Two wedding gowns

[kierawhogives]

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

Here are the pics

The first one is much more bridal. Wear that one.

The first one is gorgeous. Don't feel you need something more plain because it's not a big day anymore

Oh for heavens sake - just pick a dress and count your blessings.

I like the first one, not keen on the second

You're nowhere near fat at those dimensions op.

The first dress is gorgeous. I would definitely choose that for your wedding, very timeless but still very weddingy. The second one doesn't look like a wedding dress to me really, id wear that for an anniversary party or something. I don't think you could really do it the other way around. Well actually i wouldn't wear it at all because i actually am fat! I think you've got so much on your plate you're completely stressed out and panicked... Understandable. But whichever dress you choose, you will look beautiful and either one it's a dress your dad bought for you so there really isn't a wrong choice here. It's not the wedding you would have chosen but you'll still be married at the end of it with the most important people there with you.

Oh for heavens sake - just pick a dress and count your blessings.

Don't be a dick. Her dad is seriously ill.

@GoshHashana

Oh for heavens sake - just pick a dress and count your blessings.

Did you read the bit about OP’s Dad being unwell?

OP-the first dress is beautiful and timeless. The second dress is also lovely but I think you could wear it for a christening as you’re planning on children or as a first anniversary dress.

Sorry your Dad is unwell and feeling sad about how your wedding has been affected is perfectly reasonable.

[quote kierawhogives]@Blondie1984

Partner doesn't want to wait- we planned on having children immediately after. And I'm not waiting anymore.

Which dress should I wear? [/quote]
Its not required to get married before you have children.. we didn't!

@daisypond

As for fitting into the dress on the day, focus now on good nutrition, reasonable portion sizes and exercise. Maybe look at an intermittent diet and HIIT exercise for the lead up to your wedding date. Or just good foundation wear!

What the hell...?! Why on earth would you say that?

This. She's only just in the healthy range according to BMI (I know, blunt instrument etc but whatever) and she's being told to lose weight? To fit into a dress? What?

Oh, and it's a dress you'll wear for a few hours. You're going to be married for decades, in theory. Calm down.

I'm sorry you're feeling this way op and I'm sorry about your dad too. The first dress it utterly gorgeous and very bridal so you couldn't really keep that for another occasion so I'd pick the first

I really hope the people being arse holes are feeling good about themselves. Sanctimonious bunch of dicks.

I feel like you need to take a moment and breathe deeply. There's a lot more to unpick here than which dress is nicer. You're worried about your dad, your weight is obviously bothering you (it shouldn't - 9 stone is fine!), it sounds like your mum is putting pressure on you to have the wedding ASAP, you're anxious about your age for having children, and you have the added burden of covid restrictions and the disappointment of your plans changing. That is a lot to deal with! The dress is just coming to represent all these negative feelings. But as long as you and your DP are still excited to be together, you can still create a brand new and just as beautiful wedding despite everything. Which dress is your dad's favourite? Enjoy your lovely day, and make your dad proud 😘

A wedding is special no matter whether it lasts all weekend or a few hours

What about the marriage? Hopefully that lasts for the rest if your lives and surely that's the important bit?

1st one is much nicer , this is the one I would choose

Didn't mean to sound sanctimonious, I just meant that your marriage is the thing to focus on op. And I am sorry about your father

That first dress is stunning. I would wear that one

1st one

Another vote for the first dress - absolutely beautiful!

And focus on what is important here- marrying the man you love, with your dad by your side, then starting a family. That's what matters, not a fancy chateau or an expensive dress.

Wear the first dress. Save the second one for your ten year anniversary or maybe keep it for your daughter as an heirloom?

I know it's all very sad and not what you wanted but if you just pick a dress and a date you'll have your lovely dad there, can get shagging ASAP and hopefully he'll also get to meet his grandchild!

Wear the first one and keep the second one for a renewal or a blessing later in when you have your baby.

But saying that I don't think the dress is the issue, I think you need to have a look at your mental health as a priority

First dress, far far more timeless, plus your parents prefer the sleeves, you’ve mentioned it a fair few times so it seems important to you.

The second dress is much more adaptable for a future celebration.

Wishing you the best. What a bloody horrible year we’re having.

First dress is far more bridal and the one you got for your Dad so wear that.

You are certainly not "fat", you are usually hovering around the just not underweight area for your height.

I hope your Dad improves

I love them both but I'd wear the first one. It's magical.

1st dress