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wrigglewriggles · 02/02/2021 19:18

Possible reasons for my ex (who I unfortunately still have to live with) to be hiding a phone in my car?

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LOTM · 02/02/2021 21:36

Take the SIM card out.

Jobsharenightmare · 02/02/2021 21:37

Be careful! I think it's better to ring the police and explain and ask them to meet you round the back of a local shop as otherwise he'll potentially track you to the police station. If you're not prepared to do that, it's safer to go on foot/bus/taxi and "lose" the car keys.

VanGoghsDog · 02/02/2021 21:39

But if you hand the phone over to the police they will take it to the police station and he'll know then. She can't give it to the police unless she can be sure it's no longer tracking.

Jobsharenightmare · 02/02/2021 21:41

Surely they will know how to turn off the tracker function, rather than people here advising her though?

Boboparadise · 02/02/2021 21:41

Good luck OP.

usedandabusedx1000 · 02/02/2021 21:55

Firstly, ring the police and explain the situation, surely they will be able to advise you what is best as they may fear you will suffer repercussions if you get caught based on his controlling behaviour.

Secondly, to answer your query, if you were at work for example, he will not be able to tel if the phone is in the car or in the building.

Ariela · 02/02/2021 22:14

Open the back. Take the battery out. This should just turn the phone off. When you pop the battery back in, simply don't turn it back on. It then cannot track you.

CisMyArse · 02/02/2021 22:38

Why do you think he could be tracking or voice recording you? What do you think he's hoping to achieve?

DippingToes · 02/02/2021 22:42

He wants to try and catch you out. It would suit him if he could find out you're seeing someone else so he can then blame you for being the bad one.

That's the way these people's minds work.

Sorry you're going through this Thanks

pursuedbyablackdog · 02/02/2021 22:43

Is it an older phone? Can you remove the battery?

ElizaLaLa · 02/02/2021 22:57

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VanGoghsDog · 03/02/2021 01:00

@Jobsharenightmare

Surely they will know how to turn off the tracker function, rather than people here advising her though?
No-one can turn off the tracker function without the unlock password. Police don't have magic phone passwords.
VanGoghsDog · 03/02/2021 01:02

@Ariela

Open the back. Take the battery out. This should just turn the phone off. When you pop the battery back in, simply don't turn it back on. It then cannot track you.
Have you seen a modern mobile phone? The back doesn't come off mine, the battery cannot be removed at all without specialist equipment.
Lipz · 03/02/2021 01:13

If it were me, I would ring the police and explain what has happened, if they need to see the phone maybe they could arrange to have someone call to your workplace.

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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 01:44

Thank you for all the advice. I think I'll call the police in the morning and see what they say.

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Ch3rish · 03/02/2021 06:49

I know you aren't in the UK but what would the police able to do? Won't they want to talk to your DH and won't he tell them he justleft his phone in the car? I'd worry that you'll have worse repercussions if you involve the police when you have no evidence than that your dh left his phone in you car. Will they take you seriously?

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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 07:00

I don't know how seriously they'll take me but I'm talking to them today anyway about him recording me in the house to see if there is anything I can do to stop him. Will bring up the phone in the car too and see.

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rainbowstardrops · 03/02/2021 07:37

Off on a bit of a tangent but why would he want to track you/your conversations? Are you the one that ended the relationship and he's suspicious? Whatever the reason, it's a bit creepy.

Chanandlerbong01 · 03/02/2021 07:41

Do you have an old handbag you would be willing to lose? Can you claim to have left it on the back seat and someone managed to get in and steal it? The phone could go too then without you even mentioning it! A friend could meet you at “the scene of the crime” and take the phone then in a couple of days drop it off at the police station for you and you go separately to meet them and talk to the police about it with him not tracking you anymore.

PurpleMustang · 03/02/2021 08:07

Before you take it out of where it is, just in case, I would take photos of it there in the pocket. Yes, he could argue you put it there but still may be worthwhile.

TheChosenTwo · 03/02/2021 08:19

How are you talking to them today? Are you calling them? Just mention that you suspect you are being tracked now, tell them that you saw him in your car last night and that there is now a phone in there that wasn’t there before.

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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 09:07

Went to the police station and I have to send them an email with all the details and they'll get back to me!
I left the phone at work. Not sure if he's suspicious that I know but he was waiting at the front door when I came home. He would usually be hidden away in his room.

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Portla · 03/02/2021 09:17

Hope your OK OP. Now the phones out of your car just be vigilant that he doesn't up his game, there's a shocking amount of mini trackers/cameras on amazon.

CaffeineInfusion · 03/02/2021 09:32

Seems to me like he is trying to psych you out. Has he always had a nasty streak?

Don't let him wear you down. Be prepared for the long game, and make sure you have people to talk to when you feel like cracking. But don't let it show.

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wrigglewriggles · 03/02/2021 09:41

Sorry, should have said. After going to the police station I popped back into work to pick the phone up and put it back in the car. I'm not doing anything that I need to hide (apart from going to the police this morning) he can track my boring trips to the supermarket all he likes until I get advice from the police.

He has always had a bit of a nasty streak and I always said I wouldn't want to be in his bad books. Well here I am.

Someone asked if I was the one that ended it. Yes I am after an incident of violence last year towards me. It took me a few months unfortunately after it happened to actually pluck up the courage to officially end things once and for all. He doesn't think that what he did was that bad and even has his parents saying that I should forgive and move on. Personally I don't think that trying to strangle someone is forgivable and would be offering very different advice to my own daughter if they were ever in the same situation. I called the police that time but they did not press charges as there wasn't enough evidence. Very much my word against his and he didn't say anything when questioned.

It's a mess and I'm desperate for this house to sell.

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