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Staff member at B and M humiliated me.

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Zoflorabore · 04/12/2020 23:29

Hi. I don’t know if I’m being ultra sensitive here but I had an experience tonight which made me feel awful, embarrassed and angry.

I have a life limiting condition and several MH issues and struggle wearing a mask. Instead, I wear a hidden disabilities lanyard which I wear. I was with dd (9) and tried to get a trolley.

I had a trolley coin which got stuck so I went inside to ask for help. The lady on the first took had just finishing serving a customer so I first apologised for bothering her and asked if there was someone who could help with the trolleys.

She told me that they don’t accept the trolley coins and i spotted a trolley a little further along and asked if I could use that.

She told me no, they are only for people with disabilities, I then pointed to my hidden disabilities lanyard and told her that i do have a disability to which she replied “well they’re for people in a wheelchair”.

There were a few people in the queue. I told her that having a disability is not defined by being a wheelchair user. My daughter said “come on mum I will get a basket too and help you” I felt mortified. People in the queue looked sympathetic and the woman then said she would send someone out to get me my trolley coin and I told her not to bother. I struggled around the (huge) shop and gave up halfway round.

When I went to pay I asked the cashier if the first woman is a manager and she said she isn’t. I feel like complaining which isn’t something I’ve ever done in a shop but I think in this day and age especially, the staff member shouldn’t have treated me like I was lying.

Sorry that was bloody long!

OP posts:
Emeeno1 · 09/12/2020 10:09

It seems to me that many of us are suffering from, or experiencing, hyper sensitivity. We can't seem to cope with anything other than absolute validation, acceptance or understanding.

This isn't a criticism of others, I am feeling exactly the same and wondering why?

Simplyunacceptable · 09/12/2020 10:41

I don’t think she did anything wrong tbh. You asked to use a trolley for wheelchair users, she said no because they were for wheelchair users so you argued against that. She offered to get you a coin for a regular trolley and you refused, choosing to struggle with baskets instead. You sound like the difficult one to me.

I wouldn’t complain personally, it’s Christmas and working in retail is absolute hell at the best of times.

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