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Two wedding gowns

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 03:08

I tragically have two wedding dress- due to having a weekend wedding being revised for a covid wedding.

I cannot pick one. It's been in my closet for a year- and as plans have changed, I don't think I can wear both now due to having a small, short wedding.

Which dress do you think I should wear? Some friends are telling me to still wear both- i just can't be bothered, really.

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Two wedding gowns
Two wedding gowns
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ARoseInHarlem · 17/08/2020 04:21

The first one can’t be worn to anything other than a wedding with you as the bride.

The second one can be altered or worn as is or dyed for another occasion.

If you have a small quiet wedding now, have your kids, emerge age 48 and go for a 10-year anniversary blow out party, the second one would actually be beautiful. Age appropriate, not bridal, not fashionable - just stylish and beautiful.

daisypond · 17/08/2020 04:22

As for fitting into the dress on the day, focus now on good nutrition, reasonable portion sizes and exercise. Maybe look at an intermittent diet and HIIT exercise for the lead up to your wedding date. Or just good foundation wear!

What the hell...?! Why on earth would you say that?

Happynow001 · 17/08/2020 04:24

@daisypond

As for fitting into the dress on the day, focus now on good nutrition, reasonable portion sizes and exercise. Maybe look at an intermittent diet and HIIT exercise for the lead up to your wedding date. Or just good foundation wear!

What the hell...?! Why on earth would you say that?

"Correction: I'm almost 9 stones now due to lockdown Weight gain. But I'll shove my new covid body into the dress, no problem."

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 04:26

@ARoseInHarlem

You're incredibly helpful! I'll save the second one for when I'm 48 and celebrate the anniversary with my husband and children!

Mum wants me to pick a date soon - she is worried about dads health. It's been stressful, but thank you for your input. Your advice is practical since I will not be selling the dresses from my dad.

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AgentProvocateur · 17/08/2020 04:26

They’re both beautiful, but I think you should wear the first one.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 04:28

@daisypond because I'm fat now, or too fat for the dress! It's my fault really, I've been locked down, eating unhealthy, not exercising at all.

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therhubarbbrothers · 17/08/2020 04:29

@kierawhogives

The better question is: which dress looks more timeless? Please don't say neither.
The first one
daisypond · 17/08/2020 04:29

@Happynow001
That was such an incredibly rude thing to say. I’m speechless.

Poppins2016 · 17/08/2020 04:29

Another vote for dress one. It's gorgeous and I feel it has a more timeless/classic look. Save number two for a party/different event!

therhubarbbrothers · 17/08/2020 04:30

[quote kierawhogives]@daisypond because I'm fat now, or too fat for the dress! It's my fault really, I've been locked down, eating unhealthy, not exercising at all. [/quote]
Stop, you are nine stone, you are NOT fat.

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kierawhogives · 17/08/2020 04:30

My dad is not doing well. I feel the need to rush and have a child before he goes.

I'm also fat.

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Poppins2016 · 17/08/2020 04:31

Additional thought, dress one lends itself well to a winter look (sleeves) so that's a further pro... 🙂

Tavannach · 17/08/2020 04:31

@kierawhogives I'm very sorry to hear that.

Wear the first one, store the second as advised by the designer, and try to enjoy your day. The dresses will obviously have more significance than usual, but your father bought them to make you happy. I know it's a tough ask in the circumstances but make that your goal.

I hope your father recovers.

MayDayFightsBack · 17/08/2020 04:34

First one is stunning.

sunshinecounty · 17/08/2020 04:44

First dress is absolutely beautiful.

itshappened · 17/08/2020 04:46

I agree, wear the first one. It's beautiful and has sleeves so should be warmer for the autumnal wedding. You are going to be a stunning bride. You could change into the other dress for the reception or evening though.

It must be so hard changing all your plans for the wedding and you have every right to feel disappointed. But you also need to remember why you are doing this... you love your fiancée, you want to be married to him and start a family, and you want your father to walk you down the aisle and give you away. It will be the most incredible day, I promise. Getting married is so fun but also the chance to make promises and plans for the rest of your lives in front of your closest friends and family. All the fancy details don't really matter. For me it was the best party I could have imagined, but once I held my first baby it really didn't compare in terms of what is important. i now think of it as the first day of the best part of my life, and am so thankful my dad was there to see it, as he was not alive to meet his grandchild a couple of years later.

Your day will be special and you will look beautiful and feel so happy on the day.

Happynow001 · 17/08/2020 04:46

[quote daisypond]@Happynow001
That was such an incredibly rude thing to say. I’m speechless.[/quote]

Perhaps read the OP's own post more carefully...

readingismycardio · 17/08/2020 04:51

OP, 9 stone at 5.5 is not FAT by any stretch of imagination. I really see why you're upset, but a wedding should be about yourself and the one you love. Please put aside all the rest and enjoy it. I love your first dress!

Aridane · 17/08/2020 04:54

Friends who were bridesmaids can't even look at me - they can see the tears running down my face, and can't even bear to tell me which dress I should pick.

I think you need to re read your posts and consider the impact your behaviour is having on others. Both dresses are beautiful

Oh, and at 115lbs, you are not fat

daisypond · 17/08/2020 05:04

@Happynow001
Perhaps you should read the opening post more carefully.
And even if someone does say they have put on some weight, you don’t suddenly give them uncalled for and unasked for “advice” on diet, portion sizes and exercise.

Rainbowqueeen · 17/08/2020 05:08

I adore the first one.

It is so bridal. You sound really stressed with your dads health and just the situation in general.

Can you find some things that while even if they are not what you planned will still make your wedding feel special?? Because it will be. With a smaller group you will be able to spend more time with the people you love most. Focus on creating beautiful memories that you will treasure forever.
I hope you have a wonderful day

ThousandsAreSailing · 17/08/2020 05:11

The first one is beautiful, I'd wear that one

JemimaShore · 17/08/2020 05:12

Oh love, this pandemic has been tough on all of us.

The first dress is beautiful.

You are not fat at 5'5" and 9 stone. No way.

Hope your dad is ok Thanks

VenusStarr · 17/08/2020 06:14

The first one is much prettier, I vote that one.

Sorry you've got a lot of stress right now. The main thing is you're marrying the man you love with your closet loved ones with you. Enjoy your day and live a happy life together.

dottycat123 · 17/08/2020 06:29

The first one is absolutely beautiful, I personally think the second is a bit
plain and ordinary in comparison. The lace is stunning .

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