My mum is really angry about her Christmas card

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I sent mine out early this year (I know, I know). My mum got hers today, earlier than expected since I sent them 2nd Class.

She doesn’t often answer her phone but she did today, I rang for a quick chat. She said ‘I got your card, thanks’. She sounded really disappointed (she’s either a really thrilled, happy as a button person or is really down in the dumps and snappy). I said is everything okay, she said ‘well it wasn’t a nice card, was it?’

It was part of a multipack, granted But I thought there were really sweet, with a snowman and red car with a tree on top. I said that I thought she’d like it, they’re just a little gesture. She said ‘Yeah well thanks’.

She then said ‘got to go, really busy, I’ll call you later’. She never does call later though.

Was I really CF for sending a multipack card? Can that be offensive if the person is an important person in your life? I just wanted to do something nice, to let people know they were in my thoughts.

I’m really hurt by this. I know I need to get a grip and I’m probably the silly one for thinking a cheap little card would be well received when people will probably bin it when they get them

It took me a while but I realise my mum really values a card for both her birthday and Christmas. So I have decided if it makes her happy I am happy to do it. Your mum was a little rude but perhaps just note that she values an individual card for the future. If you can be bothered to be that organised, you can get individual ones much cheaper in the January sales and put away for next year.

winterfell

Were you trying to set a record for sending the first card of 2020? Will it edge forwards until you send them at Easter?
I thought you were going to say that she was disappointed to get her card at the start of November and that she'd be sick of the sight of it collecting dust and have binned it before the start of Christmas. It does rather smack of 'that's one chore done - might as well post them.'
But you sound as bad as each other.

Im beginning to find card giving a massive waste of money esp in the current times. DH family don't do them at all and I'm beginning to agree. They are the biggest waste of money. I spent about £20 on cards the other year for people to open them and never think about them again. I've decided I will get DD to hand make them this year. I actually think that's nicer as she will enjoy making them and grandparents in particular will probably actually keep them.

Your mother sounds mental there are a lot bigger things to worry about and I would not even humour her. I have had friends say in the past they are not giving cards and will instead donate that money to charity. I would probably say that to her from now on.

Send a brass band round at two in the morning to play oompa oompa stick it up your oompa.

@KatherineJaneway

It was part of a multipack, granted

You couldn't have SAID 'I couldn't give a shit about you' more clearly than send her a card like That. Why would you be that lazy?

Please tell me this is sarcasm. If not, it's totally insane.

@ivfbeenbusy

Yeah my mother and sibling wouldn't appreciate a multi pack card either.....

I don't send any cards to anyone.

Always wondered who the people were who bought the "to my cousin's boyfriend's sister" cards were at Christmas and now I know.

What a waste of money.

Yes my mother is the same. All that rhyming guff inside and she's usually calling me fit to burn. When she gets the card she reads the verse aloud, as if it is passing somesort of test then says, "Awww lovely."
Yuck. Even home made cards from DD who is under 10 are seen as low efffort.
I told her this year, I was just doing generic cards or home made from DD and she looked at me like I was losing my mind. I usually get cards made up with a photo of DD on anyway because with a discount code they end up cheaper so not like a box.

You mum is bonkers, but people are so strange about bits of paper and twee poems. I wonder why.

@user1487194234

I wouldn't have sent my mum a card from a multi pack What kind of card do you normally send her

I almost always send my family cards from a multi pack. Those "personalised" cards with "to my cousin's daughter in law" are a complete twee rip off. Is it that terrible to write "to mum and dad" by hand in a card I actually like?

Your mother is being completely daft. Is it because you've sent it too early? If I received a Christmas card in the middle of November I'd either shove it in a drawer and promptly forget about it, or put it in the bin tbh. I don't want to display Christmas cards in November.

Your mum is being rude and unreasonable as there is nothing wrong with muktipack cards. However, I think you are also being slightly nuts by sending cards out in 5he middle of Nov tbh. Why do it?!

Well Thanks to another thread I have actually ordered my cards from a small business this year.

I don't usually bother but so far I have managed to support 4 small shops with a fair bit still yet to buy.

I'm really enjoying it and finding some really unusual stuff.

I get a multipack for everyone else but not my mum. I try and find a really nice one that I know she'll love. This year I found a lovely advent calendar card which I knew shed love.
After the nth year of my adult son not sending me a Xmas card when I always send him a lovely card and gift and never get a thank you I did say I was hurt by this as its so easy to send a card and he was properly shitty about it.
I do think your mum deserves a bit more effort.

Some people are just weird over cards.
My mum's the same - has to be a card that says Mum and Dad on it, heaven forbid I send one from a box, she'd probably sulk lol.

He literally doesn't say thank you @madcatladyforever? That's rude.

My mum loves a thought out card with verses and shite. A multi pack one wouldn't cut it.

I don’t do cards anymore, so she sounds ungrateful to me ☃️

😂😂😂 This is the most batshit thread I've ever read!

Keep them coming people, some of these comments are ridiculously precious! 😆

I think if I sent my mum a fancy Christmas card she'd ask me if I was feeling well. She sends me Funky Pigeon cards for my birthday, I try and find nice-ish cards from the supermarket I work in (although I've been sending out Pusheen cards I've bought from eBay recently. )

Anyone who gets an Xmas card from me this year will be getting one from a WHSmith multipack, they have some gorgeous holographic and black velvety ones, and I'm getting those.

Blimey. I didn't even know this was a thing to be upset about. I take care not to send pictures of turkeys to vegetarians - that's about it - and always send charity cards anyway. But November is a bit previous. The only person I know sending Christmas cards out at the moment is doing it because she's not expecting to be strong enough by December and may not even live till Christmas.

Your mum needs to get a grip.

It’s mid-November...
Your mum was rude and churlish, however.

I like the ones that say "to both of you at Christmas". Because if the envelope is addressed to both of you, and the card says "dear X and Y", that's still not enough to drive home the point that the card is TO BOTH OF YOU and not just passively-agressively only intended for one half of a couple

I think Christmas cards are wasteful bullshit.

But your mum was super rude! Ignore her.

OP are you about to drip feed that your mum is a Jehovah's Witness?

There’s nothing wrong with a multipack card. I’m guessing your mum was having a bad day.