Can I just invite you to have a laugh at my exh? You'll like this.

[WankPuffins]

Received a text this morning telling me that he's going for "full custody" of Ds as I've flouted lockdown rules for the second time that he knows of by having a visitors in the house.

He's contacting a solicitor this afternoon.

I.cannot.Stop.Laughing.

My Ds is 18 next week

Oh god, he's such a twat. I really, really hope he does speak to a solicitor this afternoon about custody of someone who will be an adult in ten days time. I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that.

I've had thirteen years of this shit since we separated. He's never let up.

(For those interested, in April he was on the phone to Ds. Ds came to ask me something and he had to wait a second while I finished my conversation. His father heard another woman's voice in the room and reported me to the police for having someone in the house. That woman was my independent midwife over for my 28 week check and blood tests).

This time, he was talking to Ds online, the door went and I shouted to Ds to get it as I was changing the baby. He told his dad he just had to open the door for someone. He went mental again, hence the text. Oh and no one came in this time, it was FIL dropping off a some pain meds for Dh, all socially distanced, he dropped them at the door and said hi to ds from the end of the drive. No rules broken either time).

I would message and say 'ok if you're sure. To help you out here is a break down of his school week. Don't forget he has scouts on a Wednesday. And he has a trip to France coming up - you need to pay the balance. Also he has stopped liking his toast done in squares but he still likes potato waffles with Fireman Sam pasta. He isn't friends with Ollie anymore after they had an argument about football stickers, but he still likes Dylan and they sit together at lunch'.

@WankPuffins you’ve been through the wars. So happy you divorced him, it must have taken an awful lot of strength. I admire you.

Good luck to your lovely DS - hope the pain of a feckless father lessens for him over time

@OhToBeASeahorse

I would message and say 'ok if you're sure. To help you out here is a break down of his school week. Don't forget he has scouts on a Wednesday. And he has a trip to France coming up - you need to pay the balance. Also he has stopped liking his toast done in squares but he still likes potato waffles with Fireman Sam pasta. He isn't friends with Ollie anymore after they had an argument about football stickers, but he still likes Dylan and they sit together at lunch'.

😂😂

So funny! After all these years they still have to make life difficult don’t they! You’ve got to laugh!

[quote waterproofed]@WankPuffins you’ve been through the wars. So happy you divorced him, it must have taken an awful lot of strength. I admire you.

Good luck to your lovely DS - hope the pain of a feckless father lessens for him over time [/quote]
Thank you. Luckily he's turned out the total opposite his father in every way possible.

Can solicitors start adding a stupidity charge to their invoices 😁. Oh and one for time wasting and another for excessive texting over non issues...this list could go on and on

This has cheered me right up - tell him thanks for his utter knobbery

I have receive the usual "?" Text that I always get when I don't reply to ridiculous texts.

It will be followed in a few hours by "??"

And then probably around bedtime I'll get a "???"

The most he's ever got to was "????????" I remember that as he'd text me some inane nonsense (it was that Ds should have therapy as he may be upset that I was having another child) just as I was arriving at hospital for my section with my now 6 year old. I got the increasing "???" messages when I turned my phone on the next morning

Oh I can add to this cornucopia of utter fuckery! In the summer, my ex-h (who has very minimal court ordered contact anyway) decided that the pandemic ended on the 29th July. The issue here is that I was having treatment for breast cancer (chemo) and was shielding too so DS couldn't have direct contact with his "dad". He also couldn't have direct contact with his "dad" because OW had banned DS from their home as she was so triggered by my illness that she didn't want ex-h "helping me" having contact with our son. This was entirely my fault apparently as I had made her make that decision. I have no contact with this woman AT ALL.

On declaring the pandemic over, ex-h told DS on a video call that he would be taking him to a family party the following weekend, several hundred miles away from where we currently live. I am afraid I said this would not be happening because :

Pandemic
Not essential travel
No household mixing
Shielding

Most people would understand that this was reasonable under the circumstances and realise that this situation was unfortunate, but temporary. Even 9 yo ASD DS got it. Not ex-h. He, dear reader, took me to court to "enforce" the order.

He got video calls once a week. Utter twat of the highest order (hmm)

So I'm not totally angelic in my reasons for not blocking him. It's just that he's the gift that keeps on giving.

I can only imagine the hand wringing and hysterics that will occur on his behalf if Ds does decide
To get married or have kids.

