How to help my partner with his dirty nappy aversion?

[Cleaneatingisawesome]

My partner is a wonderful father to our 6 month old son.

The only thing he's got a big, big problem with is changing dirty nappies. He's okay with urine, but if our son does a poo my partner always starts to gag, like he's about to throw up. The smell and look just makes him feel very sick.

He always calls me for help then, even if I have a lie in.

I'm just worried how he will cope on a day when I'm out of the house and he needs to look after our son himself.

Does anyone have tips how he can overcome this?

He's had an aversion against dirty nappies his whole life and we hoped it would change with his own child, but it didn't.

Great post Shiny . Sorry your ex is such a dick.

@FunkBus

"Is he from a 'traditional culture' i.e. misogynistic?"

So like every single culture in the world then?

True.

But some patriarchies are way worse than others.

What a disappointing flimsy snowflake of a man Shiny, what a jellyfish of a person, no backbone whatsoever 😕

@Yohoheaveho

What a disappointing flimsy snowflake of a man Shiny, what a jellyfish of a person, no backbone whatsoever 😕

That's an excellent description of exdh actually.

Thanks all but fortunately it ended well. Exdh is exactly that Ex. (Still being disney dad but at least I only have to worry about that the weekends the DC are there).

DP is the genuine reasonable man who finds it bizarre that he shouldn't do things for the DC and for himself or me because as he points out He is a fully grown man perfectly capable of doing things for himself and when he came into the family he understood it was equal shares...no opting out of the rubbish jobs. I suppose at least exdh taught me to appreciate an actual adult man who got on with things!

OP the sad thing is , my story is not that unusual. It's easy not to see it at the start but trust me , it brings a lot of pain and stress if you don't deal with it now.

If he can't manage baby's happy how is he going to manage a toddler's?

"my partner started doing these screams. Almost like he was in agony. I felt immediate panic as I thought he had stumbled, fell down and perhaps dropped the baby. I thought something had happened to our son."

Had he seen the ceiling of the Sistine chapel by any chance?

How did today go @Cleaneatingisawesome