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Keep seeing a boy

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 21:40

Hi all

Have been reluctant to post here because I am not sure if I am away with the fairies or if this is real.

Every night, some times every other night I see a boy in my room. Just over my side table. He stares at me, I stare at him. I feel peaceful. He then just disappears? Like just whirls gently and goes. I hope this makes sense.

I do not know him. I do not recognise him. He does not scare me.
Do you think I am dreaming or could this be real?
He came last night. I woke up, checked my phone 3.07am, lay down, closed my eyes, opened them and there he was. He looked a while, smiled and went.

So confused. Any experience in this?

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:17

Yes I will try to sit up etc. It will prob happen tonight or tomorrow night judging by past events
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Partner told me before his mum arrived one night, at end of bed, he closed his eyes 4 times and opened again before she disappeared. He was calm etc.

Unless ive had a missed miscarriage I have no idea who it is. But he is lovely and gives me a lot of content.

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BikeRunSki · 22/01/2021 23:20

My dad used to see his dad in his bedroom. He first saw him the night he died, but before dad knew he’d died iyswim. But my dad was actually away with the fairies.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:20

I am not seeing ninja nuns. Yes i do be stressed, at reasonable amounts, but I am explaining a boy. He is not sneaky. He is just there. I do not believe in him as such. That why I think I am slightly loosing it. Your cousin obv seen a lot more than what I do.

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RedFolder · 22/01/2021 23:22

@nickysofttouch I have had something like this. I used to see a young girl in my bedroom, either just before falling asleep, or waking in the night. I was never scared and always got the feeling that she needed me and I should help her. I would often ask her what she needed, but she never responded.

Then I started seeing her just around the house, when I was fully awake, eg sitting on the sofa with a cup of tea, she would walk across the room. As real as you or I walking across a room. Again I would feel protective of her.

Whilst I won’t say 100% that ghosts aren’t real, I don’t believe she was a ghost, or anything else supernatural. I can’t really explain it, but she felt more like something that my subconscious needed me to see, rather than a separate entity who was there of her own accord. I think she was a ‘figment of my imagination’, for want of a better phrase.

She slowly stopped coming around and I more or less forgot about her. Years later, after counselling for childhood issues, I started thinking about her again (not seeing her). I believe she was a manifestation of me when I was a little girl, who needed someone to look after her and nurture her. And I believe it was my subconscious trying to tell me to listen to the little girl inside me, notice her, help her.

Just another perspective.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:22

@BikeRunSki

How do you know though?
Maybe he wasn't and he did indeed see that.

My own mother seen her dad the night before he died. He said "joan you will be ok"

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Goldieloxx · 22/01/2021 23:23

I grew up in a very old house where a young woman would sometimes appear, it was mainly children who would see her and ask who she was, it just kind of became normal to us

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:24

@RedFolder
Thank you so so much for this.

You have really made me think (and nearly cry) that this could be possible.

Thank you. I have had a lot go on. I cant say for sure thats what it is but thank you for your advice

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WishingHopingThinkingPraying · 22/01/2021 23:29

Theses are not ghosts. They are normal sleep hallucinations. I get them at times. I have even run my arm back and forward through them at times. It's the weirdest feeling and can take me a moment to reframe what I'm seeing and make them disappear. But it's usually people. www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321070#symptoms

Zakana · 22/01/2021 23:30

My son at the age of two, when going through the hallway to his bedroom to go to bed, would wave and say “night grandad”. The thing is, my dad died 15 years before and my son hadn’t seen any pictures of him at all, and described him to me, exactly as my dad was! Around the same time, we had a bloody horrible doorbell which used to play a sinister sounding rendition of Greensleeves, I took the batteries out as I couldn’t bear it, it went off one night at 1am, went to check door, only after I had checked door did I remember there were no batteries in the sodding thing.....and I don’t believe in that type of thing and am not in the least bit “fey”, I’ve never forgotten it or been able to rationalise it.

