I'm a fucking HOUSEWIFE?

[ToadinTheHoleWithKetchup]

Just had the car insurance renewal on DH's car. I am a named driver, and the details listed state that I am a 'housewife'. How the fuck is this even a category?

I’m a housewife 🤷🏻‍♀️ Why is that so terrible?

OP isn’t a Housewife, she is a judgemental individual whose identity is very wrapped up in her “job”

@Herewego2015

I'm with original poster, I would be a little annoyed if I was put down as housewife! I take care of my home (with my husband) we look after our children together and we both also work.... I do wonder if a man would automatically be put down as a house husband..... Doubt it very much

What are you even talking about?

You’d put down your occupation. OP obviously put down housewife and is now in a snit about it.

Nothing wrong with being a housewife, nothing wrong with being a househusband either!

If one parent stays at home to bring up the children and do the majority of household tasks etc what is wrong with that!

NOTHING!

Drop the chip off your shoulder and GTFU!

My kids left home ages ago, I don't have a job but sell stuff on eBay so technically self employed but works out well below minimum wage. When we applied for a mortgage last year they put me down as a housewife, it didn't bother me in the slightest

CEO of Domestic Affairs = Brilliant

I have told people I am a domestic engineer in the past (nothing to do with washing machines). Said with humour.

Judgemental.

Oh and being a housewife and looking after kids isn't exactly a hard job. I can't even remember what 'life admin' I did. Someone up thread mentioned being a 'wound healer' that's funny 😂😂

Is this post a joke ? The world is falling to bits and this is what your worried about ? Wtaf

I've only read the last post by @Keeping2ChevronsApart

What a horrible post. Why on earth would you write that? It can't be to promote discussion, so it's just to kick a stranger down. Why?

Because 'it isn't exactly a hard job' is an insanely stupid thing to write. How would you know how hard being a housewife or looking after kids is for someone else? Maybe they live in a palace. Maybe they cook everything from scratch from food they've grown. Maybe their children are disabled. Maybe, maybe, maybe. You don't know.

I guess if you live in a tiny hovel, eat takeaway, and your kids just watch tv, then it wouldn't be hard.

@Babs709

Depends who was asking. Official form I'd say carer- you or someone else I don't know I'd say mind your own business. I think “mind your own business” would be acceptable I guess the trouble with carer/SAHM is that those are fundamentally different things than being a “housewife”. And being a “housewife” is not the same as being unemployed - a “housewife” traditionally has a job (running the home) it just doesn’t happen to be paid.

Sorry that was rude of me, I apologise xx

@MushMonster

Are you in charge of the house cleaning, tidying, cooking, laundry, shopping, random errands, food planning/ budgeting, clothes sorting/ buying/ getting ready for the day activities, feed the pets, decorating? And the children? Food, nappies, naps, toys, colouring books, reading/ learning to speak/ writing, entertaining, taking to park/ school/ activities/ soft play, homework helper now recently promoted to teacher, nurse- wound healer, sibling relationship therapist.... Because if you are, you can proudly say you are a housewife. Being a housewife is actually a tough job!

Oh, come on Mush. ALL parents do all of the above, mothers do the most, WORKING mothers included. I hate the assumption that only sahms or 'housewives' do those 'jobs' whereas wm's are doing all that AND paid employment...Also, I'm sorry but that list is ridiculous. As a pp said all of that is called being a parent - and having a family. I don't class anything on your list as an actual job or hard because I don't view looking after my dc and family as a job or hard work. That aside, housewife sounds like the 'job' a contestant on a 70's quiz show woukd have, ie: "My names is Janet and I'm a housewife from Spalding". So outdated.

@DopamineHits

"But you are a housewife!!"

Start a thread calling a SAHF a "house husband" and spot the difference...

Except she’s not a SAHM either.

That would really piss me off too OP.

and !!!!!!!!!!

Erm...if you don’t want to be a ‘housewife’, go and get a bloody job.

I’m down as ‘housewife’ on my daughters birth certificate and I was a betting shop manager at the time

I'm guessing it's Body Shop

Everyone seems to be flogging that at the moment. Every time I go on FB I'm confronted by several family and friends trying to sell their wares.

There's only so much body butter that a person needs

Start a thread calling a SAHF a "house husband" and spot the difference...

Plenty of men do happily refer to themselves as househusbands - the high-and-mighty Alpha Male sort who would find the term demeaning are not the sort who would deign to or be any good at take on the role in the first place.

SAHM/D seems a much better description for those who are actively looking after young children, but I don't think there's a marked sex-divide demonstrating that most SAHMs are largely happy to be called HWs whereas most SAHDs outright reject being called HHs. It's mainly the implication that domestic chores are your main reponsibility and that caring for vulnerable, dependent, demanding young human beings is just an insignificant sideshow, regardless of your sex.

There's only so much body butter that a person needs

That completely depends on how much lockdown weight you've put on and how unforgiving your existing clothes are

@Iwouldgoouttonight73

I’m down as ‘housewife’ on my daughters birth certificate and I was a betting shop manager at the time

How did that happen? They record the information they're given...

Christ.

@MJMG2015 there a lot of factors to consider, really. For me personally, I’d prefer to use what I’m trained as, even if I’m not currently doing it. I don’t think I would use SAHP even if it was an option, as I hate having my identity being limited to having pushed a couple of kids out.
The problem with ‘housewife’ isn’t anything to do with the role, it’s the outdated notion that a woman is defined by her marital status and whether she stays in the home. It’s everyday sexism and it’s insidious. Even ‘homemaker’ is better than housewife, and I bet that made you wince and think of your gran. Housewife just should not exist as a category.

Whatever gets the best quote that doesn't involve lying.

Would you really pay more to have a nicer title?