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Keep seeing a boy

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 21:40

Hi all

Have been reluctant to post here because I am not sure if I am away with the fairies or if this is real.

Every night, some times every other night I see a boy in my room. Just over my side table. He stares at me, I stare at him. I feel peaceful. He then just disappears? Like just whirls gently and goes. I hope this makes sense.

I do not know him. I do not recognise him. He does not scare me.
Do you think I am dreaming or could this be real?
He came last night. I woke up, checked my phone 3.07am, lay down, closed my eyes, opened them and there he was. He looked a while, smiled and went.

So confused. Any experience in this?

OP posts:
PrinnyPree · 23/01/2021 00:33

When I was little ET (from the film) used to visit my bedroom at night, it scared the shit out of me, I used to hide under the covers when I saw him and after a minute I thought I could feel him patting the top of my duvet trying to find me. (I think it was probably the feathers settling and shifting that added to the effect)

Waking dreams are incredibly vivid, if it hadn't been a fictional movie character and instead just a person I might be convinced that it was a ghost so I can totally understand why people think they see supernatural apparitions. I've not had many waking dreams in adulthood though I'll have to admit. One was seeing a tarantula sized spider on my pillow next to my face, my poor husband got woken up to me screaming and flopping around the bed like a fish, my arms and legs still asleep.

Hope that puts your mind at ease that the boy is most likely just a dream xxx

howdoyouknow123 · 23/01/2021 00:39

I've read this just as I'm
About to go to sleep tonight and I'm absolutely shitting bricks right now.

boobah23 · 23/01/2021 00:40

It sounds like the visual hallucinations caused by sleep paralysis.
www.verywellhealth.com/symptoms-of-sleep-paralysis-3014781#hallucinations

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

Spooky & paranormal
teuer · 23/01/2021 00:42

MakeWorkYourNewFavourite. Up till I was around 12 I got frequent bouts of tonsillitis and ear infections. Often I had really high temperatures and I’d often see what looked like rain pouring down from the bedroom ceiling. I also used to feel the bed was floating up from the floor. I remember asking my grandpa to sit on my bed so it wouldn’t float.

CounsellorTroi · 23/01/2021 00:50

That article does point out that some people sometimes feel comforted by sleep paralysis experiences though it is rare.

LonginesPrime · 23/01/2021 01:10

OP, is that your DS or the 'dream' boy in the photo?

Pickles89 · 23/01/2021 01:35

Are you on any meds at all? I used to see the grim reaper standing by my bed a lot when I was on amitriptyline. Made a change from the giant spiders ON my bed though.

sally067 · 23/01/2021 01:54

Do you have a carbon monoxide alarm? Just double check you don't have a leak or something as carbon monoxide causes hallucinations.

Incrediblytired · 23/01/2021 04:13

Hiya, I work in mental health and just thought I’d share a few things with you.

I’ve assessed A LOT of people who are under a lot of stress (often but not always with a history of traumatic experiences) who have phases of seeing people or children in the manner you have described. Often at the foot of the bed, usually In the bedroom but sometimes sitting in the passenger seat of the car - frequently wearing old fashioned clothes and in the case of adult men, often a hat. All have described feeling calm, reassured and not afraid.

Around 1/6 people are thought to have visual or auditory hallucinations (heading voices) in their lives and it’s totally normal.

Are you under loads of stress? If you are, this could be your body’s way of highlighting it to you. So look after yourself and if this is the case you could consider some primary care talking therapy.

im5050 · 23/01/2021 05:27

Are you taking any medication
I know when I was taking amatrypilne for my back I had the most vivid nightmares
Normally of zombie trying to kill me
I woke up once and ask the dog where the axe was as I had just killed a zombie and my dog was with me in the nightmare

Wobblysausage · 23/01/2021 07:50

Not sure if anyone has that app that records noises in your sleep and you can listen to other peoples. Anyway there’s one in particular of a woman waking up in utter panic and her husband is trying to calm her down and she’s adamant a giant Yorkshire pudding is walking across the bed.

Zakana · 23/01/2021 08:03

@Wobblysausage

Not sure if anyone has that app that records noises in your sleep and you can listen to other peoples. Anyway there’s one in particular of a woman waking up in utter panic and her husband is trying to calm her down and she’s adamant a giant Yorkshire pudding is walking across the bed.
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Northernparent68 · 23/01/2021 08:25

@LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots

What's most likely?

A dream? A tired, yet understimulated mind playing tricks? Nah let's jump straight to ghost!

Seriously, I'd say a dream - you're in bed, drifting in and out of sleep, and have applied some kind of meaning to it. Then it's repeated itself because you're likely thinking "this is what I'm going to see tonight."

