Do you have any secrets that could ruin someone's life?

[LivingInAPrettyWorld]

Just something I've been thinking about. A few years ago in my mid 20s I was friends with a much older man at work, who I saw as a fatherly /grandfather figure. I was going through a rough time with my mental health, plus bereavements and I had no friends or family support. He was there for me and I used him as a confidant and shoulder to cry on, so to speak.

I was naive and really did think saw me in a similar way - like a daughter or niece or something. I was also emotionally all over the place so I didn't see the signs, which looking back were there. One day in his car he held me against the seat and kissed me on my mouth, and put his hands up my thigh, and up the back of my top. I was so stunned and tried to move back but he wouldn't let me move and kept moving my head back. Fortunately it didn't go any further than that. He then told me he was in love with me and never felt like that about anyone.

I didn't tell anyone because I think people would have thought I led him on as I put myself in that situation. I never met him alone again, and he turned quite nasty towards me as well as tried to manipulate me. He has a wife who obviously hasn't a clue. It would bring her world crashing down if she knew and I'm sure if she did, she would blame me as I know she was besotted with him. It will be a secret I take to the grave as I'm so ashamed about it and how dumb I have been.

Hi Op

Potential could ....😕😯
"To be or not to be etc"

I believe in Karma an have seen how this can work in mysterious ways..

Yes, quite a few. People know that when they tell me something it goes no further and it stays with me to the grave

I commented above that people tell me secrets and it made me wonder why. I thought it might be like @Shodan says but then I realized that can't be why as by definition no one person knows that I keep other people's secrets so unless it's the same person with multiple secrets swim then I can't think why it would be

Person B has no idea that person A told me a secret so how would they know I'm trustworthy . I have no idea

@rosetylersbiggun

The wife of a very famous British actor has a Twitter account under a fake name that she uses to obsessively monitor everything that's said about her husband online. If anyone even tangentially connected to him tweets something she doesn't approve of (not gossip or anything negative, literally like the official Twitter account for the film her husband is shooting tweeting behind the scenes photos of him, or BBC1 radio technicians tweeting they're excited to meet him) she'll phone up and scream at them and demand they're fired for not getting her permission first.

When they first married she was given a hard time by a small group of nutters who really hated her, so she pretended to be one of them (i.e. pretended she hated... herself) in order to gain access to their private groups and locked social media accounts. Her profile picture is an orangutan.

Oooh SH??

My female colleague had an affair with a married man. She got pregnant and kept the child. They still live a few miles away from each other. His wife and other children are oblivious. My colleagues daughter knows the truth and really wants to make contact with her siblings. It's a ticking time bomb.

Oh @Laylared, I think we have the same friend! Does he live on the coast?

@Whiskysoda

Oh *@Laylared*, I think we have the same friend! Does he live on the coast?

Wouldn't that be something but realistically women getting pregnant from affairs happens every day and sadly lots of those children have no relationship with their fathers.

First time I did OD I met a guy whilst I was at uni. After a couple of good dates he ghosted me. I had a look at his Facebook profile and saw that he had a girlfriend from Sixth Form so they had been together at least 2-3 years by the time he set up a dating profile and met me. Wow I was mad.
I then saw them out together in town and also saw her with a friend in a club bathroom. I didn't tell her because I doubted she would have believed me.

I see from Facebook over the years that they got married, got dogs and two boys now.
This thread has made me check my chat history and it's still there with him. I couldn't ruin her or her kids life that. I just hope he's changed his ways since his early twenties. We're early thirties now.

No, inner city. I don't know how he can live with the stress of it all. I'd have to come clean!

Sorry that happened op.

I had a friend in uni. We're not friends anymore she was really bitchy. She cheated on her then boyfriend now husband multiple times. They now have children and live in dubai (I searched her on fb a while ago). I don't think he would forgive her as she swore me to secrecy at the time. But don't know if it would seem small now and no big deal.

My friend's ex and father of her child is signed with a record label and is becoming moderately well known. He has a criminal record and spent time in prison. I assume his lavle know as the assess risk very carefully. But I think it might harm his image if it got out in public. He's a massive cunt so I'd love to do this especially if he got more famous. But I don't have proof.

