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ADs Not Flouting, Not Flaunting not even Brazenly Defying.

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RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 24/09/2020 14:11

Just trying to live a meaningful life in an increasingly bizarre world in which nothing makes sense any more.

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TabbyStar · 02/10/2020 21:17

I think we're all supposed to be desperate to go on spa days and even though we know it will kill millions we don't care HmmGrin

TheOrchidKiller · 02/10/2020 21:20

I'm not a winter fan. Have found the lack of daylight really draining the last few years. I've got a daylight alarm clock which has helped eject me out of bed in the dark.

I think this year I'll have to force myself outside for a brief spell on my days off.

BogRollBOGOF · 02/10/2020 21:28

I think we were murdering grannies by wishing we could do spa days? The poor chap was getting a bit incoherent.

Thoughtcrime is a terrible thing.

DominaShantotto · 02/10/2020 21:35

He does realise you use towels to dry yourself off on spa days and not dead grannies doesn't he?

BogRollBOGOF · 02/10/2020 21:39

It does help getting out in the winter. It's not fun but it does achieve something.

I sign up for RED January each year. It started as Run Every Day and has evolved into Realistic Exercise Daily. I aim to run most days and do outdoor exercise each day. It definitely adds more purpose to a crap month!

GrrrrrrArghhhhh · 02/10/2020 21:39

I once stayed in a resort that had a breakfast buffet that not only featured prosecco, but also vodka... wish I'd taken advantage in retrospect...

RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 02/10/2020 21:42

I think he wants to believe we are all ladies wot lunch, with an independant income (or wealthy husband) and no responsibilities except our own fun.

Which if he had even attempted to read any bit of any of the threads rather than make assumptions he would know better - but he doesn't want to know better because he already KNOWS and feels it is his duty to educate us stupid wimmen.

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Willow2017 · 02/10/2020 21:49

in my head the departed intel talks like Rik from The Young Ones (If you’re under 45 google it
Perfect!

But he fancies himself as Lord Flashheart.
🤣🤣🤣

justasking
That's fabulous right on the money.

Livin yes i would phone her work in a heartbeat. That's one exception I would make.

Willow2017 · 02/10/2020 21:51

Now i want tiramisu😭

Reedwarbler · 02/10/2020 21:52

The hotel we stayed in last year in tenerife had a chocolate fountain in the breakfast buffet.

RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 02/10/2020 21:53

[quote HeIenaDove]Heard about this?

www.hulldailymail.co.uk/news/hull-east-yorkshire-news/ghost-hunter-ouija-boards-poundland-4563721[/quote]
Used to play with a ouija board all the time as a young teen.

Not a bought one - we had a smooth table, an upturned glass and Yes, No and letters cards that we had made ourselves.

Never once did it make us really scared and we were 12, 13, 14 ish before we got bored with it.

You try and hold your finger still on the glass but inevitably someone moves involuntarily and once the glass starts moving, following fingers keep it going. Once you had a letter then you'd guess (in your mind) what it could be spelling and 'waddya know' off it went to to the next letter.

It passed many a rainy day.

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TheOrchidKiller · 02/10/2020 21:56

I think he wants to believe we are all ladies wot lunch, with an independant income (or wealthy husband) and no responsibilities except our own fun.

I'll just gather up my crinoline, simpering behind my fan as I go, then.

thenightsky · 02/10/2020 22:22

@GrrrrrrArghhhhh

I once stayed in a resort that had a breakfast buffet that not only featured prosecco, but also vodka... wish I'd taken advantage in retrospect...
Oh, I've stayed in a couple of them bad boys Grin I was reluctant to start with, but soon had word with myself and got my money's worth!
GrrrrrrArghhhhh · 02/10/2020 22:27

@thenightsky

If only I'd succumbed to temptation... would've made that last holiday with now XH so much more tolerable....

NeedWineNow · 02/10/2020 22:38

Oh dear God I am beyond embarrassed. Me and DH went of for drinks tonight. We got a takeaway on the way home and when we got home for some reason it all kicked off. I have no idea why. Just as it does when strong drink has been taken (ahem). A bit later our next door neighbours son knocked to make sure everything was ok as they'd heard a lot of noise. DH said everything was fine but I feel so embarrassed.

SirSamuelVimes · 02/10/2020 22:41

@TheOrchidKiller

I think he wants to believe we are all ladies wot lunch, with an independant income (or wealthy husband) and no responsibilities except our own fun.

I'll just gather up my crinoline, simpering behind my fan as I go, then.

