Would this be really selfish of me and unfair on DS?

[JoanneCofton]

I am a single mum (I do have a boyfriend who ive been with for 3 years but he isn’t ds’s dad and lives in his own house). DS sees his DF at the weekend. I am really unfit and have put on SO much weight since I’ve been with my DP just through eating out more/cost nights infront of the telly. I’m really unfit and struggle to fit excercise in.

I work and I’m a student so that plus looking after primary school ds takes up most of my time. When DS is with his dad I’m either at work/on placement/doing uni work/busy.

I need to do something about my weight though, I am so unfit and creeping towards the morbidly obese category. I have seen an advert for a bootcamp ran by a PT in the next village to me. Her class begins at 6am and is ran 3 times a week. Would I be totally and utterly selfish to get ds up (he is 9) and out the house for 5.30 twice a week? One night a week I stay my DP’s so ds is at my parents then anyway, so it would be 2 days. My mum is willing to have him dropped off to hers at 5.45 and he can snooze, have breakfast etc and I would fetch him and take him school once the class is over. I feel like I’m being really selfish to even suggest this but I can’t do evenings (except the one evening mid week i see DP) as my parents work late shifts so no one to have DS. I’ve looked at a couple of exercise things at the weekend but swimming is fully booked till the end of November and I feel with a boot camp there is more accountability as I pay upfront for a block. It’s only for 6 weeks

*@NeonGenesis what your child does before school is entirely your business. However the fact the your arguing 5am isn’t a long day up until bedtime I’m calling BS.

It’s a long day! Its a 14-15hour day depending on what time your child sleeps.*

You asked me exactly what my child does between 5am and school, so I told you. Where you've come up with this 14-15 hour day thing is beyond me. You seem to think that my child must go to bed at a very particular time, despite the fact that I gave no bedtime. You are just guessing, or assuming that my child goes to bed at the same time as yours.

Also, I can't remember which poster was silly enough to describe an early wake up time as cruel and abhorrent, but speaking as someone who was actually treated very cruelly as a child, I find this is utterly ridiculous. If you think a child is being treated badly purely because they get up a bit earlier than you then you need to get a grip.

If your child gets up at 5am Monday to Friday and goes to bed at 7/8pm how many hours is that? I Would hope most children sleep around that time on a school night. Especially after being up from 5am.

I’m not sure why you are being obtuse @NeonGenesis

My children don't stay up until 8. I'm not being obtuse at all. I find it really weird that wouldn't expect someone who gets up earlier than your child to also go to bed a bit earlier than your child.

I think we've gotten everything that we can out of this conversation.

You can't outrun a bad diet. For obese people it's the food intake that's the problem, not the exercise. Once you've lost a few stone through you css as b think about exercise.