Maybe sleep paralysis, though this tends to be accompanied with a feeling of terror or doom, and sometimes a figure standing over you. Similar to sleep terrors I think, but you can't move.

I've been having more dreams than I used to lately - which I put down to being over tired and under stimulated in the current predicament we're in.

Also, do you have any drafts or pipes in your room? There's a certain frequency that can cause hallucinations due to the vibrational waves entering your eye ball - though I believe the visions are usually pretty shapeless. Thought to be the cause of most sightings in 'spooky' feeling haunted houses - cold air moving through an old window frame causes vibrations at just the right frequency...

Or a ghost. Could be a ghost.

It's not a ghost.

This.

I have n’t read the whole thread but it sounds like sleep paralysis. People should n’t encourage the op to think it’s supernatural

CircusMistress · 23/01/2021 08:37

Place mark

OwlLovesTea · 23/01/2021 08:51

No, let's let the dismissive posters encourage her that she's mentally ill, unable to distinguish between being awake and being asleep, that she's on some medication she just forgot about.

It is like a case study in how to invalidate somebody's experience.
This is why I don't tell people what I experienced when I was twenty. I know i was awake, not stressed, not taking any medication, but there's no point convincing others. You're pushing water uphill. People try and box you in to a box called mad/on medication/deluded.

WalrusWife · 23/01/2021 08:56

Seconding the carbon monoxide alarm post. I know someone who was convinced her house was haunted. Routine gas safety check revealed a leak. Leak resolved and the ghost went away.

Crimblecrumble1990 · 23/01/2021 08:58

I think the fact you seem so content when you see the boy might indicate that your vision is being caused by your brain? It knows it is not a threat as it has conjured him?

Have you tried to touch or speak to him?

Rowgtfc72 · 23/01/2021 09:42

Many many years ago when I was sitting my a levels I used to see a boy from a distance stood at my gate on my way home from school. He was blond, wore a white t shirt and always smiled. I stopped seeing him after my last exam. He was very solid and definitely there. Never seen him since.

Franticbutterfly · 23/01/2021 10:05

@MakeWorkYourNewFavourite

When I was little, I had to stay with my grandmother during the summer holiday. She didn't really want me there. It was very tense. I didn't like to bother her. One time, I got what, looking back, must have been a terrible ear infection. TMI... but smelly, green liquid pouring out of both ears. I was in a lot of pain and didn't want to tell her. I was crying in my room and trying to twist bits of toilet paper into my ears to sort it out (for the third night running). Suddenly, this "ghost rain" came pouring down on me. It was rain... but not wet. Made out of... light. And the next morning, no pain... and clear ears. I don't know whether it really was something spooky... or a hallucination. Probably I had a fever, was delerious... and the infection just happened to clear... There's always an explanation. Maybe I was just a little weirdo kid!
This breaks my heart. I'm so sorry you couldn't go to someone to help you. Thanks
Isitbedtimeyet4 · 23/01/2021 10:06

If it continues I would also pop a call to the doctor.
Whilst it’s probably a vivid dream or sleep paralysis etc.. I wouldn’t ignore frequent hallucinations and would recommend getting checked over!

EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide · 23/01/2021 10:23

Very strange!

Arobase · 23/01/2021 10:25

No, let's let the dismissive posters encourage her that she's mentally ill, unable to distinguish between being awake and being asleep, that she's on some medication she just forgot about.

Absolutely nothing to do with mental illness. Some dreams can be very very vivid, some conditions which are not mental illness can cause hallucinations which seem very realistic.

Biscoffaddict · 23/01/2021 10:27

This happened to my Mum once. She fell asleep on the living room sofa and woke up to see a young soldier standing in the doorway. He was wearing modern army clothes and was just staring at her. She said she blinked a few times because she assumed she was dreaming but he was always still there and then just faded away. We don’t know anyone in the army and it scared the shit out of me when she told me, although she said it wasn’t scary at all.

Teddy1970 · 23/01/2021 10:48

@OwlLovesTea

No, let's let the dismissive posters encourage her that she's mentally ill, unable to distinguish between being awake and being asleep, that she's on some medication she just forgot about.

It is like a case study in how to invalidate somebody's experience.
This is why I don't tell people what I experienced when I was twenty. I know i was awake, not stressed, not taking any medication, but there's no point convincing others. You're pushing water uphill. People try and box you in to a box called mad/on medication/deluded.

No one is saying she is mentally ill, they're giving suggestions of what it could be, hallucinations are very common upon waking, I suffer from them fairly regularly it's nothing to do with mental illness.
Flittingaboutagain · 23/01/2021 10:53

I don't think it's a dream I think it a hallucination - not to do with mental illness. They are common. I don't know if you have looked up hypnopompic hallucinations OP.