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Two wedding gowns

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:08

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:09

Second dress:

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:13

It's v. late, I can't sleep, and I need to make a decision soon ( and have the other one dyed/altered to wear on a beach when things return to normal-ish).

Would appreciate any suggestions, as I'm quite devastated of the weekend wedding being impossible now.

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daisypond · 17/08/2020 03:17

What sort of wedding are you having? Where is it taking place? Those dresses look pretty similar to me. The second one is more classic, the first more hippyish.

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Hamm87 · 17/08/2020 03:17

1st dress

Blondie1984 · 17/08/2020 03:18

It’s quite hard to say without knowing what you look like and the photos aren’t great but personally I’d go with the second.
And why not plan a bigger celebration for when restrictions are lifted?

worstwitch18 · 17/08/2020 03:20

I like the bodice of the first dress more.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:21

Yes, they're similar Bc they're from the same designer.

One was with sleeves for the church, and then the tank one with full gown (organza silk) was for the weekend festivities with 150 family and friends at a French chateaux (in a remote area).

We don't want to wait anymore. I'm fairly certain that the restriction will not be lifted anytime soon and partner is not keen on waiting anymore.

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daisypond · 17/08/2020 03:25

Are you still getting married in a church? In which case, you probably need the one that has sleeves.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:25

Better photos of the first one. Is it really hippieish? I'm 5'5, long hair, brunette, blue eyes, regular body (115 pounds),

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:27

Actually, no church anymore. Short reception at a small venue- and meals after.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:28

My train will not be that long in the back- the tailor made it to look more fitting for my body.

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teezletangler · 17/08/2020 03:33

First one. I like the second one, but I love the first.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:33

I'm a total wreck. Will pull myself together once I know that a magical wedding is not most important thing.

I also hate both gowns now.

Correction: I'm almost 9 stones now due to lockdown Weight gain. But I'll shove my new covid body into the dress, no problem.

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Blondie1984 · 17/08/2020 03:35

If you hate both then why not look for something else?

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:36

Friends who were bridesmaids can't even look at me - they can see the tears running down my face, and can't even bear to tell me which dress I should pick. They keep saying I can still wear both, but why bother really? For what?

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:37

@Blondie1984

It's v. Wasteful, dad paid a load for them. Honestly, paid a ton. They're organza silk, handmade, Calais lace from France.

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Blondie1984 · 17/08/2020 03:38

It sounds like you would be better off postponing as the arrangements you are planning for now aren’t what you want

Blondie1984 · 17/08/2020 03:39

Sell them

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:40

@Blondie1984

Partner doesn't want to wait- we planned on having children immediately after. And I'm not waiting anymore.

Which dress should I wear?

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mrbob · 17/08/2020 03:40

I think (with the greatest sympathy for what has happened) you need to chill out. Both the dresses are beautiful. If you want to actually have this wedding then getting so worked up isn’t helping. Take some deep breaths, wear the first dress and remember you will look gorgeous. Lots of things have changed and it is a stressful time but constant tears and misery does not make for a good wedding day. Otherwise postpone. It is a joint decision

mrbob · 17/08/2020 03:40

Oh and I agree. Sell the other one. Make back at least a little money

Honeybeexo · 17/08/2020 03:41

For goodness sake...first world problems much. Sleep on it now if you can’t decide and try them both on again then pick. Maybe donate the spare to a charity shop?

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:41

@mrbob

Thank you. I know I'm being truly ungrateful for having my health, having a job, but I can't stop crying sometimes.

Yet, I agree - I will have to put myself together and see the positives.

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therhubarbbrothers · 17/08/2020 03:41

The first one is by far the nicest.

Whatelsecouldibecalled · 17/08/2020 03:41

Oh @kierawhogives I think this is more than about the dress. It’s so shitty you’ve had your plans ruined. It’s really not fair. I’m so sorry. FWIW I think the first one is really lovely. Hang onto second one and then when all this shit is over (it will be over!!!!) then have a party and wear the second one.

It’s complete reasonable to feel so upset about this. I’m really sorry. Unmumsnetty hugs

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