ADs Not Flouting, Not Flaunting not even Brazenly Defying.

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Just trying to live a meaningful life in an increasingly bizarre world in which nothing makes sense any more.

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Phew, others saying the same whilst I wrote an essay - was worried I'd overstepped normal AD thread rules and strayed into AIBU territory!

@Willow2017
I keep thinking surely they can't allow her back to work?
She also does domiciliary care and Its the domiciliary care part of her job that concerns me. In a care home the environment is very well controlled, but not so much when she's flitting in and out of people's homes.

RobinHobb, your DH is an arse, I’m afraid. My DH has got up with DD pretty much every other day since she was born, even though he works longer hours in a more stressful job than me. Good dads accept their fair share of the load.

@RobinHobb - put on your running stuff, go wake up DH and say "going for a quick run, can you do breakfast when the dcs wake up?" And then go.

If this is what he's always done at a weekend and you have never said you'd like a different plan, theres no reason it would occur to him you might want to head out.

Sit him down this evening and say you would like some time off from the dcs, and when does he think would be best, Saturday or Sunday?

Its going to be a long old winter if you don't have the conversation now.

Also you lot are a bad influence- rather than having a sensible breakfast befitting a 40-something who needs to drop half an inch of her waist if she's gling to be able to do up her nice jeans bought last winter, I've just had a pain au chocolat (closest to cake for breakfast I can rustle up before the Ocado order turns up later).

non, je ne regrette rien

@Ibake, I don't think anything you said strays out of AD territory. We're a support thread mostly and you were supporting so I think it is perfectly on topic.

www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/comment/bbc-isnt-telling-us-the-full-story-on-covid-h2xm35pmh

I've just read that @Orangeblossom7777, it's a great article.

I'm finding it more and more difficult to answer the question why? I just don't get it. Are MSM are being directed to stick to a narrative?

It's more or less a global strategy, with some outliers, and when you look at the data it becomes increasingly difficult to ignore the conspiracy stuff. In particular I keep hearing about global reset and I really need to read more but it's hard because there's so much outlandish stuff attached that I'm struggling to distil.

What's going on?

Thanks @ISaySteadyOn x

The lies uni pedalled us over summer becoming more clear about timetables, library, their zero tolerance and not challenging those without masks etc. From what I’ve seen the yellow arrows are fucking everywhere about 50 cm apart too.

And the bastards have discontinued their catering loyalty scheme - and I had two free lattes saved up on my card - no notice on that either!

DH has an irritatingly strong bond with the bed. Doubly annoying that my body clock is on an earlier setting so I'm awake anyway and don't easily sleep in.

I go for the telling him I'm going out approach. I was fortunate that the DCs were low maintainence and easily addicted to TV when they were younger which helped, they still are, but at 7 & 9 they just need someone in the house rather than active supervision.

I find it really irritating that I go off for a couple of hours run, shower, ready for family life, and the 3 males still vegetate around and don't get themselves in gear then at some point, my motivation crumbles.
DH WFH has helped as he's more keen to get out.
I did work out that lockdown caught me up on about 2 years worth of missed sleep-ins.

If he's not proactive about getting up and doing things, 1) it's frustrating to leave them be, 2) it's frustrating doing the organising for them to do something and half the bloody effort anyway.

This is a regular theme at our post-Brownies conflab. One did have a useless partner and 2 weeks of isolation in lockdown was the final straw. The rest certainly aren't useless, but they do annoyingly lack a proactive streak to family life and need that pointing in the right direction.

Our lie-in will not be indulgent... there are roofers crashing about 3m above our heads...

I've started a new one about hotel breakfasts and phallic strawberries.

I always seem to pick up after themes of dodgy organic produce

I'm finding it more and more difficult to answer the question why? I just don't get it. Are MSM are being directed to stick to a narrative?

Ibake I'm not sure, do you think maybe at the lockdown the fear mission started and then it just kind of continued? As it mentions it is easy / sloppy for some journalists to give in to the emotional narrative to bring in viewers, which was in a way permitted?

