Two wedding gowns

[kierawhogives]

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

Here are the pics

Nobody here can tell you which to wear - they’re both nice, but it’s a choice you have to make yourself

@Whatelsecouldibecalled

This is so much more than about a dress. I can't help feel robbed of my day. But we want to start a family soon- as I'm not that young. And I'm just gutted.

Are you sure getting married is what you want ?

I’m still mystified why you would have two dresses. Anyway, leaving that aside, if you don’t have to have sleeves, I like the second one more. Can you return one?

@daisypond it's a long story. Sleeves for mum and dad for church, and the sleeveless for me at the beach/chateaux.

I cannot return one- dad paid for them a year ago.

Oh, I do feel for you. Such a lot has had to be put on hold. They are both stunning dresses.
How do you feel about postponing? Or is there a middle ground where you do a quick register office job to formalise your relationship and have the wedding celebrations you’d planned further down the line, with everyone there?

No, we are wanting to start having children soon. I'm not that young- I'm 38.

But of course we don’t know what they look like on you. They are both nice.

I think the first one is lovely and I like the sleeves.

The better question is: which dress looks more timeless? Please don't say neither.

@daisypond

They look the same on me. They're from the same designer- I look fine in both. Which one is more timeless?

In which case I think you need to fall back in love with one of the dresses. They are both gorgeous. I love the second for a more casual occasion.
What time of year will it be?
You could have the other dress made into a christening gown and maybe even a dress for you to wear on that occasion, that way it still holds some meaning.

Ir will be a winter wedding with a overcoat I didn't plan for.

So, if I say you have no choice and you have to wear the second one, how does that make you feel, in your gut? If you feel a bit sad, then pick the first one. If you feel a bit relieved, pick the second one.

I tried both on- I love them. But have been staring at them too long that sometimes I hate them?

@daisypond

It makes me feel gutted to choose. But the first one is fine at this time. Who cares anymore anyway?

@daisypond what I mean is I care. I can't choose, bc they were for a weekend wedding.

They're both v. Dressy- the sleeveless one is v. Intricate with lace and gigantic flowing skirt.

I’m suggesting you approach it as if there is no choice. You are told you have to wear the second one. Your feelings should make it clearer which one you really want - once you are told you cannot choose.

Yes. One will be made for another occasion - tho not a wedding. The second one seems more appropriate for a non wedding type event like a christening or our 10th yr anniversary.

@daisypond

That makes life a little easier. Thank you!

A wedding is special no matter whether it lasts all weekend or a few hours. Which one will you feel the most special in? My favourite is the first, but go with the one you can enjoy yourself in the most as you'll still have a lovely time

@4amWitchingHour

Mum likes the sleeves more, she likes lace. I do too.

I feel the big skirt is more princess type of a gown.

I honestly don't know. I am trying to make the most of what we are doing, or trying my best.

I prefer the first one.

Forget about the wedding you might have had if a global pandemic killing hundreds of thousands hadn't struck. Concentrate on enjoying the celebration you will have and the marriage that follows it.

Sell the second dress to someone who wouldn't otherwise be able to afford such an exquisite gown and revel in the fact that you've brought joy to a stranger.

@Tavannach

We just found out dad is not well. I don't want to sell the dresses he gifted me. Ever. He means the world to me and I am doing a small wedding soon so that he can be there to walk me down.

This is not all about the dress or just the wedding. I realise the death of covid is alarming and sad. But dad isn't doing great and I am worried he may not be here if we wait. It's just been a shit year.

@kierawhogives

Firstly give yourself a shake (or in MN-speak "give your head a wobble"). Take a deep breath as things could be MUCH worse. Are all the people you love - including your father who paid for these lovely dresses still well and reasonably happy? Excellent!!

Both dresses are absolutely beautiful- you have great taste and have chosen a wonderful designer. I think the first dress for the wedding (and keep it safe in case you have a future daughter who might want to wear it). The second dress is so lovely - would it dye well so you could use it for another very special event? And, of course, something to look forward to - maybe with all those people you wanted at your first event.

As for fitting into the dress on the day, focus now on good nutrition, reasonable portion sizes and exercise. Maybe look at an intermittent diet and HIIT exercise for the lead up to your wedding date. Or just good foundation wear! 😁

Whichever dress you wear just enjoy your day as much as you can with those you are with you on the day. 🌹