See, I think the crinoline should make a comeback. Excellent for social distancing.
ADs Not Flouting, Not Flaunting not even Brazenly Defying.
justasking111 · 02/10/2020 22:59

@NeedWineNow

Oh dear God I am beyond embarrassed. Me and DH went of for drinks tonight. We got a takeaway on the way home and when we got home for some reason it all kicked off. I have no idea why. Just as it does when strong drink has been taken (ahem). A bit later our next door neighbours son knocked to make sure everything was ok as they'd heard a lot of noise. DH said everything was fine but I feel so embarrassed.
Our neighbours had an earful the other week at 11am, no wine taken yet, my language was ripe. Hot day doors and windows open. We are all under a lot of stress at the moment, be kind to yourselves, will be a story to tell for years to come
DorsetBlueMovie · 02/10/2020 23:33

Sorry I'm late to the party..... been a bit busy because I AM AT A SPA Grin

I assume I should hand my PIN into the NMC now?

Willow2017 · 03/10/2020 00:22

@Reedwarbler

The hotel we stayed in last year in tenerife had a chocolate fountain in the breakfast buffet.
Ooh on one of the days in our hotel in Gran Canaria after one meal they had 2 tables groaning with stuff to put on a skewer or two and choc fountains at the end heaven!
110APiccadilly · 03/10/2020 06:31

I have strong views on personal space and the very idea of a spa day makes my flesh creep. I'm very happy for those of you who like them to indulge but I'd rather do literally anything else.

My experience of breakfast buffets is primarily from staying in mid to low priced B&Bs for work. But I have had some excellent breakfasts that way, so I won't complain.

RobinHobb · 03/10/2020 07:08

Hmmm
Every year for the last 3-4 years for my birthday I ask my husband for a spa day.
This is not because I am particularly fond of spas, but it means I can spend the WHOLE day sitting somewhere reading a book, without the incessant chorus of Mummy mummy mummy mummy.....Mummy.

I'm feeling quite annoyed this morning. DH has been working quite late this last week. He had a tendency to treat me as the house maid anyway, but when working harder he is worse. I can usually handle this but he also completely forgets that in the last 5 years he ALSO had 2 children it wasn't just me. This I find harder... his plan for the weekend is to sleep till 11am, Walk the dog, have lunch with a glass of wine and sleep again till 5pm. This is his usual weekend.

I haven't had a morning lie in past 630am for 5 years :-( I wanted to go for a run today and thought I'd get up at 545am as I normally do during the week (it's the only way to squeeze it in) but couldn't quite get out of bed.

Now I'm pissed off at HIM. Although he is just doing what he does every weekend.

I need to stop being annoyed. Tips?

ISaySteadyOn · 03/10/2020 07:54

I don't think you're wrong to be annoyed. I think you are well within your rights. So I can't help with tips for swallowing it.

But maybe if it isn't pouring like here, you could go for a run after lunch? He doesn't get out of all child rearing duties just because he's been working hard. Also, surely a healthy mother is much better for the children and him anyway?

Reedwarbler · 03/10/2020 07:58

@RobinHobb just get up and go out for a run, telling the children to wake their father when they wake up, as he will be looking after them.
Why is it so many men behave as if they have no oh, no children and no responsibilities? (And I have known men who behave as if they have no fixed relationship either, and spend their adult lives playing the field and sowing seed, so to speak).

Ibake · 03/10/2020 08:01

Honestly @RobinHobb I don't think you need to stop being annoyed. In fact I think you should be more angry! This myth perpetuated (by men) that it's only proper work if a salary is attached to it is bollox. I can't remember now if you've said before that you work or are a SAHM mum but either way you're both working, you both get tired and you both deserve the chance to catch up on rest. He might have been working long hours at the moment but I bet he spends more time relaxing in the evening and at the weekend than you do?

How on earth does your DH think it's fair that you've not slept past 6:30 in 5 years? Ok, work is busy and stressful for him right now. Snoozing on the sofa actually doesn't help with that, he would be better off getting outside into the fresh air for some exercise - oh, and take his kids with him whilst he's at it! My DH worked away Mon-Thurs for most of my DT's life (they're 19 now). We used to do things like share lie ins, nights out etc. He was brilliant at the weekend because he acknowledged that I did the lion's share in the week - and he had the bliss of a full nights sleep in a hotel bed!

I realise we've strayed quite far from normal AD territory right now but this has upset me because I feel 'one of our own' is having a hard time from someone she should be in an equal partnership with.

Remember though he has no reason to change the current status quo, why on earth would he? You need to recognise that you're allowing him to behave like this, so no, don't stop being annoyed! xx