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ADs and their gratuitous pussy pictures

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BogRollBOGOF · 28/01/2021 22:10

Welcome in ADs. Snuggle up hygge-style 'cause there ain't much going on out there for a while... except rain.

I haven't got a pussy of my own for gratuitous showing off, so I shall pretend to be Dr Evil with Mr Biggleswade Grin

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LivinLaVidaLoki · 10/02/2021 19:51

I'm never going over there again.
On one thread someone posted that a nursing home I'm germany reported 15 cases after having had the vaccine. None of them are seriously ill but 15 cases in one home is a lot.

Am I being thick or is this actually good news? The vaccine is doing what it's supposed to do and prevent serious illness or death?

LadyCounterblast · 10/02/2021 20:51

@TabbyStar I hear you. It’s shit, isn’t it? Mine’s something to do with reinforced childhood stuff. (I didn’t have a great upbringing.) I had some really good therapy recently and started digging into historic behaviour patterns, which started to help. But then corona hit and everything has regressed. I’m alone a lot too (during the day; DH works in another room, door closed, endless Zoom calls). I end up feeling invisible and useless which triggers the health anxiety.

I hope you get the CBT, or some other form of help, that at least boxes it off a bit.

I also found this book quite useful; Overcoming Health Anxiety by Willson and Veale. It’s a bit dry but quite good around techniques.

TabbyStar · 10/02/2021 21:02

Thanks for that recommendation @LadyCounterblast I'll have a look at that. Yeah I had a shit childhood too, anxiety gets baked into your neural pathways, it's difficult to shake Thanks

DWPmisery1972 · 10/02/2021 21:06

@LivinLaVidaLoki I saw that and thought the same thing... some will never be happy. D’s til the end.

Vintagelovingmum · 10/02/2021 21:28

@FatLadySang I'm breastfeeding a 10 month old (and sometimes a 3 yr old if she is feeling a bit crappy or for bedtime or just to calm her down but definitely trying to cut it down because I can't stand both of them on at once!)
I got offered the vaccine as I'm working at one of the mass vaccination centres. I did have the oxford which I think may make a bit of a difference but not sure if that's related to breastfeeding or just allergies etc. I didn't notice anything in my youngest after I had it, although i had horrible side effects for 48 hours then it all totally disappeared!
Guidance on breastfeeding and the vaccines may have just changed too I think I've seen updates today. Although not much is known about whether it stops you passing it on I feel a bit more comfortable coming into contact with all the elderly and vulnerable people I am every day

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 21:38

I feel pretty down about the "no holidays, even in the UK" thing. I haven't had any time off work since November 2019 and I'm running on empty now.
At the weekend my alcoholic mother's phone was "engaged" for 9 hours. My car has been in the garage for two weeks for repairs, it's old and they have to source parts via the Internet, so I managed to borrow a car, drove 30 miles to knock on her door, she eventually opened it and started screaming "don't shout at me".
Turns out her phone was off the hook (no mobile, WiFi etc. as "I don't believe it's necessary")
I tried to explain I had come to check she was OK, but the tantrum got worse.
Apparently I have committed some horrendous faux pas by sending her a mixed bunch of hyacinths and tulips for her birthday ( it's the hyacinths that seem to have caused the offence).
She culminated by slamming the door in my face.
Yesterday I received a letter telling me I was "obnoxiously rude and unkind" to have checked on her.
I have had enough of this whole situation.
I have had enough of my mother.
I have had enough of shite on line working.
I have had enough of arriving on site an hour early to take a rapid COVID test when I am actually allowed to visit a factory in person
I have just had ENOUGH

FatLadySang · 10/02/2021 21:45

[quote Vintagelovingmum]@FatLadySang I'm breastfeeding a 10 month old (and sometimes a 3 yr old if she is feeling a bit crappy or for bedtime or just to calm her down but definitely trying to cut it down because I can't stand both of them on at once!)
I got offered the vaccine as I'm working at one of the mass vaccination centres. I did have the oxford which I think may make a bit of a difference but not sure if that's related to breastfeeding or just allergies etc. I didn't notice anything in my youngest after I had it, although i had horrible side effects for 48 hours then it all totally disappeared!
Guidance on breastfeeding and the vaccines may have just changed too I think I've seen updates today. Although not much is known about whether it stops you passing it on I feel a bit more comfortable coming into contact with all the elderly and vulnerable people I am every day[/quote]
Thanks. Will check the new updates. I’m pretty sure it will be fine and DH quite keen for me to have it (past pneumonia and asthma means I already have some lung scarring).

