When do you stop showing people your upstairs?

[Scrunchcake]

We moved house in January and when family and friends first popped round to visit we "gave them the tour" - pretty normal ime to show people round your new house, including the bedrooms.

Anyway, with lockdown and whatnot we have a few friends who hadn't yet visited us at the new place. One of them is calling in later this week and I've realised I feel a bit weird about showing her round, and I definitely think it would be strange to show her upstairs.

Is that just me? Is there a statute of limitations on "the tour"??

Obviously this is completely lighthearted and I'm relaxed about visitors, just amused that I've realised I have some strict rules in my head about it!

We got bathroom & kitchen completely rebuilt, I did the tour
Press were opened and inspected, ohh swing cupboard,
soft drawer closers noted,
oven looked at.
Taps turned on. how is the water pressure
Rewired electrics and new fuse box inspected
..Whole shebang

I’ve been all over, @worriedmama1980 — Galway, Cork City and county, Dingle peninsula, Kilkenny, Clare.

Who do you people socialise with?? So you buy a new house, probably the biggest purchase of your entire lives and your parents/brothers and sisters/ children/ best friends don't even pretend to be interested in it? Rude people! So adult DS is soon to buy his first home. Should I just sit there on my first visit and be sneeringly disinterested if he offers to show me round? Or worse accuse him of being middle class?

@SentientAndCognisant Your friends sounds very, erm, thorough

I never started. However I have relatives who take themselves off for a tour anyway. Busybodies.

It’s perfectly possible to be interested in the fact that someone’s bought a house without needing to examine their built-in wardrobes, though, @janetmendoza.

@janetmendoza Your username is making me a bit teary.

And no, under no circumstances should you be looking round your son's house. How common.

I can see this is divisive topic, it really is the norm and everyone does it
Ive had people take photo of the grouting, query suppliers (in defence they were doing up a house too)

I love having a nose at people's new homes or newly decorated rooms. Don't mind returning the favour either.

Exactly, it’s just the done thing and yes people will directly ask about money,cost
And of course most folk like doing it,and have anecdotes or stories to accompany the tour

I'll have to work out if we are local! Everyone has a nosy around our place as it's old and quirky.

But 100% agree on a new purchase, we've just been to our friends he's all excited about his project so we went to see it and congratulate him on knocking down walls..

But then we have project homes? So an interest, maybe that's the link?

Great thread subject. I love a tour. Amazed that it's just not a thing for some people.

@SentientAndCognisant

Exactly, it’s just the done thing and yes people will directly ask about money,cost And of course most folk like doing it,and have anecdotes or stories to accompany the tour

But about what? Anecdotes about grouting or what the plumber said about installing your freestanding bath?

I keep my pet mice and Giant snails In my bedroom, so I’m desperate to bring all and sundry in to see them!

Quirky little stories, you wouldn’t believe it stories, the budget was x we paid y
Of course, everyone has the banter.

I think when you first move in you're "tour ready" for a while, whilst also having the ready made excuse of "Oh we will be sorting this room out when we are settled, we've just dumped all the boxes/attic stuff/whatever in here"

But when the spare room is still full of boxes 8 months down the line, especially when most of those 8 months were on lockdown, its a bit embarrassing :o

This is why I am a fan of the housewarming party, gets it out of the way in one day and anyone who didnt come.....tough!

"But when the spare room is still full of boxes 8 months down the line, especially when most of those 8 months were on lockdown, its a bit embarrassing"

@PyongyangKipperbang have you been sneaking a look in my spare room??

It’s time limited,unless you’ve redecorated or hard new work
So either I’d say 3mth or if they're never had tour and it’s 1st visit
Obv still going on tour a year later is ripping the piss

I thought everybody did this I've even had somebody test the soft close drawers in my kitchen!

Not upstairs, but I recall in the 80s my mom wallpapered the kitchen and showing off to the neighbours.

They were the first in our family to own their own home and wanted to show it off.

The first one to have a bought house is a big deal

@Scrunchcake

"But when the spare room is still full of boxes 8 months down the line, especially when most of those 8 months were on lockdown, its a bit embarrassing"

@PyongyangKipperbang have you been sneaking a look in my spare room??

Nope, merely projecting my own crapness when I moved. OK so wasnt on lockdown but I wasnt working and the kids were at school all day :o

I’m now imagining half the posters on this thread leading tours of their upstairs, holding up a plastic flower or furled umbrella so as not to lose anyone at the back, with a fund of jolly anecdotes about budgets, grouting and the time you painted the feature wall Farrow and Ball Brinjal and hated it.

You’re not far wrong, it’s common to lose folk,have stragglers who dawdle
I’ve not had anything damaged,but friend her in-laws hoiked a swing cupboard too hard...it swung no more