@TheFormidableMrsC

Oh I can add to this cornucopia of utter fuckery! In the summer, my ex-h (who has very minimal court ordered contact anyway) decided that the pandemic ended on the 29th July. The issue here is that I was having treatment for breast cancer (chemo) and was shielding too so DS couldn't have direct contact with his "dad". He also couldn't have direct contact with his "dad" because OW had banned DS from their home as she was so triggered by my illness that she didn't want ex-h "helping me" having contact with our son. This was entirely my fault apparently as I had made her make that decision. I have no contact with this woman AT ALL.

On declaring the pandemic over, ex-h told DS on a video call that he would be taking him to a family party the following weekend, several hundred miles away from where we currently live. I am afraid I said this would not be happening because :

Pandemic
Not essential travel
No household mixing
Shielding

Most people would understand that this was reasonable under the circumstances and realise that this situation was unfortunate, but temporary. Even 9 yo ASD DS got it. Not ex-h. He, dear reader, took me to court to "enforce" the order.

He got video calls once a week. Utter twat of the highest order (hmm)

Jesus

I'm so sorry you had to deal with a bastard along side everything else.

This thread is both funny and sad, there are so many idiots out there that like to heap misery on their ex.

If you're going through shit like this just remember there is an expiry date.

@WankPuffins Oh it's OK, that really is a very small snapshot of the last 7 years of my life dealing with this twat who left me...not the other way round...but has behaved like a knobber ever since, bit like yours!

We're in court again on Friday for round 954. He's moving 500+ miles away next year, because OW bought a house in the middle of the Scottish mountains or something so that she could have him all to herself and not have to worry about his annoying son. No doubt we will never see him again. I'll be buying champagne

@TheFormidableMrsC mine left me too. Well, he didn't. He had an affair with the woman he's now married to, but I had the audacity to leave him and show him up. Which is where all the hatred on his part comes from.

TheFormidableMrsC

OMG I hope the courts wiped the floor with the idiot. Good luck with your recovery, I'm sure the twat and court didn't help.

How many days until your DS turns 18? Text a countdown with no explanation, eg "7", "6" etc and then, on DS's birthday, block exH.

Ah bless him, he does not have control and he can’t stand it.
I told my ex that I no longer wished to communicate about our (adult) Offspring, silence is indeed golden :)

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar

Love your idea, it's brilliant!

Ha ha. I like how he's waited til you've raised your son to adulthood and done all the hard work until he decides he wants full custody. Does your son get any say in this?

Hilarious and exactly the type of stupidity my ex would try to bait me with. Such immense bellends, they're devoid of even the most basic self awareness.

I'd be tempted to text back "Thank you for your text, you really are the turd gift that keeps on giving, xx".

Mine let him into my house once when I was away - faulty back door, so in he slithered - & he was scheduled to pick up the kids (older teens, had been left overnight with nice NDN keeping an eye).

The cat took one look at him & puked - excellent judge of character.

He went off in a rage to buy cleaning cloths & disinfectant. Fair enough; the kids could easily have found him an old rag, or for that matter cleaned it up themselves, but as they admitted later it was waaaaay too funny watching Dad Take Charge Of It.

Then he added the price of the aforementioned cleaning supplies to my financial contribution to his visit. I knocked it off again, but kindly offered to post them to him. Might have underestimated the required stamps, but he decided not to take me up on it...

@BlackAmericanoNoSugar

How many days until your DS turns 18? Text a countdown with no explanation, eg "7", "6" etc and then, on DS's birthday, block exH.

Excellent idea! Imagine the amount of ?????????????????????s you'll get over the next few days if you do this

As a parent of a teen who had to deal with a shitty ex may I say thank you for this thread.

We too are nearing the other side and Ex doesn't have any control anymore (years of not giving a shit/controlling stupid aspects).

However I have such a good relationship with my teenager - even on their not so great days. Ex does not. What must be really heartening for everyone battling it is this - Children will always figure out who was there, day in day out, and who actually cares for their wellbeing.

All the stupid, controlling mind games will bear out. It has certainly been the case for me, and a few other people I know in the same situation

for all those parents battling wanky ex's.

Special shout out to TheFormidableMrsC I hope you are doing well and recovering. Shielding is very hard. Even more so when you have an Ex being so horrible at such a difficult time.

What a dick. No wonder Ds only visits a few times per year!