DD12 wants to spend £92 on Robux

[IndieTara]

She had £220 of Christmas money ( mostly from her dad who claimed not to know what to buy her )
A few days ago she gave me £80 cash and asked me to transfer the equivalent into her bank account as she wanted to shop on Amazon.
So I did.
She bought a hat and spent £50 on a Robux e gift card and had some change.
20 mins later she went Into her bedroom And I realised I could here something. Turns out she'd been scammed of the Robux on Adopt Me and was crying her heart out. This is not the first time she's been scammed on there and we have had many conversations on the subject.

Tonight she has asked me to transfer money into her Go Henry account again. When I asked why she told me she wants to spend £92 on Robux.

Now obviously it is her money but I can't help thinking that it's a complete waste of money too. I really want to say no but also know that she should be allowed to spend her own money on whatever she wants. We both also know that if she asked her dad to do the same he would flat out refuse.
What should I do?

Say no.

Say no. What a waste of money

She's 12. She needs you to say no and to stop her losing more money.

Sounds like she doesnt have the maturity necessary to play the game at all tbh, I'd be putting my foot down on that one and there would be no more Roblox.

And at 12, I'd be reminding her of the saying "fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me".

Say no and help her understand that she's already learned an expensive lesson

I would say hell no. My dd has just turned 12 and she can't buy anything online without my card, and my password. No way would i let her chuck her money away like that.

Not a chance. Say no.

Say No.
Put the rest in a junior ISA. She'll thank you later

It’s be a no.
She needs a reality check about the value of money. That £92 could feed a family for two weeks.

@Longdistance seriously??
It's her money and whilst I'm glad every poster has come down on my side to say no I think you're very OTT.
She's having a hard enough time not being able to go to school and see her friends without me putting that on her too.
Whilst I'm at it shall I guilt trip her too as Ive been made redundant and could put that money to good use?
Get a grip

Definitely no! Whenever my children get money for Xmas/bday, I allow them £10 for robux. That’s my limit!

The kindest thing you can do is say no. I hate that stupid game. Robux and minecoins should be banned. I would see if you can come up with a list of real stuff that she might like. for your DD and you.

I agree with Longdistance - she's 12, that's plenty old enough to start a discussion about how far the money she wants to waste would go if it was spent on other things. I'd also be telling her how many hours work it would take you or her dad to earn that money. Otherwise how is she ever going to learn?

No. My DS wanted to spend his Christmas money on v-bucks but I told him no more than £20 of it. Seems such a waste.

Absolutely not, she had 50 quid and lost it which is sad for her, but she clearly doesn't know her way around the games she's playing well enough to keep herself safe. I would maybe let her have £10 or £20 but ultimately no more than that. Especially if the money was a gift from her dad and you know he would say no

Agree, say no.

Yes, its a difficult time but her behaviour implies she doesn't have much concept of the value of money. She's 12 so not unusual but old enough to start learning. I wouldn't present this as a punishment but maybe this is something you need to instil.

Perhaps this time off at home would give her some opportunity. Maybe she could plan the food shopping for a few days on a budget for instance? Something to help her realise what £92 actually equates to.

I’m a bit soft like you op but we’re not doing the dc any favours. My daughter is 12 too and if I let her she’d spend her birthday and Christmas money on crap.
She currently has €100 burning a hole in her pocket but until she convinces me that what she wants to buy is worth the money then it won’t be getting spent.

Missed it when you said she had been scammed before - you may as well go outside and throw her money down the drain in that case if she's not learning from the experience. If you want to let her have some can you supervise what she spends it on so she doesn't immediately lose it?

Her dad gave her the money.

I'd get him to discuss its use with her and it's value.

It may be better coming from him as it's less "mum won't let me spend the money dad gave me"

I agree with Longdistance, sounds like you're too soft.

Longdistance I hear you!!
The OP has a chance here to teach her DD a life lesson about the value of money. If she wants money to spend on Robux, let her earn it. Give her a list of chores and the value attached to them. Let her take the dog for 90 walks (no more than 3 per day,) she will have the money in a month. Or wash the dishes for all three meals. By the time she has worked for that money she will be less likely to throw it away on computer games.
She will also be helping her family, which is another life lesson.

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Poor kid. You’re doing the right thing.

she should be allowed to spend her own money on whatever she wants

You are confusing 12 with 18!! A 12 year old child needs you to step in and explain why what they want to do is foolish and that you are not going to let them do it!

Hell no. Now is a lesson on wasting money

Say no tell her you will take her shopping once aloud to buy something decent. Tell her to save it yes its her money but how will she learn responsibility if she's aloud to just waste it like that.