Can I just invite you to have a laugh at my exh? You'll like this.

[WankPuffins]

Received a text this morning telling me that he's going for "full custody" of Ds as I've flouted lockdown rules for the second time that he knows of by having a visitors in the house.

He's contacting a solicitor this afternoon.

I.cannot.Stop.Laughing.

My Ds is 18 next week

Oh god, he's such a twat. I really, really hope he does speak to a solicitor this afternoon about custody of someone who will be an adult in ten days time. I'd love to be a fly on the wall for that.

I've had thirteen years of this shit since we separated. He's never let up.

(For those interested, in April he was on the phone to Ds. Ds came to ask me something and he had to wait a second while I finished my conversation. His father heard another woman's voice in the room and reported me to the police for having someone in the house. That woman was my independent midwife over for my 28 week check and blood tests).

This time, he was talking to Ds online, the door went and I shouted to Ds to get it as I was changing the baby. He told his dad he just had to open the door for someone. He went mental again, hence the text. Oh and no one came in this time, it was FIL dropping off a some pain meds for Dh, all socially distanced, he dropped them at the door and said hi to ds from the end of the drive. No rules broken either time).

I understand why you had the divorce you did but for me I would want to have the truth written down some where.

I personally would hate to think that some decedents went looking and found that I had been divorced on the grounds of adultery when it was the twat ex, that I had left with nothing other than the most important thing possible my ds.

I would have to record that the greatest revenge was that I was really happy had a fantastic relationship with my ds, my dh etc. and he ended up with his mistress being miserable.

I think I would also mention some more entertaining twatery stuff for the readers entertainment and so they could get an idea of what an idiot he was and understand why I was happy to just get a way from him.

I may make a few copies of it to leave in different places.

Did he actually make your DS transfer back the £300? Amazing that he can spare it to muck about being an idiot but can only gift a £10 voucher.

Well I just transferred him the £300 out of my account as I could do so immediately without having to access Ds.

But yes, he wanted it back.

OP, do you have a consent order?

If you don't, then down the track HE could come after your assets.

Also, happy freedom to you and your son. 🎉

@PicsInRed I doubt it, never heard of one!

I have no assets and probably never will! We have no chance of ever buying a home. And I really don't think he would do that. You'd have to be a special kind of wanker.

Did he give anything else in the end? I cannot imagine giving even my niece or nephew a tenner amazon voucher for their 18th. I could understand not having the money - but if he could afford to miss £300 (who knows maybe you wouldn’t have given it back) then it’s shameful.

I mean there must have been something in the divorce papers when I didn't take anything.

To be honest, I doubt there was anything anyway. The house/mortgage were all in his name and I know he re mortgaged at least twice because of huge debts. He only managed to finally sell the place a few years ago and he didn't make a penny on it, it sold less for what he bought it for as it was a bit of a project and after I left, he rented it out and never bothered with it.

There wasn't much money either - I think he had a gambling problem. Whatever, there was just a new credit card thrust at me every few months for food shopping, no cash, just debts mounting up.

So if I had chased though court it would probably have been futile.

I'm well rid to be honest.

He seems to be doing well now though, although I think that's more to do with his wife than him.

@MLMbotsgoaway no there was nothing else.

That's the first 'present' he's ever bought him. I'm precious years he'd tell me what to buy on his behalf out of the maintainance.

Offical divorce case files are only held for 20 years. After that the only thing that is kept is a copy of the decree.

Which is a very good thing.

Op you sound wonderful. I think you had the right approach.
Your DS will realise on his own, which is quite sad as your dad should be an idol.

Poor kid. Thank goodness he has an amazing mum.

@hairykiwi

Op you sound wonderful. I think you had the right approach. Your DS will realise on his own, which is quite sad as your dad should be an idol.

Poor kid. Thank goodness he has an amazing mum.

Oh thank you.

Ds is very lucky that he has four wonderful men in his life, my Dh, Dh brother, my dad and my FIL. So he has fantastic male role models in them.

Happy Birthday to your DS, I hope that’s the end of your exH issues 🤞🏻

My ex of 2 years is also a twat with maintenance, we have 2 DS and he has tried to avoid paying maintenance ever since. He left me for this amazing girl. Funny story and maybe some karma too. Anyways he was a delivery driver and he went to go and work with someone cash in hand so he could get out of giving me maintenance (£168) a month for 2 kids. So off he went and then got laid off for after 2 weeks. So he begs for his job back at his old place, which they agree to, but they give him a different route. Day 3 of starting new route with old job, he is involved in a really bad accident, I mean he is lucky to be alive (he bottom half of his body was snapped and broken) the GF has since turned abusive and he was homeless. So he lost his relationship, he job, his mobility, all because he wanted to get out of paying my maintenance. If he had stayed in his old job he would of never been on that road. It's ok though because he is going to awarded a 6 figure compensation claim, and he has already checked with his solicitor, i won't be entitled to maintenance from any of it. I'm current getting £7 a week, but I take it out of principle.

@WankPuffins I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and your ex now understands he can't threaten you with custody anymore I doubt it