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I'm sorry I can't visit you. You are 100 years old now. I think about you everyday.

I know you think I’ve fallen out with you and flounced- I haven’t. I’m just taking a break. I noticed I felt unhappy anytime I visited

I am so glad I know you and you have been one of the highlights of this year.

You may have given birth to me but you are a fucking selfish cunt. I know I probably won't see you before you die but I don't care. My life is infinitely better without you.
You stupid idiot, why didn't you see the skip, I know it didn't have any lights on it, but for fucks sake. I know it was 44 years ago and I still miss you every single day.

Another one, I know you think I am sitting there upset about all the mean things you say and do- I’m not. I’m having fun with great people as much as possible, enjoying every day and letting you drink from the poisoned chalice of bitterness

Have a fantastic birthday you horrible person. It's very obvious that you mean more to me than I ever will to you. Hope you choke on your birthday cake.

fuck you and fuck that. Kicking someone when they're down and in crisis just because you're a fucking internet troll and you can is nothing less than I should have expected. I hate women like you and your cohort of mostly faceless blokey weapon mates with an internet connection who know where i live and broke me completely five years ago.

you trolling shitbag.

I hope that one day you get punished for being such a selfish cunt. Fatty.

I wish I could have helped you. But, I would have needed a time machine to travel back 30 years to when the illness got hold of you. You had been ill for so long that it somehow became the norm'. I couldn't bear to think of what you'd been reduced to, so it was easier to just not think of you at all. I hate that I was too much of a coward to get involved and fight for you. But after watching my Mum die, then fighting cancer myself I just didn't have anything left for you. And, I hate that. I should have found the strength. I should have fought for you.

You're one of the nastiest, most obnoxious people I've ever met, and you nearly ruined my life with your bitterness. You're the very definition of a toxic personality.

Please get help before you ruin more lives and to break the chain of how your mother treated you.

Grow a spine and give her an ultimatum of either getting help or get out.

And to the both of you, I've never met such cruel, messed up people..but there is time yet, not much mind...

But saying that, I'll never apologise as I did nothing wrong.

@MrGruWeLoveYou

You were the most incredible, wonderful mother, I loved you to the ends of the earth. I would give anything you have you back, even for one day. I know how much you would have adored my children and how much you would have enriched their lives, it's so unfair you never met them. You would have been the most loving caring grandmother, and the grandparents they have don't even come close. I will carry those feelings of unfair until the day I die, I will never get over losing you. I've named the most precious girls in my life after you. Thank you for being my mum. I will love you forever and ever.

^^ I wish I had written this - it is 100% true for me as well. Always turn towards the light my wonderful Sunflower xx

• I miss you, what I wouldn’t give for one more hug with you, I wish you were here right now, people are wrong it gets harder every day and I miss you more each day.

• I forgive you fully and completely, but if you ever try to come back that door is also fully and completely closed

• I understand now why you’re so vindictive and insecure you have nothing in your life but work and that’s sad I’m sorry for you, maybe if you were a nicer person we could have been friends instead I’m extra grateful for my family, friends and social life so you can stay at arms length.

Wow...I see you are married now and have a perfect life! You are a doctor and doing so well... Remember those uni days when we were dating. You took me to a gay club (with your gay friend) and proceeded to kiss a male stranger in front of me.

I ran away because I was so shocked that you had done such a thing to deliberately hurt me. You chased me and we ended up down a dark alleyway at 2am. I was very scared. Not a good date!

Anyway, does your wife know that story?

You were a spineless coward 48 years ago, and you’re still a spineless coward today.

All I wanted was answers, that’s all. And information about my Dad and you couldn’t even do that one thing for me.

I hope you’ve had an utterly shit life, because I’ve had an amazing one with my adoptive family.

So fuck you.

Yesterday you did something so wonderfully kind, you’ve made me smile all day and feel so safe and secure and loved - for the first time in a very long time, I felt genuinely happy - and all I want to do is tell you how much I love you . You’re like another mum to me, I’m so glad I met you when I did .

I grieve for you even though you are still here. My heart breaks because you don't know my children, or me anymore. I feel incredibly alone sometimes. I have my family, they are wonderful, but I don't have a history anymore.

I'm so sad because it's so unnecessary. I wish you came to see us.

Your immediate family are coming to terms with what you have done, you nearly ended up in care, but for a whisker.
Please engage with social services and mh team.
We love you very much, but we can't let you abuse us any more.
I wish we could have seen it a few years ago, and you'll be an adult soon.
Please get help and be a part of the family. x
Mum. x

H - I miss you so very badly, I wish I knew you were safe and doing okay. I think about you all the time even though I shouldn’t. If I’d known the last time I saw you in early March what was going to happen, I wouldn’t have let you just walk away without at least giving you a big hug.

J - I was a shit friend, and I’m truly sorry. I wish I could take back what I said to you know who, I know it upset you. Please believe it wasn’t said with any malice, it wad just a stupid drunken comment that I have regretted every day since.

D - I love you dearly, but only as a friend. I am not the kind, wonderful person you seem to think I am, and when the whole story eventually comes out, I hope we can still be friends, because I really value your friendship.

S - Maybe if stopped acting like you were better than anyone you’d be more popular at work. I should feel sorry for you really, because it seems you don’t have anything else going on in your life, but I don’t. I can’t wait to hand my notice in and drop you right in it.

I think of you every single day. My life is dimmer without you in it. I'm sorry you suffered at the end. You were always so stubborn and I did what I thought you wanted. I wish you hadn't lost your mind at the end and we could have had a proper goodbye. You were my life's sparkle and I will think of you every day until the day I die. I don't believe in heaven but a little part of me so so so wants to see your face when it's my time. I love you.

I'm sorry for what happened that day when I took you shopping. You needed me to look after you and I failed miserably. I miss you and our family isn't complete without you. I conjure situations in my mind where you tell me what's bothering you and we work it out. I wish you understood how short life is and how much we're all missing out on, not seeing eachother. You appear in my dreams often and every time there's a knock at the door I'm not expecting, I hope that it's you. I know you're not my daughter but I loved you as if you were. One of my greatest wishes for 2021 is that you come back to us.

11 years on and I still have no idea why you just walked away, no explanation, apology, nothing. 5 year relationship wiped out, when I thought we'd grow older together. That really hurt but, you know what, I eventually met someone else and now know what it feels like to be loved unconditionally. If we met on the street tomorrow, I'd probably smile a little, raise my eyebrows questioning ..... and walk on knowing I am stronger and don't fear the future, whereas you are just a coward.

Mandalalorianna Fri 27-Nov-20 19:01:33 God knows I love you dd, but I wish you hadn't survived. For your own sake.

Whatever your situation is that led you to write this, and for all the other mothers who have lost or who have impossibly painful relationships with their daughters ... . Life is hard.

You gaslighting safeguarding nightmare predatory plankton. You shouldn't be allowed to volunteer as a mental health support helper. I'm reporting you and your manager with a fragile masculinity NAMALT complex (who thought making a distressed male violence survivor repeat his assertion that there are some good men out there was an appropriate response) to adult social care.
What the fuck are you both doing?