DD12 wants to spend £92 on Robux

[IndieTara]

She had £220 of Christmas money ( mostly from her dad who claimed not to know what to buy her )
A few days ago she gave me £80 cash and asked me to transfer the equivalent into her bank account as she wanted to shop on Amazon.
So I did.
She bought a hat and spent £50 on a Robux e gift card and had some change.
20 mins later she went Into her bedroom And I realised I could here something. Turns out she'd been scammed of the Robux on Adopt Me and was crying her heart out. This is not the first time she's been scammed on there and we have had many conversations on the subject.

Tonight she has asked me to transfer money into her Go Henry account again. When I asked why she told me she wants to spend £92 on Robux.

Now obviously it is her money but I can't help thinking that it's a complete waste of money too. I really want to say no but also know that she should be allowed to spend her own money on whatever she wants. We both also know that if she asked her dad to do the same he would flat out refuse.
What should I do?

Say no, obviously

She's going to be home for at least 6 weeks. Spending all that money now is crazy. What will she do in a few weeks?

Have you thought about getting a monthly subscription? You get free Robux each month as a benefit (not £92 worth!) that way her money will last longer iyswim

I also agree with Longdistance. At that age I spent a similar amount on tat in one afternoon (city centre mall shopping!). We were a low income household and my savings were accumulated birthday money. My mum confiscated my bank book and I didn't get it back until I was 14.

I mean this kindly, but if you don't teach her the value of money now, when is she going to learn? Would you rather her learn when she's got a roof to keep over her head and bills to pay? I know far too many people whose parents never taught them and they're constantly in the red, despite having good jobs (obviously people can have circumstances beyond their control etc., but that's not what I'm talking about).

OP you were very rude to @Longdistance I'd say you need to get a grip. Be a parent, stop her wasting it. You are supposed to be the adult.

To be clear to those who have noticed that I said it's not the first time she's been scammed in Roblox before, the other time she was scammed for Adopt Me pets not currency.
She gets £6 a week Pocket money and I make her save £3 of it each week In Her account. Consequently she has £3 per week to play with which she usually spends on Robux. Christmas is the first time she's had any large amount of money available to her that she wanted to do something with, so I think as another poster said it's burning a hole in her pocket

If she's falling for scams more than once she's not mature enough to be playing these types of games.

Say no.

You're basically encouraging gambling, she's lost £50 and hasn't been fazed by it so wants to gamble another £92. What happens when that goes ? Does she start stealing ? How will she buy the money to get the fix in such a huge way ?

There are no boundaries or limits and these should always be in place when placing any sort of bet or taking any risk........you're sending your dd down a very worrying path if you just allow her to waste £92 on sometimes that doesn't even exist and she may well end up losing again.

How exactly was she scammed out of that much money? All on one Roblox game? Did she just give it over to another person who said they'd give her something but was lying or did she just waste it on stuff she didn't enjoy and afterwards realised wasn't worth it?

Just to note that if she’s been scammed on Adopt Me, you can report to Roblox and they should make some attempt to recover her pets or reset it to how it was before she was scammed. Contact them.

But no, I wouldn’t be letting her spend the money either.

My daughter has spent some of her Xmas money, about £200 of it on robux. Its worth it to her. She has to check with us first but it’s her money so we don’t say no.
If she’s being scammed then she needs more help from you.

[quote IndieTara]@Longdistance seriously??
It's her money and whilst I'm glad every poster has come down on my side to say no I think you're very OTT.
She's having a hard enough time not being able to go to school and see her friends without me putting that on her too.
Whilst I'm at it shall I guilt trip her too as Ive been made redundant and could put that money to good use?
Get a grip[/quote]
It may be her money but she doesn’t have the maturity to protect herself, at 12 that is your responsibility. If she wanted to do something physically dangerous would you say it’s her body?of course not you would intervene.

@Ohalrightthen she has been scammed twice in approx a year playing the game. The first time was trust trading pets. Then the £50 of Robux

@BadTattoosAndSmellLikeBooze she has been scammed twice. Once on a trust trade and then the £50 of Robux. And of course I talk to her about it, Support her and try to give her ways of spotting scammers, not putting her trust in online strangers etc.

[quote IndieTara]@Ohalrightthen she has been scammed twice in approx a year playing the game. The first time was trust trading pets. Then the £50 of Robux[/quote]
Yeah, as i said, it sounds like she isn't mature enough to be playing these games!

This is interesting. I'd always been in the 'no way, it's a waste of money' camp until I read a couple of threads on here saying that Robux are no more 'worthless' crap than a piece of plastic rubbish that a child might get from a toy shop that's broken or forgotten about in a few days.

Which I think is a fair point.

I have a Roblox obsessed 11 year old and I can see that Robux in small amounts and not frequently do give him pleasure.

Could she use her Xmas money to 'top up' her Robux from maybe £3 to £5 per week?

Just a thought. That way she still gets more Robux, but also has cash should she want to buy something else.

@Ember89 thank you, yes I was aware and I did try too

But I do agree with smaller amount of cash at one time.

There does seem to be a lot of scamming on these sites, and if they need to learn the hard way it's better that it's with a few quid rather than more.

My son had his roblox account hacked & they spent all his robux within minutes, he was at his dads at the time so he delt with it but he contacted them & they reimbursed his lost robux so maybe worth contacting them. I only ever let him spend a small amount on Roblox of any money he gets given, he then saves the rest or spends it on something more useful.

Get a grip yourself! £92 on a crappy game is a waste of money. Your kid isn’t the only one having a hard time. Hell would freeze over if I’d let my dds waste that on a game. You took your eye off the ball and now you’re pissed off.

she has been scammed twice. Once on a trust trade and then the £50 of Robux. And of course I talk to her about it, Support her and try to give her ways of spotting scammers, not putting her trust in online strangers etc.

My daughter got scammed once. Now she has to ask us before she does stuff and one of us or her older brother does it with her. We reported it and got it back and she’s very, very careful now.
I would just be there when she wants to but or trade, that’s what works for us.

Say no! I’ve never allowed my kids to spend a penny on roblox. They completely accept it and they are teens now. They have fun all the same. I have not stopped them buying the odd skin or whatever on fortnite but it has to be approved by me. Yes it’s their money but they are learning not to squander it on crap! Just like we always walked right through the gift shop at theme parks. When we very occasionally bought them something they were grateful! Don’t get me wrong they’re completely spoiled in other ways but we don’t often waste money

Get a grip yourself! £92 on a crappy game is a waste of money. Your kid isn’t the only one having a hard time. Hell would freeze over if I’d let my dds waste that on a game. You took your eye off the ball and now you’re pissed off.

🙄 If the child likes and enjoys it, it’s not a waste of money.

I'm with longdistance too.
She lost £50 and straight away wants to risk another £90+.
She has no concept of money and you are doing her no favours.
Yes it is hers but it would feed a family of 4 for a week.
It would take a couple of days to earn that much on minimum wage.

There isn't anything wrong with pointing that out.

My kids have never been able to spend online. They have to ask before downloading anything and they are older than your DD

@Longdistance I'm not pissed off in the slightest. It was her £50 she lost not mine. I did hope she would learn from it though.
And yes I think it's a crappy game. Unfortunately millions of kids aged 7 and Upwards don't.

A 12 year old shouldn’t be getting scammed. At that age she should be running purchases by you so that you can check she’s buying from a legitimate source! My son was really into robux at the same age and I would never have let him spend that kind of money on it. It’s a parents job to teach their kids how to spend money wisely so that they don’t end up in debt by the time they’re twenty.