I also read that another journalist, was banned from Twitter, for having a view that students should be 'allowed to get' the virus.

www.telegraph.co.uk/women/life/got-locked-twitter-having-wrong-opinion-covid/

She asks:

"Why would Twitter object to my sharing that evidence-based idea? Especially as the latest figures from the Office for National Statistics show there is no enormous spike in Covid deaths, which makes locking up 25 per cent of the population look ever more cruel and futile. Is it a coincidence that the Twitter algorithms, which put me on the Naughty Step for 12 hours, align so closely with government policy?"

Yes that was Allison Pearson. I have to say I found that really worrying. Twitter and Facebook et al deciding what is and isn't allowed? What is and isn't debate?

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ADs crave hotel breakfasts garnished with phallic strawberries www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4040530-ADs-crave-hotel-breakfasts-garnished-with-phallic-strawberries

Hmm. Trick or treating to be banned in lockdown areas...

www.thetimes.co.uk/edition/news/hallowe-en-divide-as-trick-or-treating-banned-in-coronavirus-hotspots-jqx2r56kn

"Children in lockdown areas should not go trick-or-treating this Hallowe’en, Downing Street has said.

Going from door to door would break rules against households mixing that are in place across most of the north of England as well as in Scotland, Northern Ireland and parts of Wales, No 10 suggested.

In other parts of the country parents face fines if children go trick-or-treating in groups of more than six, which potentially includes the person answering the door, officials said.

Boris Johnson’s deputy spokesman said it was “very clear that households should not mix” when asked about trick-or-treating.

The geographical differences in how children can enjoy Hallowe’en are the latest consequence of Mr Johnson’s strategy of containing the virus in hotspot areas to avoid tougher restrictions for the rest of the country."

Hi thank you all for the very balanced and reasonable responses! It's my fault for posting here rather than aibu but I feel a bit mentally fragile right now and I didn't want to take a bettering on aibu and be told LTB and other responses slating me for enabling his behaviour.

Yes he is being a dick. He was awake past 1am for the last 3 nights but even so. Anyway I have the kids at ballet class right now, Dd2 is only 2yo so can't leave them and go for a run. But when I get home will wake DH up with a cup of tea as is the norm, kids will follow me up (I'm already in running gear) and I'll say I'm off for a run -enjoy (indoor as we have a treadmill in the boatshed in the garden, we got it during lockdown!) and then I will leave :-)
He usually has a long shower and a cup of coffee and a morning ritual (1 hour long) which he'll have to sacrifice with the kids there but I'm feeling too annoyed!!!

Thanks for the support all of you wonderful people.

*battering

Baby steps @RobinHobb and you were quite right to come to us - we're your friends. AIBU is completely terrifying, I can't imagine what scenario would make me post something on there! Enjoy your run.

RobinHobb
This is a support thread too and everyone should feel free to talk about anything they need to. Don't go near AIBU for anything. Despite there still being some supportive people on here with good advice the screaming know it all's will always put the boot in and are vicious.
Just to echo everyone else you need to bring a balance to what you and your dh do. Its not all down to you to keep everything running smoothly so he can indulge himself guilt free.
Glad you are taking time out for you. You need to.have a convo and let him know he needs to start parenting his own kids while you get some time to yourself as well as family time all together. He isnt the only one who needs to recharge.

@justasking111 thanks. DH suggested this morning that we knock and apologise but I ditched that idea and said we would just gloss over it. The thing is DH was still upset about it this morning. I haven’t the heart to tell him I can’t really remember what was said! I’ve told him we can just put it down to the stress of the current situation and the fact that we’d had a drink. I might let him buy me some new trainers tomorrow when we go out just to make up though

@TheOrchidKiller

I'm not a winter fan. Have found the lack of daylight really draining the last few years. I've got a daylight alarm clock which has helped eject me out of bed in the dark.

I think this year I'll have to force myself outside for a brief spell on my days off.

Those clocks really are a game changer aren't they. Mine is being plugged in tomo night. It is now dark when I am getting up. Winter really is coming