FatLadySang · 10/02/2021 21:46

@Weedsnseeds1

I feel pretty down about the "no holidays, even in the UK" thing. I haven't had any time off work since November 2019 and I'm running on empty now. At the weekend my alcoholic mother's phone was "engaged" for 9 hours. My car has been in the garage for two weeks for repairs, it's old and they have to source parts via the Internet, so I managed to borrow a car, drove 30 miles to knock on her door, she eventually opened it and started screaming "don't shout at me". Turns out her phone was off the hook (no mobile, WiFi etc. as "I don't believe it's necessary") I tried to explain I had come to check she was OK, but the tantrum got worse. Apparently I have committed some horrendous faux pas by sending her a mixed bunch of hyacinths and tulips for her birthday ( it's the hyacinths that seem to have caused the offence). She culminated by slamming the door in my face. Yesterday I received a letter telling me I was "obnoxiously rude and unkind" to have checked on her. I have had enough of this whole situation. I have had enough of my mother. I have had enough of shite on line working. I have had enough of arriving on site an hour early to take a rapid COVID test when I am actually allowed to visit a factory in person I have just had ENOUGH
Sending Cake and wish I could make some of this shit go away for you.
justasking111 · 10/02/2021 21:54

[quote FossilisedFanny]@rosettesforjill I chased the hospital and the optician haven’t sent the referral 🙄 . They also said it would take up to ten days to process it.[/quote]
That is so bad. Sorry for this.

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 21:57

FatLadySang thanks for the cake Grin
Much better than flowers. Especially hyacinths.

justasking111 · 10/02/2021 22:00

@Weedsnseeds1 . Forget your mother, mine used to do things like this, put your mum on the back burner and get on with your life. Been NC with mine for over a decade now..... Bliss except for the occasional nasty letter which OH reads and destroys for me.

DWPmisery1972 · 10/02/2021 22:12

@Weedsnseeds1 hugs, I feel for you. The just being plain fucking sick of it all. There are no words of platitude anymore, but know we’re all far away but thinking of you my dear Flowers

DWPmisery1972 · 10/02/2021 22:13

Also I have a cruel mother so I feel you there. SadFlowers

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 22:17

justasking111 I am actually having fantasies about just never speaking to her again.
And it feels amazing.
My sister is the preferred child, but unfortunately I live a lot closer so will be despatched to deal with any incidents.
Which means I get the blunt end of the stick.
I'm frankly amazed she has lived into her 80s as she has been pretty much shitfaced my entire life.
I know punching and kicking your kids was par for the course in the 70s, but she took it to extremes.
I guess we are just conditioned to believe we should love our mothers, whatever their behaviour.
I do think she is developing dementia as she has no recall of recent events, behaves like a bad tempered toddler and constantly lies about even the most inconsequential things.
However, she's been drunk all my life. I can vividly recall her throwing my sister on the floor and kicking her all over her body when we were at primary school for getting paint on her skirt.
I was slapped and punched in the face so many times, I struggle to even recall the catalyst.
It feels quite cathartic to actually say say that.

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 22:23

And thanks DWPmisery
I am strangely enjoying completely losing my rag and baring my soul to a bunch of strangers!

DWPmisery1972 · 10/02/2021 22:35

@Weedsnseeds1 it’s rather therapeutic isn’t it?! The ADs have got me through some hard times recently... strangers are often easier to talk to than people we know. Flowers

DWPmisery1972 · 10/02/2021 22:39

Wow @Weedsnseeds1 that is dreadful. I’m so sorry you were abused that way. If you are concerned that she may be developing some kind of dementia you can call the adult services in your local area; if you go on your councils website (or her council) and make a report- they will involve social services if they deem it necessary. From experience in care, Long term alcoholics Often develop vascular dementia because of the damage to their heart (and liver obvs) but I’m not a dr. X

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 22:54

DWPmisery it was our normal (I'm a twin, just the two of us). I think in the 70s and 80s hitting your kids was fairly accepted, but it was normally more a smacked bottom if you had really pushed it.
She does have heart and liver issues (oddly enough!) but would never equate that with her alcoholism. She doesn't admit she has a problem. When my Dad was dying from heart failure, I was trying to help out around the house. She was so drunk by 11am she fell down the stairs and I had to put her to bed.
She stumbled out at about 6pm and started gnawing the leftover bones on the plates from the meal I inhad cooked for Dad and me. I pointed out she had a plated meal in the microwave.
She was supposed to be going to a club event that evening, my poor Dad had to call the woman who was giving her a lift and tell her not to bother "no, it's self inflicted again".

Weedsnseeds1 · 10/02/2021 23:03

It sounds like I had the childhood from hell, reading back. It was OK actually, but I realise now, that wasn't what it was like for everyone. My Dad was nice to us, but he was at work during the week.

The thing that amazes me is that my sister will leave her in charge of her kids!

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