Two wedding gowns

[kierawhogives]

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

Here are the pics

They are both beautiful... I didn’t wear a wedding dress at my wedding and it’s the one thing I would change if I could... my advise, wear whichever one feels more like a wedding dress to you (my vote is number 1) and you can save number 2 for a big party when all this chaos is over x

Number 1 is beautiful. I hope you have a wonderful wedding.

Wear the first one and the second one at the big party you’ll have to celebrate when all this is over.

FIRST!

Wear both....one for the ceremony and one for the meal after.

Wear the one with the longest train for the ceremony.

No 1 is by far the best imo.

First one for me

I think you should wear the first one. It’s absolutely beautiful ,and not something you could ever wear again. As pp have said the second one could be saved and possibly used at a later date. Why don’t you have a big party when aall this is over and use ittgen

Could you try them on with dad and ask him to chose?

The first one.

Both lovely, the second one is easier to wear on a beach or other occasion and will dye better. For that reason alone wear the first lovely dress for your wedding and dye the second lovely dress to wear another time!

You need to take a deep breath and a step back.

First dress is beautiful.
It can be 'country churchyard' or more formal it can be styled to whatever type of wedding you choose. Second dress is also beautiful but not my personal taste.

All I can tell you is this is your wedding day ..enjoy!
All the things that are stressing you now will fade away on the day.
What is important is you, your partner, and your families.
No matter how disappointed you are about not getting the wedding you planned for, believe me, it will be a fabulous, joyous occasion.

Any doubts about your dress would be insignificant if something happened to your father before he got to walk you down the aisle.

So 'buckle up buttercup' and get on with your wedding.

Hi OP. You sound in a real tizz. Both dresses are beautiful, I prefer the first and love the idea of the second being used for the christening. Alternatively save it for a big party when all this is over. Have it made short and use the spare material for a christening gown?

As for everything else - a small wedding is perfect for your circumstances. You will be able to be closer to your dad than at a large one. Take care of yourself and think about the positives

I would consider wearing both. They were a gift from your father, you've said that you won't ever part with them as a reminder of your DF, you have decided to go ahead with the wedding rather than postpone because of your DF's ill health. Wouldn't you like your DF to see you wearing both of them and have photos of you together wearing both dresses?

If you do decide to just wear one, I think the first dress is the most timeless, classic style of the two. It also has a simplicity that would suit a smaller wedding. I also think it would lose some of its elegance if you dyed it. It is a beautiful wedding dress but would work less well as an evening dress. It would probably be quite lovely dyed as a dress for a christening with the rest of the fabric used to make a christening gown but, in comparison, the second dress would make a stunning ball gown. It would be perfect if you decide to renew your vows and/or have a big party to celebrate you marriage in the future.

PP's suggestion that you let your DF choose is also a lovely idea. It would have even more significance then.

First one 100%

I really like the first one, which designer are they by?

Oh OP 💓

You have had an awful year...three of my friends, and one family member are in the same position as you and have had their wedding plans cancelled this year. In fact one had hers cancelled just 4 days before the day, right at the beginning of lockdown! That was truly awful for her.

Both dresses are stunning...you do know this, in your heart. It's your state of mind now, your disappointment at everything that has happened, that is colouring your view on them.

For a small, intimate wedding, I'd personally pick dress 2, as it is much less formal (but equally beautiful and elegant). However, only you can decide which one you want, and it doesn't matter a jot! You'll look amazing in either.

Much love to you, and congratulations on your upcoming day...enjoy every second 💓

I would pick the first one.

1st dress is so pretty! Not a huge fan of the second, looks a bit too relaxed unless you're having a beachy ceremony.

They are both lovely. Personally I like the second more but love the idea of keeping it until 10th anniversary party as the first seems more bridal.

Could you post a picture of you in both? Then we could give you the very best opinion.

Hard to properly judge the first dress because somehow, four photos in, there's still not a shot showing the front properly - still no idea what the actual front/bust area looks like!!!

I prefer the second because it's less fussy - I like the plain material. But it's also less 'weddingy' - and the first one is also good, most people seem to prefer it so it's probably the better choice.

Also, second one will take to dyeing/reuse better. It would make an amazing evening gown, the first will always be a wedding dress.

Go with the first!

Both are classic styles though, both lovely, and neither will date.

Wear the first, it is beautiful and more bridal than the second, love the idea of wearing it for your 10th anniversary. Take sometime to try and relax and come to terms with your dads illness, think about your wedding as a special thing for you and partner not as a rush job based on you dad. Try and separate the two things, enjoy your day and then deal with your dads illness. You will look beautiful in the dress.

They are both gorgeous.

First one is more church/ceremony formal.

The second is more after ceremony/reception.

So, I would wear the first one, especially as it has long sleeves and you say the wedding will be in winter.

Sorry to hear about your dad, I am sure the wedding will be lovely even under these trying circumstances..