DS saw me and DH in the bath together

[CharDee]

DS was fast asleep last night and I decided to have a glass of wine and watch something in the bath. Dh came up to refill my glass after a little while and then he got in with me (I emptied most of the water out and filled it up again).!

Anyway, we were sat with wine last night just talking about plans for the next few days when DS walked in. DH was sat behind me and I was leaning back on him. DS asked what we were doing and DH just said having a relax in the bath. He came over to the bath and asked if he could have a bath with that many bubbles next time. We said he could, he went to the toilet and then back to bed. Didn't think any more of it.

Today we were talking to my sister on FaceTime and DS said to her that he was getting a bath with as many bubbles as mummy and daddy had when he saw us in the bath last night. Later my sister told me that it was really irresponsible and inappropriate for DS to have seen us like that and that it might cause problems later on. She couldn't explain what exactly it was that made it irresponsible though.

I just laughed at her and said he was fine, didn't actually see anything anyway apart from us just having a bit of a cuddle together.

I told DH and he said he feels a bit awkward about others knowing we were in the bath together but can't explain why.

I don't see the problem with it at all and all DS was bothered about was the number of bubbles we had! He would usually be asleep all night and wouldn't have even have known we were in there.

Does anybody else do this or can anyone tell me what is actually wrong with doing this?!

Sounds fine to me

Nothing is wrong with doing that op. I can only think that your sister thought you were doing something else together in the bath!

Providing there was no visible sex or anything along those lines, I think it's completely fine.

Shame on you for hoarding all the bubbles from DS though

Don't think it sounds weird at all unless DS is like 15 🤣

Your sister is weird and probably jealous. not like you were shagging!

Completely fine.

Your sister is either bonkers or scarred in some way.

Your ds on the other hand will never forget you ration his bubbles, but go mad on bubbles yourself. He will never forget that.

Probably actually quite good to see some affection and love between parents. Not sure what "problems" it would cause?

I think the fact that your little one was only impressed by the number of bubbles tells you that he saw nothing untoward or odd about mummy and daddy having a bath!

I personally think it's not appropriate but I am a bit of a prude

YANBU - It’s not like you were shagging! What would she have preferred you do - leap out of the bath like you were doing something wrong? Then you’d have had wobbly bits flying everywhere!

I understand why your DH is a bit uncomfortable about your sister commenting on an intimate moment between you and him though - I like my privacy too so I’d feel a bit awkward!

I'm jealous you can both fit in the bath without it coming through the ceiling

You can make up for his obvious irreparable trauma by buying him some bubble bath

There is nothing wrong at all

Nothing wrong at all. Assuming you weren’t actually having sex then it’s fine.
So your DS saw his parents who are in a loving relationship having a cuddle a relax? What is there to work about.

Totally fine.

My parents often had baths together when I was a young child and I remember going and sitting on the floor and having a chat with them, wasn't a weird thing at all!

Absolutely fine, nothing to worry about.

Me and DH would never do this

We're totally mismatched with our temperature needs for a start . At his temp I'd feel like I was sitting in puddle water, and at my preferred temp, he'd think he was in the pit pools of Hades (if I don't go maroon, it's not hot enough)

Not to mention, these days more than an inch of water would see us splashing over the edge

Absolutely no problem there at all!

Not really any different to if you had been sat in a hot tub together really

Not to mention, these days more than an inch of water would see us splashing over the edge

Us too! With the amount of body fat gained during lockdown, a quick nip in the bath with DH would soon turn into a town flood

How sad that a perfectly natural/normal occurrence within a loving family could possibly be viewed as something distasteful.

Your son would have been disturbed if you or your husband had yelled at him to get out or you started flapping around in the tub trying to cover yourselves!

Perhaps your sister is a closet Victorian.

If you're about to that your son is 13 then we have a bit of a problem, but if he is a child then it is completely fine.

In this country, people are really prudish about getting changed infront of their children or using the shower if they're in the bathroom etc. It is really not a big deal when they are children and it is in a safe, non sexual or forced way.

As long as DS isn’t 13 I think it’s fine