When do you stop showing people your upstairs?

[Scrunchcake]

We moved house in January and when family and friends first popped round to visit we "gave them the tour" - pretty normal ime to show people round your new house, including the bedrooms.

Anyway, with lockdown and whatnot we have a few friends who hadn't yet visited us at the new place. One of them is calling in later this week and I've realised I feel a bit weird about showing her round, and I definitely think it would be strange to show her upstairs.

Is that just me? Is there a statute of limitations on "the tour"??

Obviously this is completely lighthearted and I'm relaxed about visitors, just amused that I've realised I have some strict rules in my head about it!

There is a unmistakable sexual element to it.
If it's a date I'll give a tour of the house as, what do you call it? ...suspended disbelief? to get to bedroom.
No one else.

I'm reaching for my coat I really am........

I stopped showing people my upstairs when I got arrested in ASDA.

:)

Not in any of my (fairly extensive) numbers of friendships in several countries, which is why I asked. I’m about to complete on a house purchase at the moment, as is one of my closest friends, but it’s not something either of us particularly talks about, other than an occasion groan I mean, it’s fairly banal stuff, isn’t it? BER ratings and solicitors’ fees? It’s boring when it’s yours, and more so when it’s someone else’s.

And when I had another house purchase fall through just before Covid really hit in March, it was frustrating, but not anything I needed ‘support’ with.

Obviously, horses for courses etc, but I have personally not come across the expectation that people will want to ‘tour’ my house, or expect to give me a tour of theirs, anywhere I’ve lived, and was wondering whether these people were DIY fanatics or something.

Oh I cringe inwardly when people offer to give me “the tour”. I can think of two men who did this recently - they hadn’t recently moved in but it was our first time at their homes. It makes me feel like I’m being taken round by an estate agent and I’m waiting until we’re outside and I can tell DH what I really think.

If it naturally happens in conversation “have you done much work to the house since you moved in?” “Yes, we’ve had the loft done, do you want to see?” that’s ok but asking me if I want a tour is just a showing-off opportunity.

Two of my senior male colleagues have done this; it was the first time I’d visited both houses. One, I’d popped over as I was passing (they live 200 miles away) and the other, I was picking up on the way to the airport for a conference abroad.

It was so uncomfortable when we got to the bedrooms with unmade beds and their wives personal belongings everywhere. I just smiled and made the odd comment about lovely views and period features.