When do you stop showing people your upstairs?

[Scrunchcake]

We moved house in January and when family and friends first popped round to visit we "gave them the tour" - pretty normal ime to show people round your new house, including the bedrooms.

Anyway, with lockdown and whatnot we have a few friends who hadn't yet visited us at the new place. One of them is calling in later this week and I've realised I feel a bit weird about showing her round, and I definitely think it would be strange to show her upstairs.

Is that just me? Is there a statute of limitations on "the tour"??

Obviously this is completely lighthearted and I'm relaxed about visitors, just amused that I've realised I have some strict rules in my head about it!

Tour when first move in if close friends or family. Or if you've just done a major project/redecoration. Otherwise no tour.

DS1 is still remembered by a school mum friend for asking for a tour when he first visited their house aged 5

Yes, this has been normal when visiting close friends and family who have recently moved/renovated and when we moved into our new house - even several months later. Love a tour (but I do have dubious class roots).

It was also a thing at my book group because we all live in a new build estate and like to see the differences between our similar houses or how we've furnished/decorated them. Mine is the smallest and least stylish/tidy so I only showed the downstairs but one person did take a look upstairs uninvited!

This reminds me of a half man half biscuit lyric

Weve got the whole world in our house
Weve got the whole wide world in our house
Weve got the whole world in our house
To see the new conservatory

I only showed family round when they visited for the first time.....

I think it's normal to show people round when you move to a new place. After a while (when normal mess has resumed), I avoid it though!

I've had the tour for all of my friends' houses when they moved in! And friends asked to have a nose around here when we bought. I don't think it's weird, they're close friends and I've hung out in their bedrooms anyway when we've been going out etc.

We did the 'tours'. However our house is small and we only have one toilet which is upstairs so really popping to the loo is the tour in itself if the bedroom doors are open!

Dfriend has a huge house and a downstairs loo ( obviously!). She's lived there since I met her.
I always feel a bit weird as I've never been upstairs and find myself pondering what it's like up there.
I'd love a look

If a close friend or family member has moved or renovated it's always been normal to be shown round or to ask to have a look, nothing weird about that.

However I have my entire house posted on insta Genuine question, WHY is it of architectural merit, noteworthy

I started posting pics of renovation work on my “normal” account and ended up with loads of followers so I set up another “house account”.

I like “styling it” and making it look nice and getting feedback from people it’s a bit of a hobby.

It’s not of any significant architectural merit but I think it’s quite nice and so do about 20k others weirdly

Impressive to accumulate that amount of followers
Most Folk do like a house to nosy at

I've never given anyone a tour of the upstairs. I tell people where the bathroom is and that's it. The remaining rooms are private spaces for us all.

I'm American and I feel like it happens much more in the US than the UK. In the US often it's not even when you've recently moved but the first time someone comes to your house.

Yes! I went to NY for work a few years ago and a colleague (not someone I knew at all well) very kindly invited me round for dinner. I’d only been there five minutes when she said, “So, do you want the tour?” and showed me every corner of her 1-bed flat, including inside her closets - she was very proud of all the cunning storage solutions. I found it a bit odd (but also fascinating, as I love looking at other people’s houses).

I have a new friend and she recently gave me the tour of her house. Found it a bit weird tbh. I don't really care?

I'd rather look in people's fridges and pantry than their bedroom, for example

But on the tour you get the whole shebang, cupboard,fridge,Hob, press

Is pantry a cupboard?

@Purpleice

We were invited over specifically to admire a friends’ new patio. They are middle middle class, for reference. It was very nicely done.

I’m not quite sure why but this is hilarious.

It’s the sort of thing that Janet and Roy might include in the annual round robin!

Also of Scottish heritage and I love a tour! I am a nosy git though, I love looking at houses on Rightmove.

I think I've had a tour of all my friends' houses (they have offered). I wouldn't necessarily expect to be shown bedrooms but I do like seeing how other people decorate/furnish their houses. People are often proud of their houses, nothing wrong with showing them off.

As an aside, to a non-Irish person, what's a press?

As an aside, to a non-Irish person, what's a press?
A cupboard.

Press = cupboard

@Kernwogal Scottish folk say press too

I love a tour! I would say after about 10 weeks you stop having them. I've never thought of it as odd before, but I kind of do now that I think about it. Doesn't stop me loving them though!

[quote SentientAndCognisant]@Kernwogal Scottish folk say press too[/quote]
Not my Scottish rellies, but they had all lived down south for many years. Is it regional? They were all from Fife.

Ah okay, maybe regional?
Certainly west coast, central belt. Bits of highlands, Edinburgh
Not familiar with Fife other than holidays

Never done this for anyone other than my own mother (and now adult children). And I've never been offered 'a tour' either. Clearly not popular in my neck of the woods 🤷‍♀️