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Keep seeing a boy

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 21:40

Hi all

Have been reluctant to post here because I am not sure if I am away with the fairies or if this is real.

Every night, some times every other night I see a boy in my room. Just over my side table. He stares at me, I stare at him. I feel peaceful. He then just disappears? Like just whirls gently and goes. I hope this makes sense.

I do not know him. I do not recognise him. He does not scare me.
Do you think I am dreaming or could this be real?
He came last night. I woke up, checked my phone 3.07am, lay down, closed my eyes, opened them and there he was. He looked a while, smiled and went.

So confused. Any experience in this?

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justchecking1 · 22/01/2021 22:27

Google "hypnopompic hallucinations".

Not unusual

nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut · 22/01/2021 22:27

Its probably one of those dreams you have where you're just drifting off or just waking up and the more you think about it, the more you have it.
I think its called a hypnogogic hallucination?

BigBadVoodooHat · 22/01/2021 22:27

@CrotchBurn

Call the police. He sounds unhinged and could be dangerous
Yes, definitely do this, OP.

I can’t think what better advice anyone could offer other than calling the police to report a dangerous and unhinged dream/hallucination/ghost [delete as applicable] and asking them precisely what they plan to do about it.

Do it now, don’t delay!

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:28

When we first moved here 4 years ago a few things happened.

It scared the shit out of me.
I won't tell you as it embarrasses me as one of those cliche 'in a movie' type thing and tbh I don't even think its believable. I do watch a lot of horror and I have finalised that my head was playing tricks back then. That all stopped. Things have been fine. Just this past while i felt slightly uneasy at times. And then he appeared.
When I say uneasy.... just a bit off at times.

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LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots · 22/01/2021 22:29

@Nickysofttouch

No history that I know of.

It is a turnkey house, so new build when we got it.

I agree possibly a dream but for it to happen so often and to be so so real is strange, that is why I ask on this.

I have no MH issues other than PND years ago, apart from that I am pretty well rounded.

You've never had the same dream more than once? I think that's quite normal to happen.

I've had dreams occur multiple times, sometimes bad, sometimes good, usually pretty vague and forgettable. Sometimes extremely vivid, and then only later in the day do I realise it was a dream not a memory!

orangecinnamon · 22/01/2021 22:29

I used to have recurring dreams as a child..I'd wake up in the morning and scissors would be at the end of my bed. Sometimes i'd reach out and touch them.then go back to sleep (or I thought I did probably dream within a dream).

Sure it's nothing probably just as mine were. I mean scissors! How boring for a child to imagine them!

Iwouldrathernot · 22/01/2021 22:31

Have you any changes in your vision? Could be Charles Bonnet syndrome

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:31

Lol i think scissors would spoke me more than this person.
I feel weirdly calm when I see him.

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orangecinnamon · 22/01/2021 22:31

@nothingcanhurtmewithmyeyesshut

Its probably one of those dreams you have where you're just drifting off or just waking up and the more you think about it, the more you have it. I think its called a hypnogogic hallucination?
Ooh yes this must have been my scissor dream! It always happened in the mornings.
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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:31

Spook sorry

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Ideasplease322 · 22/01/2021 22:32

When I was in hospital as a child I had a recurring dream, that then continued on for about a year.

It was very distinctive and I can still visualise the two men I Used to see every night.

They were cartoon characters, but terrifying to a four and five year old.

The mind is an amazing thing.

GallowsHumour · 22/01/2021 22:33

Either a hypnagogic or hypnopompic hallucination, OP. Have no fear, your bedroom is not haunted by a short-haired child in a vest.

LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots · 22/01/2021 22:34

@Nickysofttouch

When we first moved here 4 years ago a few things happened.

It scared the shit out of me.
I won't tell you as it embarrasses me as one of those cliche 'in a movie' type thing and tbh I don't even think its believable. I do watch a lot of horror and I have finalised that my head was playing tricks back then. That all stopped. Things have been fine. Just this past while i felt slightly uneasy at times. And then he appeared.
When I say uneasy.... just a bit off at times.

Is your house built on an ancient Indian burial ground do you know? Wink
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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:34

But yes.

I take all on board. Probably a dream.

Or I am headed to check myself in.

I am not scared to go to bed (my partner is though lol), there is a strong sense of calm.

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Butchyrestingface · 22/01/2021 22:35

Sleep paralysis?

Although I've never known anyone describe that as 'peaceful'.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:37

Nope no burial ground that I know of and tbh I don't believe that would make a difference.

Simply asking if anyone has had this happen. I see a boy. You don't. You don't really have an input here unless you've experienced anything remotely likewise.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:37

Peaceful to a point of thinking, 'stay'.

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DenisetheMenace · 22/01/2021 22:40

Ideasplease322

It’s a dream. Ghosts aren’t real.“

Tend to agree, but hallucinations in stressful circumstances are. Would urge OP to listen to The Battersea Poltergeist, where apparently historical and well documented “supernatural” events are explained by academics in a non-patronising way.
The subjects were genuine, they believed without doubt that they had seen what they thought they had seen, but tests under laboratory conditions explained a great deal about fear, circumstance and the psyche.
Really interesting.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:40

My partner has had terrible locked in dreams.

Many involving a child crying downstairs he cannot get to, a child crawling around side of bed crying and he cannot get up to see,

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HarryElephante · 22/01/2021 22:40

Hypnopompic hallucinations.

Simples.

Mumwithapub · 22/01/2021 22:40

Try getting in touch with a medium.

corythatwas · 22/01/2021 22:42

I used to have a recurring sleep paralysis thing every morning where I thought I got out of bed and walked across the room into the hall to check if any letters had arrived. It was completely lifelike, every time I absolutely believed I was doing it until I reached the door and then suddenly my legs would feel heavy and I would realise I had never moved from my bed at all.

Tistheseason17 · 22/01/2021 22:46

My nan used to tell me a story about how she saw a little girl whilst she was washing up, just outside the kitchen window and then walk into the kitchen like a real person, and then disappear. Then minutes later my mum (her DD) told her she was pregnant and my nan says she knew it would be a girl - it was.

Ltdannygreen · 22/01/2021 22:47

I have a woman in our house, I’m not scared. I’ve seen her standing by my sons bed many times since he was one. I’ve woke up to her watching me sleep. My mum has seen her. It’s hard to explain. But it’s like it’s clear it’s a woman with grey hair, she wears like a black gown from Victorian days but I can never quite make out her face. My Nan used to see her but she died in this house 2 years ago and I don’t see the other woman much anymore. I’ve seen shadows float down the hall despite me being alone in the house. When we first moved here for like the first 4 years every night without fail our deodorants would fall off the shelf at exactly 1:03 am, it doesn’t happen as much now. There was a time about 8 months after my Nan died me and DP were talking in bed, it was really muggy that night, and no cooler than 18 degrees, we were finding it hard to get to sleep. Next thing we both felt this really sharp coldness at the bottom of the bed, so I looked over and made out a shadow by my boyfriends side. It’s happened a few times. I think unless you experience it you don’t believe. It definitely brings truth to the saying seeing is believing.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 22:49

@corythatwas
Wow that is very interesting.
Do you know what triggered it?

Its strange because all of my senses are there, I usually see the light cracking through the door as usual. I can smell our diffuser we have on every night (lemon grass), i can usually hear my partner snoring or heavy breathing and 9/10 I will have a puff of my vape at some point either before of after 'vision' /dream, whatever it is.

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