I don’t, and thank fuck! I’d hate to have the weight of someone’s massive secret on my shoulders! I most probably would struggle to keep it, too; I’m far too honest! 🤣

I'm not the only one that knows this, but I do know that a popular local "pillar of the community" figure in my home town has chlamydia. He was my friend's first serious boyfriend and she ended up with pelvic inflammatory disease and subsequent fertility issues due to him. It's definitely him who gave it to her because she hadn't had sex with anyone else.

Yes. I know of a well known TV celeb who has been shagging behind his wifes back.

Yes, all to do with cheating but they aren't my secrets so they don't weigh heavy on me whatsoever

A married female colleague at work (in her mid-40’s) with two kids has been shagging a 24yr old male colleague, who’s also a student. She knows I know.

She’ll never leave her DH for him but she’s in love with him. The affair’s been going on for years. He’s got a girlfriend aged 24 & they live together. I would never tell. But I do think the shit will hit the fan as she’s so besotted with him she’ll never be able to let him go

A Latin American film actor. He is still in the closet not to upset his father. Pretty sure he will come out once he is gone.

I know a couple who have split up because he had a one night stand.
His teenage dc blamed him completely.

What they don’t know is that when the eldest was a baby the mum left for a few weeks to live with another man and only returned because she was pregnant. Second child definitely the husband’s.
Husband forgave her for many years but she couldn’t forgive him and tells everyone that he was unfaithful whilst never mentioning her own adultery.
The exh has never said a word.
If his dc found out the truth it would certainly change their viewpoint.

all BrutusMcDogface 😂😂😂

Yes one is a celeb who is not at all as straight as he is held out to be.

the other is a cheating man (although I have no idea how much his partner knows).

My neighbour’s husband left her for a “wonderful” woman. My neighbour was going to stay with her married daughter for a few days and her husband was coming to the house to collect some stuff and cut the lawn. Neighbour asked me to keep watch as she was not happy with new woman going into her house. I was truthfully able to tell her he didn’t bring “wonderful” woman. What I didn’t tell her was I saw him kiss the male friend he brought with him.

@twinsufficient

My brother's fiancee doesn't have a clue that he had a vasectomy after leaving his first wife. He then had a reversal and is hoping it all works out so he doesn't have to tell her...🤦‍♀️

I’m horrified at this..don’t know why it’s worse then some of others....but that’s appalling. Could you pressure him to get a sperm test or say that you’ll tell her.....it will come out if they do have infertility problems and it’ll be devastating for both of them.

Yes, a highly inappropriate relationship when I was 14 with a 30 year old with a fiancé; who now have children together and I could easily trace. But, haven’t and not sure I ever will

My siblings and I know things about my dad and things he’s done in the past. We decided not to say anything to my mum though as it would destroy her.
Don’t know anyone famous and certainly no secrets about anyone famous!!

Yes. My old boss. He did something awful but I don't know if I believe him.
If it's true it would ruin him

My sister’s boyfriend had a baby with a 13 year old when he was 35.

Thing is, most of the family know this, but dismiss it as, ‘everyone makes mistakes’.

He’s a Walter Mitty storyteller. He roadie-d with bands/invented the stair gate/ etc and is generally ‘harmless’ by nature.

So he gets to volunteer in vulnerable people’s centres including a children’s centre, nobody aware that he statutory raped a child in his 30s. Presumably he wasn’t put on the offenders register at the time or it expired so his DBS is clear, who knows. Maybe social services thought it was acceptable because the pair of them were ‘dating’ at the time.

Anyway, considering they both now run a Facebook ‘charity’ page, it’s a lot of balls to keep in the air, because one person publishing this piece of history would cause some backlash.

My sister went to great lengths to ensure I never mentioned this including exiling me from most of the family. Unaware it isn’t something I would expose in the first place, but that is her loss for not knowing her own sister well enough to realise my morals are far better.

Tina that isn't something I could ever cover up. It's disgusting if true (could it be another one of his lies?)