TiddyTid · 22/01/2021 23:31

I believe you OP. Our previous house had odd going's on. Our neighbours used to experience stuff at the same time (was previous 18th century house split into two). I was even physically "assaulted". I put that in "" but I was physically hurt by something and have the photos to prove it. I ended up getting quite fond of our guest but we've moved since and was hoping he would follow but he hasn't

CounsellorTroi · 22/01/2021 23:40

@Nickysofttouch

I always have woke up before this. So been asleep, woke up and lay there or woke up, checked phone, or one time woke up, used loo, lay down and he is there. Every time has involved me closing my eyes for a while and then when they open he is there
You can think you have woken up but still be dreaming. This has happened to me.
Hydrate · 22/01/2021 23:41

I think you are hallucinating, and need to see a doctor. Don't brush it off as something spiritual, you are a parent and should get a mental health professional to see what is going on.

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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:45

This is how far he is from my head. If that is any relevance.

Keep seeing a boy
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Nickysofttouch · 22/01/2021 23:47

@Hydrate
What would the difference be if I was not a parent??
I still parent. I am still a person. This is a slight sight of my life when everyone is ASLEEP!!!!!!

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Teddy1970 · 22/01/2021 23:55

Hypnagogic Hallucinations? I sometimes have these on waking up, in fact just the other morning I'd just woken up, sat upright in bed going beserk because DH can't see the MASSIVE spider (think the size of your hand ) crawling up the wall, it's quite horrific, as I'm watching the spider DH is trying to calm me and I wonder why he can't see it! The whole episode lasts for about 10 seconds when the spider eventually fades, it's awful!

Teddy1970 · 22/01/2021 23:58

Just for info I don't do illegal substances!

OwlLovesTea · 22/01/2021 23:58

I experienced it, 30 years ago.
I was wide awake, my eyes were definitely open, in fact I had insomnia. It was a man's face I saw. I knew it was ODD, so I got out of bed and turned the light on. But as soon as I turned the light off I saw him again. It wasn't frightening for some reason. I felt he was calming me.

Hasn't happened before or since. Most people just say hmmmmm. Had you had night nurse? or ''you were dreaming you were awake''.

LeopardsCANTChangeTheirSpots · 22/01/2021 23:59

@BikeRunSki

My dad used to see his dad in his bedroom. He first saw him the night he died, but before dad knew he’d died iyswim. But my dad was actually away with the fairies.
Haha This one always makes me laugh - then despair at how often people think it means something!

Usually it's embellishment and misremembering what dreams occurred and when.

But also, why would it be something 'spiritual' happening just because someone dreamed about someone else, then tho and behold the someone else had passed?... generally our most reoccurring dreams are the most 'mundane', they recall familiar places and familiar faces. What about all the times they dreamed about that someone else and they didn't die the same night?

victoriaspongecake · 23/01/2021 00:01

Cheese. Don’t eat so much cheese before bed.

CounsellorTroi · 23/01/2021 00:03

Have you tried sleeping facing away from your bedside table?

Hawkmoth · 23/01/2021 00:04

I would advise a nice chat.

We have a busy old house, mostly corner of the eye stuff but did have a figure in the bedroom one night. Did some digging and it was the anniversary of previous owner's death (in the house). I'm not fussed. I hope I live here long enough to want to hang around after.

Gogglebox20 · 23/01/2021 00:06

Are you going through any particular crisis at the moment (other than covid of course) or are you anxious/stressed due to covid?

Arobase · 23/01/2021 00:09

It's very obviously a dream. Recurrent dreams are not at all uncommon.

SickToDeathOfThis · 23/01/2021 00:11

I think you’d have a sense if this was a problem or a type of malevolence .. he sounds sweet. Likely a manifestation of your subconscious so I’d suggest you continue to nurture warm loving thoughts about this ‘boy’ as I would suspect ‘he’ represents a vulnerable aspect of yourself that needs comfort & positivity.

VenusTiger · 23/01/2021 00:30

I experienced recurring nightmares as a child of about 5/6 but the nightmare would only happen when I woke up - in other words, I would see it playing out in front of me - terrifying! My DS7 had a bout (about 3 months) of night terrors and would sleep walk !!! He had/has no recollection (which is apparently normal for terrors).
I've experienced dreams that have happened as I've dreamt them (has happened twice) and sleep paralysis (only during daytime naps) which are also terrifying the first few times (had to look them up!) Also, several years ago I had a physical experience which really frightened me.
OP, leave a pen and paper by your bed and next time it happens, make a point of writing a sentence (decide what it will be before you go to sleep) and another sentence that you've not planned - you'll know if you were fully awake or not then.