. He's attacked you before, no way should anyone be suggesting any game-playing here.

NotMyPremium · 04/02/2021 16:39

@Theunamedcat

If the police don't help can you enlist the help of a uber driver or a ups driver? Just ask them to keep it in there vehicle for the day let him drive himself crazy
What stupid advice regarding someone who is capable of spying and tracking and you have no idea what they may do if he thinks his wife is going all over the place.

I despair of this place sometimes.

espressoontap · 05/02/2021 10:53

Hope you're ok OP. Sounds very stressful. Can you start recording him for your own protection?

PurpleMustang · 05/02/2021 14:13

Well done on what you have done so far. You mentioned he has accused you of cheating before. Also do remember those that accuse are likely to be doing it themselves. So it may even be on top of tracking you to find who you are seeing as you couldn't be strong enough to leave, he is trying to catch you with a lover before you do him so that he has the upper hand and its all your fault for the split. All just so he can play the 'victim' to anyone that will listen and divert from anything you would say about him and why you left.

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wrigglewriggles · 05/02/2021 15:45

Anyone know what these symbols mean on a Samsung? One is location but what's the ninja looking one?

Hidden phone
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TheQueef · 05/02/2021 15:46

The left one is GPS locator.

TheQueef · 05/02/2021 15:48

You can turn off GPS from the lock screen on mine by pulling down the screen menu.

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wrigglewriggles · 05/02/2021 15:53

Thanks

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wrigglewriggles · 05/02/2021 15:57

Now he knows that the car is only in my name am planning on giving him a few days to get rid of the phone. If it's not gone then I'll be getting back in touch with the police.
I feel that if I let on I know about the phone he'll just try to find another way to track/listen in on me.
Hoping for a peaceful weekend.

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